AIBU - Hen Weekend and 12 week old?

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NC for this as potentially outing if other "hens" are on here.
Been invited to a friend's Hen Weekend - scheduled to take place when my first DC will be about 12 weeks old.
Mechanisms in place meaning I can go (supportive DH and family nearby to help him should he get overwhelmed!), but trying to figure out if I will want to leave my baby for a whole weekend at that stage.
More info to avoid dripfeeding:
-will be away Fri PM to Sun PM
-will be trying to EBF (so that's a lot of expressing to do in advance!!)
-about 130 miles away (so just over a 2 hour drive I reckon)
-will need to share a room, likely with multiple people some of whom I may not know (and if EBF goes to plan will need to express several times while away)
-cost is in the region of £250 and funds will be tight with the new baby
-doesn't seem like going (and only paying) for one night will be an option from chatting to Hen
-just been told deposits due in 2 days time so need to make a decision

Have suggested to Hen (I may be a CF here so feel free to tell me if I am) perhaps we can assume I am not going but then nearer the time if I find that it is something I'm comfortable with I will come with the cash to divide between the Hens or whatever (from the size of the place space shouldn't be an issue but similarly i wouldn't mind if my 'space' was given away because I couldn't commit). Obviously this solution is ideal for me but I understand if she wants me to commit ££ up front like everyone else. She's said she'll think about it.

Sorry about the essay - can anyone tell me how they'd have felt about leaving a baby at that age under these circumstances? Am I being a CF in my above suggestion? Thank you!

A good friend will understand if you can’t go, and it’s okay to say no. (Haven’t read the full thread!)

I couldn’t leave my lo at that age. I rarely leave my 4 year old. But Indo occasionally and it’s for time for the 2 of us. I’ve only left my 5 month old twice - once for an hour (as in the two of us!) and the other for 4 hours.

I’m not a massive fan of hen parties anyway, and I tend to avoid as I hate the pressure of the full weekend thing nowadays. But if you’re not comfortable, it’s okay to say no and suggest a night out just the two of you and closer to home

Nope, i’d not have gone when any of mine were that young. BFing would have been why, but tbh, I wouldn’t have been arsed with the hassle of it all with a new baby at home!

My DD's DP persuaded her to go on a three day break, out of the UK at about that age, she was EBF.

She had no problem pumping enough, not everyone has issues with BF, but a lot do with pumping. She sobbed after two hours, but they were already on the plane. she came back saying that it wasn't worth it.

I'd had my GD overnight from about six weeks old, but two days was just that bit too much.

You don't know if you'll even manage to catch up on sleep, which would make it tempting.

Oh it’s a tough one still haven’t felt comfortable enough to leave my 10 month old overnight. It’s so hard for you to know though until your at that stage. If I were you I wouldn’t commit if you can’t afford to loose the money but if you do decide to go enjoy it and don’t feel guilty

You’ve done the right thing, DS2 is 14 weeks , ebf, and I wouldn’t leave him for any length of time. If someone suggested a weekend away I’d probably laugh!!

I couldn't and wouldn't have done this with either of my dc. Both EBF and I was no good at expressing. Also not remotely in an emotional place where I could have left them.