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AIBU to be upset about a facebook group

637 replies

Scienceawarenaturalparent · 13/06/2018 18:54

AIBU staying in a facebook group?

I have had a quick name change!

I'm a member of a large facebook group for natural parents who are also science aware. This group has been a fantastic resource and support network but its all gone wrong. The people running the page all have their own issues and are ganging up on other members for what seems like no reason.

I have thought long and hard about leaving the group because it seems like playground bullying but i just cant seem to do it.

They are great when you need your hand holding and will help you with any problem you could think of. They have a fantastic support network of Nutella addicts and people with difficulties like ADHD and depression I'm not sure there there is a better community.

BUT posting in it can be like stepping onto a nest of vipers. People having mental health problems can be kicked out for no good reason OR supported with people being sent round to check on them or taxis being called and paid for by the group when fleeing a husband. It just depends if you are in with the right crowd or not.

There are many LGBTQ members and there are a lot who are in relationships or who have experimented with eachother and this is causing tension on the group.

I cant seem to leave but i can't seem to stay and I don't even know these people in real life.

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CuntsNotCult · 13/06/2018 23:12

went from science advice to consumer advice to soap opera

admin quick to say they give their time for free. But they manage to crowd fund enough from members for tatoos and holidays abroad

sounds like it's now like love island but using Jeremy Kyle rejects

CaitlynsCat · 13/06/2018 23:13

How do you respond to your vegan child when they tell you they've "cheated"?

This morning I made DD, 6 😢😭 she's currently on holidays with her grandparents & this morning over Skype she proceeded to tell me she's eaten 3 eggs & "cow milk" ice cream 😠 I didn't know how to respond other than disappointed ... mainly because I had specifically spoken about her vegan requirements before she went and clarified because she's so little she'll need help with knowing what she can and cannot eat. And then I got a tad upset when my daughter proceeded to tell me it's ok she ate the eggs because they were from "happy farms" 😠 SO ANGRY on the inside! and as a reactive result my husband and I sat there giving as gentle a lecture as he could all about our family values and reminded her why SHE CHOOSES to be vegan everyday and we don't believe in "happy farms". Then she cried because she saw we were upset and disappointed 😢😧😧 and I've spent all day over feeling guilty about totally fucking up that situation and making her so upset. She's been hardcore vegan for years, by choice. We never forced it. I just don't know what I should have done....if an adult she loves says it's ok, of course she'll get confused.

I'm not even upset with her I'm just mad over the whole situation and the end result 😠

Anyone else dealt with similar hurdles?

Spudlet · 13/06/2018 23:13

What about it?

WickedLazy · 13/06/2018 23:13

I haven't rtft yet but...

"They have a fantastic support network of Nutella addicts"

I couldn't take anything you said after that seriously. Sorry! laughs inappropriately

MadeleineMaxwell · 13/06/2018 23:14

It should know nothing of the mighty deeps, if you must know.

TornFromTheInside · 13/06/2018 23:15

Speaking of Vegans, I miss Leonard Nimoy

Spudlet · 13/06/2018 23:15

Oh, I think you want the Elucidated Brethren of the Ebon Sleep Trainers. They're on Twitter.

TornFromTheInside · 13/06/2018 23:15

Nutella addiction is not something to be taken lightly.
It's spreading across the nation.

niugboo · 13/06/2018 23:16

Ah yes mustn’t forget the “FUCK I can’t pay my rent oooh tattoo” fund.

Apparently there’s an offshoot sex group but not accessed that because, well the members are not to my taste.

Haffiana · 13/06/2018 23:16

Are all natural parents complete and utter cunts? All the ones posting on here are - is this usual?

PintOfMineralWater · 13/06/2018 23:16

Is there a leader? Is he a very fertile man? Does he wear a robe?

Grin

I want to join a cult! I'm sick of running the house/our lives, I'd love someone telling me what to do.

Spudlet · 13/06/2018 23:17

Not unless we can get the jar off your face, torn. [fetches the big plunger]

TornFromTheInside · 13/06/2018 23:17

What sort of offshoots are they having sex with? is that legal? Is it a root vegetable thing?

MadeleineMaxwell · 13/06/2018 23:17

Grin @Spudlet

Not without my salty sandals!

TornFromTheInside · 13/06/2018 23:18

I'm adopted, so no natural parents. Does that mean I can have a burger now?

aviculara · 13/06/2018 23:19

I've been it it for years. It's not changed at all. Lots of new folks keep demanding attention and having tantrums about admin doing adminning tho, that's new. Just flounce Vicky/Barbara/whoever. You don't fit. It's a community of like minded people. If you don't fit them why you in it?

niugboo · 13/06/2018 23:20

How had no one mentioned the live hair threads??

TornFromTheInside · 13/06/2018 23:20

Nutella addicts are lick minded people.
There's a difference. True members would know this.

UsedtobeFeckless · 13/06/2018 23:20

HQ! Please delete this madness - l need to go to bed ...

KittyHawke80 · 13/06/2018 23:20

This is comfortably my best ever thread on MN. Every time I think my own MH might be theoretical at best, I shall need only to recall SANP to realize that I am in fact the poster girl for sanity, in comparison.

OkMaybeNot · 13/06/2018 23:21

Apparently there’s an offshoot sex group but not accessed that because, well the members are not to my taste.

I'm not saying you should join it for the purposes of this thread, but I'm also not not saying that. Ya get me.

KittyHawke80 · 13/06/2018 23:21

Fear the OP may have gone the way of Jimmy Hoffa . . .

niugboo · 13/06/2018 23:21

@aviculara it’s unrecognisable from set up days. Went to shit about two years ago.

April241 · 13/06/2018 23:22

What.
Is.
Going.
On.

niugboo · 13/06/2018 23:23

@okmaybenot I value my eyes. Not joining that.