Hello!
So to be clear, DD did not tell me about the event, the teacher told me about the event the day after it happened.
Teacher said, although not word for word because my memory is just as flawed as everyone else’s...
“Mrs CluelesslyMommin can I just grab you for a second....
We had an incident where another child showed DD his penis and pulled up her dress, however there is a certain uncertainty as to whether he pulled up her dress or a branch did...(🤦🏻♀️🤷🏼♀️) DD has a tendency to love the limelight and trifle with attention given, in the past DD has chased after boys” (to which I then told teacher I have spoken to DD and told her that it was not appropriate to be chasing after boys when they did not want to be chased. Also this issue was never flagged by the school nor have they ever spoken to me or DD about, it is an issue I picked up on myself and corrected.) DD has not chased boys since, I know this because I have checked with other mothers and they say it has since stopped from DD but is still continuing with other girls.
After speaking to DD she is quite clear about the timeline of events, she was playing with two of her friends, the boys come over, started making fun of girls trying to get them to chase them, girls didn’t, boy then got his willy out and grabbed my daughters dress when she went to tell a teacher and snagged it up on a branch for all to see her panties. Plenty of other children involved, all having been spoken to and dealt with but my DD was the only one to actually have been handled/have her dress pulled up.
Children play silly games and do stupid things, that isn’t the issue here, the issue I have is how badly the school has failed.
Teacher is very old fashioned.
Since spoken to the school and it has been furthered on to school safeguarding officer. Recap training on safeguarding etc is going to be given and investigation into how this was actually able to happen as the children should have been supervised (plenty of lunch time supervisors)
School will be doing session as a whole school on safe body autonomy and what is appropriate/age appropriate sex ed.
The teacher has since apologised for how she handled it and worded it and in hindsight it should have been dealt with differently.
don’t quote me on the above because it’s been such a whirlwind a bit hit and miss about details but school has agreed that something needs to be done
Can’t fault the school or teacher with how they have handled it since I have had a word with them. Just a bot disappointed that this happened in the first place and that it couldn’t have been dealt with correctly from the start rather than trying to ignore it/down play it.
Still feel like DD has been let down because what was said to her can never be taken back, am worried that in her mind it’ll be that she can’t play with or around boys otherwise if they do something to her it’s her fault.
Anyway this has played out for us now and we are now on our way to rectifying it. Thanks for all your comments and support.