to be really p****d off at sahm neighbour upstairs who is making me want to clobber her!!

[itbird]

try to brief - i have ds(2) and DD(10) i go to work five days a week out of the flat by 7.45am, drop ds at cm and dd at school, i come home and elephant woman sahm sunbathing all afternoon, her kids coming in my garden, her drinking wine all afternoon, on benefits that i pay for, then i have the stomping about and screaming kids til at least 9pm!!!i no longer talk to her as i complained and she turned quite nasty and wanted to argue the toss about it on the doorstep, i could complain to landlord about it, if it gets much worse over the summer i probably will, ok calm now that i have got that off my chest!!

erm.....do you secretly live in my wardrobe???!!!!
I have same elephant sahm shouting shrieking chav next door!
Dp is convinced she keeps the fridge upstairs and puts clogs on before she goes to it
She has dd about 18months and ds about 3 and they are up and causing absolute mayhem til all hours, sometimes past midnight and they always play thump thump thump music (eeek i sound old!)
Its so depressing, Dp and i both work in good jobs, we have fell upon our residential hell through circumstances beyond our control - so desperate to move - it really is depressing.
When you get up for work in the morning, turn the speakers of your stereo around to face the walls and play your most annoying cd on full blast...oh and hit the 'continuous replay' button before you leave!!!!

lol, thanks for your empathy, nice to know that i am not alone x

Why do you need both feel the need to emphasise the irrelevant phrase SAHM in your posts rather than just the woman next door?

Crossed posts. Glad i'm not the only one who thought this.

itbird and nixz are you for real?

Yes, I'm a bit saddened by this post. Are you suggesting that because you go to work, you're paying for her to 'stay at home and look after her kids?'

I was brought up in the 70s, and most women stayed home to raise their kids. It was noisy. That's life.

Yes kind of annoying that you think her being a sahm and on benefits is relevant.
If she's a bad neighbour then I sympathise, but thats nothing to do with her being on benefits!

I guess you aren't going to read the rest of this, but I also object to both of you using 'elephant' sahm. This suggests that women who stay at home to look after their kids are lazy, and by dint of your reasoning, also fat.

I can mention it because, as awful as this sounds (i am by no means a snob and have been in some difficult situations myself) but I live on a council estate where the majority of both parents do not work, instead they sit in their gardens and drink and smoke all day long whilst their children are wearing clothes that I have given them. The lady who lives next door pretends she is a single mum whilst her bloke goes out to work, her children do not get dressed all day, I am certain she is selling drugs and she is extremely rude and agressive - and extremely inconsiderate to my family so i do feel cross at times. I also feel cross that she can sah and sell drugs and fiddle the system whilst i have to go to work and probably have less money in my pocket every week - so yes, i am for real.
Just to point out, i have also been a sahm for two years and if i could have more children, i would definately do it again.

Also to point out - i didnt mention anything about the fact that i was paying for her.

That's cool by me, Nixz. That sounds like a nightmare situation, and I apologize for my earlier post.

well in that case report them for benefit fraud. that's wrong and i would also be pissed off that she is claiming benefits she isn't entitled to. as for getting dressed all day neither do me and ds if we aren't going out - saves on washing!

Desdirata -

oh and to the op, is she single? cos in that case there isn't much you can do but be a sahm and claim benefits. i should know. if she has a dp who works it is unlikely that they would actually get many benefits. if both parents stay at home, i hate to say it, but yes it would annoy me cos i don't think there's any need for it. imo if theres 2 parents, both of them don't need to stay at home. either one stays at home, the other works, or you both work part time and do alternating days/shifts if you both feel you need to be at home with your children.

Well, imho, she's not much cop as another if she's drinking wine all day and her kids are running wild. Sounds like she is a sahm because she can't be arsed to get up rather than because she wants to bring up her kids and not work.

I am a SAHM/WAHM and I can't find the time to sit out sunbathing!

Nixz, if you are certain she is dealing drugs then why not report her? I wouldn't want someone who sells drugs living beside me.

Unfortunately, I have no proof. I see lots of lads going to their door, they are spoken to through the window, some things are exchanged and then the lads go.
I just want to move away - they are a nightmare!

Stop being jealous and try to engage the kids into something from the pound shop. Like Drawing or sommat like that. If not, kick hell out of the mother.

can you video camera the dealings going on through window friends of mine did and got the people moved on