AIBU to not want this SN child in the same class as mine

[PinkyU]

DD is 5 and moving into P2 which will be a composite 3/2 class. I’ve recently found out that a boy with severe challenging and frequently violent behaviour will be in the same class as a P3.

DD also has SN, cognitive, social emotional and physical needs. She is very vulnerable and significantly smaller than this other child. Small knocks and bumps can cause DD significant injuries such as dislocated hip etc. Their will only be 1 teacher and 1 TA in the class which in non negotiable due to staffing.

I’m concerned that not only will this boy take up a lot of teaching time (away from my DD), he is also a substantial physical risk to DD.

AIBU to discuss/request a change of class for this other child as DD cannot be moved to a different class due to her needs?

It sounds like the TA isn't looking forward to the changes next year and is trying to get you wound-up enough to approach the headteacher to get the other child moved, which would suit her quite nicely.

I'd be concerned that having your child with this TA would actually be making your child more vulnerable, as the other child would realise she perceives your child as "hers" in the classroom and that targeting your child would provoke a greater response from her than the same behaviours aimed at any other child.

If your daughter would be at greater risk of harm than other children, e.g. if she is measurably more likely to be targeted, can't move away as quickly or a minor injury would be affect her more seriously than other children, then it would be appropriate ask for HER to be moved to another class, with a TA deployed to take her out of the classroom at set times for her personal care needs. Despite what picture the TA may paint, it is the class teacher, not her, who is responsible for meeting your daughter's cognitive needs.