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To boast about getting a First?

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TheGlaikitRambler · 19/06/2018 13:00

Found out today that I got a First in my degree. I went back to uni as a mature student with 3 kids and it has been hard work, but I did it.
My DM has asked me not to boast on FB or post about it because it will upset my sisters, who didn't go to uni (didn't mention my brother who also didn't go!). I want to share my hard-won success on there though. I have spoken to my sisters, they all seem happy for me and have no idea what our DM is on about. They were all clever enough to go to uni but for various reasons chose not to.
Would it be unreasonable of me to ignore her request?

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morningtoncrescent62 · 19/06/2018 14:48

Congratulations, OP! That's a brilliant achievement, and you deserve your moment in the sun. I did a degree as the single parent of 2 DCs and I know it's no walk in the park. I hope your FB feed is full of people enjoying your success with you. Your sisters sound great, and I'm sure you're happy about their achievements as they are about yours - that's what makes the world go round.

GirlsBlouse17 · 19/06/2018 14:52

Also, if I was your mum, I'd be so proud of you, I would be posting it all over facebook myself!

BeenThereDone · 19/06/2018 14:52

Go you!!! It's hard work going back, being years older than the rest and with kids to boot. What a great role model for your kids!!
Never mind your mother, jaysus she should be shouting it from the rooftops for you. Post away, you've done amazing and should be very proud of yourself.

Congratulations 🎊

AbsolutelyBeginning · 19/06/2018 14:53

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To boast about getting a First?
KaliforniaDreamz · 19/06/2018 14:54

All these "i got a first and didn't boast about it" purists hahaha

BOAST AWAY! WHY NOT? LIFE IS SHORT X

cptartapp · 19/06/2018 14:55

I got one too, many years ago, still proud.
Very well done.

Fluffyears · 19/06/2018 15:02

If I got a 1st i’d be shouting it to randoms in
the street lol. My brother got a first and really did work so hard on it, he was tearful when he called us. I didn’t go to
Uni and I was pleased for him as he deserved it. He has brains galore and works bloody hard.

LloydColeandtheCoconuts · 19/06/2018 15:03

I say boast away too! My best mate got a first as a single parent and mature student too. I got erm, a lower grade Blush and I was a lazy arsed student with no responsibilities. I always applaud her when she brings it up and certainly don’t see it as boasting. She worked bloody hard - as did you!
Congratulations Flowers

sunshinewithabitofdrizzle · 19/06/2018 15:09

That's fantastic, congratulations. Boast away, it's your fb, you can post anything you like about your own life. Those that are jealous or don't like it can unfollow.

summercat · 19/06/2018 15:29

@TheGlaikitRambler

Well done to you! A FIRST is incredibly hard to achieve, and you should be chuffing proud. Bollocks to anyone saying you shouldn't be boasting.

Why on earth are we made to feel bad for celebrating success?

My daughter got a first, she has completed a masters, and at 26 y.o. has a job in middle management that pays £44K and this is not even in London, it's over 60 miles away! Her B/F has inherited £125K from his grandpa, and they have put £75K of the money down on a house, and are going to NZ and Australia in November. They have have a car each, and have learned German together (in 7-8 months,) and can both play guitar and have written and recorded several (REALLY good) songs. They plan to get married next Spring... Smile

I have not told anyone any of this this, as I fear they will think I am bragging. Especially as amongst the people I know, someone has had their house repossessed, someone has had their son drop out of uni, someone I know has all 3 adult children still living at home, someone I know has adult children who can't get a job (a few won't even try!) and I feel it would be rubbing their nose in it. So I don't tell anyone about my daughter's achievements and good fortune. Sad

All it is though, is my daughter has worked incredibly hard for everything she has and like the OP, she deserves it ALL. And so does her lovely fella! (The inheritance is a nice bonus... but she has worked for everything else...)

I am really chuffed for you OP and think you should be very proud. Especially as you did it whilst raising a family!

NukaColaGirl · 19/06/2018 15:35

Fuck that! Brag away.

I’m about to start Uni with 3DC in tow as a single parent. I’ve just finished my Access Science course with straight Distinctions. Apparently my sister who I’m VLC with has had a huge paddy as she flunked her Access Nursing a few years ago. Funnily enough my whole life doesn’t revolve around her, and I’m entitled to celebrate my success. As are you!

sexnotgender · 19/06/2018 15:38

Boast away! Shout it from the bloody rooftops.
Women are so conditioned to play down our achievements, I got a first too as a mature student with a child and I was over the bloody moon!
Congratulations!!

Hefzi · 19/06/2018 15:38

Congratulations, OP Gin!

Original poster
TheGlaikitRambler · 19/06/2018 15:39

Thank you all, I am feeling quite good about it now after having my DM deflate me earlier. I need to learn that she is never happy for me, and others are. My mum will purposefully ignore my post on FB, she has form for this sort of thing and I never know which of us is unreasonable.
I don't have family nearby to celebrate my graduation, but my kids and my friends will I'm sure.
Well done to everyone on their achievements, inside or outside of uni.

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TheGlaikitRambler · 19/06/2018 15:42

@NukaColaGirl, good luck with your studying! I hope it all goes well for you, you sound like you have made a fantastic start.

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redcarbluecar · 19/06/2018 15:44

Well done! What a brilliant result for you Smile

Hideandgo · 19/06/2018 15:56

I remember checking the results list on the wall and seeing my 1st there. It was genuinely one of the proudest moments of my life. I was thrilled. So pleased for you that you get to feel like that too.

Facebook it. I’d be delighted for any of my friends. There was no Facebook really when I got mine or I’m sure I would have posted something then too.

JadziaSnax · 19/06/2018 16:00

We'll done OP. Definitely take pride in your achievements Flowers

I'm still waiting for my results and if it is a first, I'll be shouting it from the rooftops Wink

DaphneduWarrior · 19/06/2018 16:06

Check out the ImmodestWomen hashtag on twitter.

Congratulations OP. You should be damn proud of yourself FlowersGinCakeFlowers

lynmilne65 · 19/06/2018 16:26

Good for you 🌷🌼

Whipsmart · 19/06/2018 16:58

Congratulations OP Thanks

I'm LOLing at the number of posters who say they wouldn't post about it on FB because that would be boastful... but do manage to mention in the same sentence that they, too, got firsts Grin

DontScareOscarPistorius · 19/06/2018 17:03

Get it posted! Congratulations!

Sunrise888 · 19/06/2018 17:04

Congratulations! Do it! I got a first but in was too shy to put it on fb, but I was very proud and wanted everyone to know.

tilligan · 19/06/2018 17:10

You deserve to feel really proud, boast away!! My partner has a degree, studied whilst working full time, I am immensely proud of him and would be having words with any family members who had a problem with that!

LawDegreeBarbie · 19/06/2018 17:11

Boast away. You absolutely deserve to! Congratulations!! Thanks

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