To boast about getting a First?

[TheGlaikitRambler]

Found out today that I got a First in my degree. I went back to uni as a mature student with 3 kids and it has been hard work, but I did it.
My DM has asked me not to boast on FB or post about it because it will upset my sisters, who didn't go to uni (didn't mention my brother who also didn't go!). I want to share my hard-won success on there though. I have spoken to my sisters, they all seem happy for me and have no idea what our DM is on about. They were all clever enough to go to uni but for various reasons chose not to.
Would it be unreasonable of me to ignore her request?

Its non of your mums business.
Its not your fault your sisters didn't go to uni.

Boast about it!

Well done.

Your siblings will most likely be the first to comment/like with their sincere congratulations on Facebook. That’ll shut your mum up!

Make the lot of them take you out to dinner! You’re a legend!

Ignore her complete and boast your backside off! You've clearly worked really hard and you have every right to be proud of your achievement. Congratulations

Well done and huge congratulations to you
ignore your mum, you have worked very hard, no easy feat with 3 dc, I managed a 2.1 with so much effort it was unbelievable.

I'd be shouting it from the roof tops, you're dm is strange.

boast (verb) to talk with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one's achievements, possessions, or abilities.

Do you really want to boast, or do you want to celebrate? I don't think boasting is ever a good thing but I certainly can see why you'd want to take pride in yourself and celebrate.

I always think it’s rather odd that taking pride in your academics can be a negative in a way other types of pride are roundly encouraged. I wonder if people miss the point that it’s not bragging about natural intelligence but pride in your hard work - hardly anyone gets a first without putting serious effort in.

I vote brag away OP, but as PP said, it might just be easier to exclude them from the status to save unnecessary drama. A shame, though.

Congratulations. I find boasting about anything a bit vulgar tbh. Why can't you just be quietly proud of yourself? Do you really need a load of attention on fb?

I got one, a very long time ago. I'm not sure I told anyone after I left university (my parents were suitably underwhelmed). DP sometimes tells people about my First, and I tell him to put a sock in it. I think you've done brilliantly, but I would be quietly pleased with myself for ever in your shoes, and wouldn't put it on Facebook. Though that is just my own preference, and doesn't mean it would be wrong of you to do it.

Congratulations! And definitely post (and boast) about it if you want. I got a First as a mature student last year and was delighted. Previously, my sister went to university at the regular age and I was so pleased for and proud of her when she graduated - it didn't upset me at all that she had a degree and I didn't.

I agree with the poster who says it is probably more about your DM's feelings than your sisters'.

My brother went to uni but didn't complete his degree. My mum still has my cap and gown picture on the wall in her house though! My success isn't an indictment of his struggle.
She has a really cool picture of him doing something I couldn't do to his standard. It doesn't upset me! Celebrate away!

Be proud but don't boast. It's not a good look.

If the reason for not putting it on FB is that your sisters might be upset, and they are clear that they won't, obviously there is no reason whatsoever to keep it off.

Congratulations!

Blimey boast away! That's a real achievement.
in my circles or at least my dd tells me we boast on our dcs behalf. So lots of so proud of my darling dc, with suitably selected photo by the little darling herself, and tagging in the comments

Fuck that. Post it on Facebook. Be proud of your achievements.

Well done!!!

(From someone who "only" got a 2:1 and can still congratulate other people who did better).

Well done OP. That is amazing

You should be shouting this from the rooftops

Boast away! It's an amazing achievement and you, quite rightly, should be very proud.

Boast about it and be proud. Be proud forever but only boast for a short while.

I didn't boast about my First on FB, but only because it didn't exist then. If it had I'd have totally done it. Be proud of yourself and your achievements.

Ignore and boast away.
If your dsis has never been to uni, nothing is stopping her to donthe sais than you!

Congratulations!!

Assuming that your friends on FB are actually friends, then yes, share it. Surely they would want to know and will be happy for you?

Congratulations OP! Boast away I reckon - you've earned it!

When my daughter got a First I didn't just put it on FB - I actually posted a congratulations notice in the local paper! Her siblings (none of whom had gone to uni at that point) were as proud of her and as thrilled as we were.

Go for it!

Congratulations! But don't boast on Fb. That is very poor form.

'Boasting' has such negative connotations.

But sharing your good news on FB and being damn proud of yourself?! Go for it!

And bloody well done on that First!

For goodness sake! You worked hard so should be proud of what you achieved. I hate this 'keep quiet in case it upsets someone' crap. If they get upset, let them work for it too.