My partner is divorced. He has access to his son 2 days every week midweek, and every third weekend. His son lives and goes to school 18 miles away, mostly motorway driving which in morning rush hour traffic can take 30+ minutes each way. DP doesn't drive, meaning it's left to me to get his son to and from school on his access days when he comes to stay with us, as his mum point blank refuses to do any of the drop offs or collections. It works out 7 X 18 mile trips on the days we have him, I also collect and drop him on the weekends we have him. We've now just been informed that on one of those access days, his son has signed up to a sport near his primary address which means training is every week from 7-8pm, meaning I'll have to go there and wait for him to finish. Making it 9 X 18 mile trips per week, with an hour of sitting in my car waiting.
I have 2 young children myself, and tbh the whole thing at times is a logistical nightmare. DP has worked his rotas so that he is off work for these access days and stays behind of a morning/afternoon to get mine ready for or collect from school, and I usually take mine to school as soon as I'm back from taking DPs son. The whole thing on a school morning is a mad rush against time.
DP knows I'm not happy with it, the cost of it at times is ridiculous, but as his ex just simply refuses to he feels there's nothing much we can do else he doesn't see his son which is why I do it.
I suppose I just need a reality check? Is this fair or AIBU for resenting this at times? Yesterday was mental traffic wise and as we get into there town I was driving behind his mum who was taking his older sister to college around the corner from their home which just gave me the fucking rage. I don't expect her to drive here of a morning to take him to school but she finishes work by 2pm, so a drop off here and there would be very bloody welcomed. So give it to me MN Jury, do I need to suck this up or would I be justified in trying to come to some sort of alternative arrangement?