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To ask, do you/OH wear a wedding ring?

204 replies

HildaZelda · 17/06/2018 19:51

Just curious really.

My rings are gold which was fashionable at the time, but I don't particularly like them now as almost all the rest of my jewellery is silver. (I did look into getting them dipped, but the setting of the stones means it would be very awkward) So whether or not I wear them depends on what else I'm wearing. I do wear them sometimes but it's hit and miss. Probably 50/50 I'd say.
I don't wear them to work or the gym (safety reasons) but will almost always wear them on a night out.

MIL CONSTANTLY comments on it, so much so that I've taken to deliberately NOT wearing them around her, I know it's childish but as far as I'm concerned, it's none of her business anyway.

DH always wears his ring. He's not bothered whether I do or not and if he didn't wear one it wouldn't bother me either.

Just wondering whether people wear them always or whether, like me, they come on and off?

OP posts:
Unsureneighbour · 18/06/2018 12:13

I took mine off when pregnant with my first child and they've never fitted again Sad now I'm completely out of the habit of wearing them. DH wears his all the time.

DereksGotATail · 18/06/2018 12:25

Mine annoyed me so I took it off years ago and never bothered putting it back on. DH wears his all the time and has a big welt in his finger if he removes it as his fingers are all swollen. We've been married 21 years.
I'm the only married person I know who doesn't wear a wedding ring and people often ask if DH minds Hmm

Tunnocks34 · 18/06/2018 12:26

I wear my engagement ring, and when we get married I’ll wear my wedding ring. My wedding ring is a family heirloom and I can’t wait to wear it!

Redgreencoverplant · 18/06/2018 12:28

DH wears his all the time. I take mine off when swimming and showering. I also tend to remove them for part of the day at work as I do a lot of typing, paper sorting etc and they can get in the way. Always wear them when out and about though as I love them :)

TillyTheTiger · 18/06/2018 12:32

DH wears his all the time except for playing sport. I go through phases with mine, when DS was tiny my engagement ring scratched him a couple of times and I felt awful about it so took them off for a while. I also remove them for gardening, gym, swimming and some housework and sometimes forget to put them back on. The only person ever to comment was a lecherous old colleague, I'd broken my finger and couldn't get them on and he asked if that meant I was no longer with my husband, and therefore available for a shag in the stationery cupboard! Urgh!

Swifey · 18/06/2018 12:47

Dh wears his all the time, only takes its off for washing the car! I also wear both of mine all the time, have only taken them off for a scan I had to have. Mine are platinum and diamond, his is a platinum band. We both love wearing them. They make us feel secure and loved. I like to touch and play with mine, and always they make smile. Dh loves wearing his too, and hates taking it off. We don't even take them off at night. We've been married coming up 10 years.

Swifey · 18/06/2018 12:48

*they always make me smile

millymae · 18/06/2018 13:00

Neither of us wear our wedding rings. OH is not a jewellery wearer at all and only agreed to a wedding ring to please me.
My engagement and wedding rings were removed during my first pregnancy and looking at them I cant believe that my finger was ever slim enough to fit wear them. They look tiny.
If I had my time again and money was available I'd choose a really beautiful 'heirloom' wristwatch as an engagement gift as I wear my watch all the time, and if I could get away with not having a wedding band for the ceremony I wouldn't bother. Having a traditional engagement and wedding ring me taught me that I don't like the look of rings on my fingers.

mrsp2009 · 18/06/2018 13:04

I wear my wedding ring all the time. I wear my engagement and eternity rings if I’m going to work or shopping etc but take them off when I’m indoors. My husband wore his wedding ring on our wedding day (10 years ago) and hasn’t worn it since. Don’t even know where it is! He doesn’t like wearing any jewellery anyway plus he works in construction so it would probably have been lost or damaged on site by now anyway

HostaFireAndIce · 18/06/2018 13:15

Yes, we wear our plain gold bands all the time. DH occasionally has his whacked by a hockey ball and can't wear it until he's had a jeweller straighten it out again Confused. I don't often wear my engagement ring.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 19/06/2018 13:03

Should have added that I also tend to wear my engagement and eternity rings 95% of the time. Apart from when I'm in bed or doing something "mucky" my wedding ring is definitely in situ. All my rings are yellow gold although most of my other jewellery is either white gold or silver.

It's never bothered me that DH doesn't have a ring TBH and only a very few people have ever commented on it.

I do break all the Mumsnet rules though..... I am Mrs DHSurname and quite like it when I am called Mrs DHChristianName Surname. But I am nearly 50 and VERY traditional in some ways (but not all). (Strongly dislike being called "Miss" and HATE it if I am called "Ms" but that rarely happens).

Aebj · 19/06/2018 13:10

Both myself and dh wear a ring . When I was engaged I used to take my ring off for work but worn it on a necklace .
I’m actually on my second set of engagement & wedding rings unfortunately. When I was pregnant with ds 2 my fingers swelled so I took my rings off. Stuiply I left them on my bedside table and they were taken when our house was broken into. Thankfully we were insured. I was upset but I was more upset ( and still am ) about my grandmas eternity ring being taken ( money wise was only worth a few £ but to me priceless)

steppedonlego · 19/06/2018 13:40

I’m in health care, and I did wear mine for a while but then once I pulled off a pair of rubber gloves, and as my hands had sweated inside the gloves my ring slipped off inside it. I had to rummage through five bags of clinical waste to find it and unsurprisingly put me off wearing it at work ever again, and I always forget to put it on outside of work. Husband doesn’t wear his as he works with unstable compounds and they’d ruin it.

PirateWeasel · 19/06/2018 14:07

DH doesn't have one. He can't wear it at work so it seemed a bit pointless, as he'd never get used to it or remember to put it on at weekends! I wear a wedding ring and an engagement ring but they're both constantly coming on and off all day as I get eczema under them and need to keep creamed up whenever I wash my hands. Don't wear them in bed either because I kept scramming my cheek on the raised stone!

mrssapphirebright · 19/06/2018 14:08

My dh refuses to take his off. Means a lot to him. I feel naked without mine too but sometimes have to take it off if my excema is playing up. Only wear my engagement ring half the time though as it's very big and fragile and I've always been paranoid of damaging it!

cjferg · 19/06/2018 14:22

Husband always wears his. My fingers are still swollen from pregnancy and I've had mine on a necklace ever since. Unfortunately probably cost more to get it resized than it cost in the first place.

MustBeThursday · 19/06/2018 14:34

We both have them, but I haven't been able to get mine back on after having DD2. Prior to that I wore the wedding ring all the time and the engagement ring most of the time. I wore a substitute ring for a bit but don't bother now. DH usually wears his but sometimes takes it off when gardening etc.

AhhhhThatsBass · 19/06/2018 15:27

Just wondering whether people wear them always or whether, like me, they come on and off?

DH always wears his. I'm like you, sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I have a v expensive Tiffany wedding ring. Which I never wear. I usually throw on a plain "silver" (or metal; who knows) band from Argos which was £17.99. In fact DH was complaining that the Tiffany ring was expensive and also bought him an argos ring which he prefers. (DH has never set foot in argos in his life).

AhhhhThatsBass · 19/06/2018 15:28

*heavy not expensive

Katedotness1963 · 19/06/2018 15:57

When we were first married my husband couldn't wear his ring at work because of safety reasons. Since he left that job the ring has never left his finger. I used to wear mine all the time, then I got fat fingered while pregnant, I rarely wear mine anymore. If I do wear them I have to take them off at night because my fingers swell and it's really uncomfortable and then hard to remove them.

FinallyARainbow · 19/06/2018 17:52

Yes, we both wear ours all the time (I wear engagement, wedding and eternity rings). Only exception for both would be at the gym but even then it's in a pocket then straight back on.

Strokethefurrywall · 19/06/2018 18:32

GorgonLondon Sun 17-Jun-18 19:57:16
No. Neither of us wear a ring.
Don't understand why anyone does tbh.

Come now pet.... is it really that difficult to understand??

From a completely shallow point of view, I wear all three of mine because they're full of big diamonds, very pretty, sparkle like fuck under the lights in my office elevator and go well with my diamond shoes.

From a completely non-shallow point of view, I wear all three of mine because they represent a promise, a union and the birth of my sons.

I don't wear mine in the house because I'm always dealing with the dogs or kids, and I don't wear them to the gym or when I go running/swimming, but for any other purpose when leaving the house, yes they're on.

DH always wears his ring and as far as I know, hasn't ever taken it off. Wouldn't bother me either way.

(Disclaimer: I may or may not have diamond shoes...)

BigDamnHero · 19/06/2018 19:08

I have a lot of sensory issues (autism-related) so tend to take all my rings off late afternoon/early evening and generally remember to put them back on the next morning but not always.

I have my engagement ring, wedding band, a silver ring with an amethyst that DH bought me the first Christmas we were together when I was 16 and my grandma's engagement ring. I wear them all every day but as well as overnight, I also take them off for showers, food prep etc.

DH never takes his wedding ring off as it's really tight. This was intentional as he lost his engagement ring when it slipped off so he wanted one that would never fall off. It's not traditional, though, as he does a lot of weights, metalwork, woodwork etc. so wanted something incredibly durable. His ring is tungsten.

GorgonLondon · 19/06/2018 23:02

@Strokethefurrywall

Come now pet.... is it really that difficult to understand??

Dunno why you're calling me 'pet', but your answer does nothing to explain it tbh.

I wouldn't want to walk around with thousands of pounds there for the nicking on my hands, and I'm not interested in what anyone else thinks about my marital or parental status.

BlondeB83 · 19/06/2018 23:15

We both wear ours always, we love them!