School and 'rules' re shorts under dress

[oblada]

Before I take this further quick 'poll'; does your school insist that girls wear shorts under their dress if they want to mess about at break time in a way that could involve someone seeing their knickers? Would you expect a rule like this? My daughter is saying that her school and her after school club have told her off for doing gymnastic 'moves' during break time whilst wearing a dress with no shorts or tights underneath. She says she's been told it's 'rude' because people can see her knickers. She is 6yrs old btw. I think this is completely bonkers and she should be allowed to do as she wish as long as she is not actually showing her 'privates' to people on purpose. Underpants are underpants and are not offensive (to me). Of course I don't know yet how much she has actually been told off, or whether it's peer pressure rather than school so I'll go and ask later. But thought I'd gather some views!

@Bibesia aye ok, whatever you’re right. Carry on telling other women how to be perfect parents and in your ridiculous wee bubble that there are no beasts near schools.

Basically, do what you want. But fuck right off out of my business.

"No, I said that I put shorts on DD because I know there are paedophiles in the local area and her school playground faces the main road."

See the last phrase of my previous post.

And for the record, 50 yards is half a football pitch, so not really that far.

I am of the apparently unusual opinion that it is absolutely no-one's business what a girl wears over her knickers and under her dress.

My child's school sent a letter home insisting that the girls NOT be ALLOWED to wear shorts under their dresses.

The idea that we ought to police girls' underwear shocks me.

Neither knickers, nor shorts over knickers are a problem. Whatever allows a girl to feel comfortable and uninhibited and free to cartwheel is up to that child.

What isn't OK is the sense of entitlement that schools feel they have to police their pants.

SoddingUnicorns, the fact that I choose to discuss your opinions on parenting on a public forum where you have chosen to give those opinions doesn't mean that I care desperately about how you personally choose to parent. You said that the mere possibility of your daughter showing her knickers in the school playground endangered her safety. It's reasonable to ask how.

See the last phrase of my previous post

And?

@Bibesia how many times do you need to ask like? You seem awfully invested in telling other women what to do. And then making out it’s feminism. That’s ironic.

Im just concerned about teachers going up to girls doing handstands in the playground and telling them they need to cover their knickers

Maybe the teacher was being diplomatic. Perhaps the pants weren't doing their job.

We went for these kind of styles:Shorts style
bigger -Knickers

Knickers Boxers Briefs
Boxer briefs

As well as some styled modest shorts, some none black ones as well.

I found school didn’t want to admit some members of staff were commenting and we had peer pressure thrown in. Having options seemed to help her feel happy again.

About this age my dd would have insisted herself on wearing trousers(they have the option) or used to put on pair of shorts herself underneath she said cos others especially the boys tease if they see their knicks. Odd to have a rule about it tho!

A bikini is a fashion choice and severs no practically apart from showing off your body if thats what you chose to wear. No where near the same as flashing knickers etc

How is wearing a bikini different from wearing knickers?

We need these to keep our daughters safe, parents!

Bibesia it's context. People are on a beach to swim/sunbathe among other things, so swimwear is appropiate.
You might just as well say 'why is it OK to wear an open backed nightgown in hospital but not in the office'.

I’m a big fan of skorts like Brownies wear. Look smart, cool in hot weather and no likelihood of girls showing their pants when doing any activities. I think most schools should have them as a uniform option.

There’s nothing wrong with primary age girls showing their pants but I do think potential for teasing might put many off doing certain activities. Skorts avoid that.

I only have a son but no there isn’t that rule at ds’ school.

Skorts are like tankinis: really strange bits of clothing only known to the British.

@letsallhaveanap thanks yes that makes sense. But in honesty it was initially my idea, my daughter now chooses to wear them but it was initially my suggestion so have I unintentionally body shamed her or made her conscious wh she shouldn't be?
Through my own fears am I now making her self conscious? 😢

Girls at DD3's primary have the option to wear skirt, pinafore, trousers, shorts, skort/cullottes, or, in season, gingam dress or playsuit. So plenty of choice to suit all tastes.

Petit Bateau vests and pants are expensive, but I have two dds, so they get handed down and they last for years looking as nice as they did when new. So they work out good value in the end. You can hot wash them, they don’t shrink or get mis-shape over time. I don’t usually buy any other brand as when I have they haven’t lasted. The tardis ones were more expensive but they were a treat to make her laugh as she loves Dr Who, and I was really pleased at the quality, I expected them to be more flimsy. I’m going to get myself a pair ( not with the tardis on... ) I love big pants.

Liz70

I agree, SirVix, PB pants are terrific VFM and they look like new after years and hundreds of washes.

My dd is 5.5 no rule like this at our primary school. There are bars in the adventure playground and the little ones hang upside down and show their pants. Which is completely normal and ok when you are 5! When they get a bit older they stop doing it. Dd1 is 8 she's stopped.

It's not rude it's normal. Little children don't care about showing their pants or they think it's funny.

Is it legal to allow only the boys to wear shorts?

If not, put your DD in shorts anyway.

Yes user1499173678 , I pass them on to a friend’s dd when outgrown as they look as good as new.