Does anyone know (maybe) why my friend

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suddenly keeps trying to invite me to her house in the day-time when she knows I work full-time?

I have a friend who I've known about a year now and she has suddenly started pretending she doesn't know I work full-time (week days only usually) and she has been asking me to come to her house like on a Monday morning and when I laughed it off (thought she was just having a laugh) and said 'Oh no I can't silly it's Monday morning , ya daft thing haha' she then asked me the very next day to come to her house in the middle of the day, this time she was a little hurt when i said 'No sorry, i have to crack at work (am in the middle of a serious work issue at that moment which she did know), but she just said please come and that she'd already told her kids I was coming.

I'm so confused, she has ALWAYS known me to work full time in the week since we met.

Has anyone got any clue or previous experience of friend doing this to help me figure as to why this is happening all of a sudden?

My DH says just say no and ignore any pouting just and get on with my work as usual until she asks me to do something more normal (ie not impossible) but I'm now left feeling so confused that she suddenly forgot that I work and also seemed almost put out by it this week.

This is new to this week, she always knew that I worked before, in fact she's looked into a similar line of work and asked me all about the hours and what''s involved etc so no confusion there about when I work.

Although she has text me in work time before but I just get back after work when I've seen it and she's always been happy with that before now.

I must just add, I do like her very much, she is nice and kind and a lovely caring friend. I'm just so confused by this week and wonder if anyone can think why she now thinks I can stop working and just go off to her house instead?

She's completely batshit OP.

Could she have something that she is proud of that she wants to show you in her house but is keeping it as a surprise??

“But the children got dressed up in their party clothes...”

Run.

Go and see her. There’s something wrong.

What's occurring OP?

Someone's been reading the G&S thread

@Shumpalumpa What's the G&S Thread ? Please

The Gavin & Stacey thread, Madd.

'What's occurring?' Is Nessa's line.

You are overthinking it. She doesn’t know for sure what your working hours are and isn’t sure what time to ask you to come. Why don’t you make it easier on her and offer a time you can do?

If you aren’t 9-5 how will she possibly know what times you keep.

@Shumpalumpa Thanks. I've never seen it. but see it's on netflix so will look it up

((((Hug)))

Can you come tmw?
No I’m working
Tuesday?
No I’m working
Wednesday?
No I’m working

You can see why she might be cool with you. What about I can’t do weekdays between x and x but I CAN do

I'm weirded out by her mentioning getting the kids 'dressed up' because you were coming

This is really creepy

OP, your last post may have inadvertently solved your question. Does she and her DH have parents that live close? If they live far away or are dead, could it be that she has, in her head, cast you in the role of a surrogate Gran? It's the age difference and the fact that you have grown children that made me think it may be this.

It would explain why she's dressing up the children, and telling you that they want to see you.

The OP has told her on numerous occasions that she is at work during the day and just can't "pop in", how many bloody times has she to repeat herself before it sinks in.

I really wouldnt go with all that explaining Jux
"Im working" is enough ,not a ton of explainations more sob stories etc
It sounds like she just isnt listening and sounds quite needy.
My DM can be like this-wants something to happen and just doesnt listen and then is "baffled" when I say Im at work.
I always work Mon-Fri and have done for 30 odd years
Plus its always "a shame I cant come"

No follow-up from OP on this thread for nearly a week. Do you think Friendzilla wanted to show her the new half-laid patio?

Confusion like you are describing is a massive sign of a toxic person. Healthy people do not confuse you, and any genuine confusion is easily sorted by one clear communication from the other party. So if you have clearly communicated when you are available, then she is toxic. The whole thing with the children all dressed up is not healthy - doing the obligation and guilt thing big time.

I'd let this one go folks - doesn't look like the OP will be back.

I'm eaten up inside wanting to know the outcome

No update?

Maybe we should organise a search party?

I work from home, and people do take it is a green flag that I can meet up in the day/have their children if they're off school sick/pick up shopping for them. It's so weird, I'm working, yes from home, but working, why is that hard to comprehend?!