nursery sending back clothes like this?

[MrsMotherHen]

My daughter goes to nursery shes just turned one so needs feeding still unless it's finger food.

She always comes back with her clothes in a bag absolutely rotten now am all for kids getting messy and having fun. Although this is food mess were she should have had a bib on, its always the same and always something near impossible to get out! Thank god for vanish gold!

Now at almost £40 a day I shouldn't have to provide a bib surely they have never mentioned bringing one?

I have been sending her in in and 2nd hand stuff but even after one wear most of the time its wrecked its just so wasteful to bin clothes shes not had much wear out off.

This was todays clothes....how an earth has she got orange food stains on her knees! The paint I don't mind that's normal nursery mess but the food stains are starting to annoy me?

Should I bring it up next session? Is this normal? My son came home immaculate at this age but it was a different nursery.
AIBU??

my nursery sell a little uniform.... i have got my daughter that and just wash it and thr stain dont come out but watever. Maybe c if ur nursery sell on will save her good stuff

I've worked in nurseries and we always used bibs and also if they did get stained we give them a quick rinse as it's easier to wash when home. So this to bugs me. But I don't send her in clothes that I really like. Getting messy doesn't bother me but leaving a stain to completey dry does because we never did it at the nurseries I've worked.

I work in a nursery baby room. We use decent long sleeved bibs and aprons, or a particularly messy activity we might strip them down to their nappies, they wear all in one waterproofs outside of it's wet.... They still tend to go home mucky! It's not like we aim to stain their clothes, we do try to keep them relatively clean but honestly, unless we were to avoid anything even slightly messy, never go outside, and never let them learn to feed themselves... It's impossible!

I’d be pleased if mine came home looking like that! Honestly that’s nothing. It IS annoying but I try to avoid sending her in anything decent as I know it will be wrecked.

Had the same problem with my grandaughter and I was buying all her clothes an washing them. Fed up with the food stains so I ended up sending her to nursery in the stained clothes. Didn't like to but it got too expensive to keep replacing them and I kept her non stained clothes for all the other days.

I can't actually believe your post! This is perfectly normal! Since when did you have babies/very young toddlers who could wear their clothes two days in a row? Do you HAVE a washing machine?? Can you USE it? Good grief nurseries and child-care organisations have enough to contend with, without a mum upset that her youngster has come home in a perfectly "normal" state with very slightly soiled clothes. I would be more worried if my "pristinely presented child" came home in the same condition after hours away from me, because that would mean she had been pinned into a chair all day, and heaven forbid, she had been allowed to try to feed herself. I can't believe you wasted your time taking those pictures, and producing them ?? What on earth?

I can't keep a toddler clean all day (obviously not left wet or unhygienic) so I don't expect nursery to either. I just wouldn't send her in her best stuff.
However you could ask if the need you to send a bib for meal times? This might get the message across!

If I was paying less than £40 a day I’d have so much extra cash I could just bin the clothes each day and buy new ones!
It’s pretty normal, even with bibs.

My nursery doesn’t provide bibs...where would they wash them? I was asked if I want DS to wear them I provide.

Both my kids would come home in a right state from nursery. Clothes covered in food, paint, sand... When DS1 started pre-school, I couldn’t believe the difference. Clean every night. The thing is, he was doing all the stuff that he did at nursery. However, the school made sure he was covered properly. Excactly the same happened with DS2. However, he wore DS1’s old clothes at nursery so I wasn’t so fussed about him ruining them.

God imagine trying to get bibs on 20 one year olds and then keep it on them!

Washing up liquid on the stains before they go in the wash has always got mostly everything out for me.

Annoying but it happens.

I am amazed at the clothes some people send their kids to nursery in. I once saw a girl in a white designer type skirt. They probably had bolognese that day.

I'm afraid I don't have much sympathy OP. For nursery mine did/do old clothes, hand me downs and second hand. If any clothes for nursery are bought first hand, I buy cheap as poss in darker colours.

@lily2403 most nurseries have a washing machine, they have to wash bedding, tea towels, soft toys.

My kids have bibs and still come home looking worse than this. I send them in old dark clothing and let them crack on.

It may be from messy play too. They sometimes do that with food.

Those photos are nothing compared to what i have had. It may well get worse so its a good idea having dedicated nursery clothes.

That’s normal for me but I just use shout or vanish spray and it cones off- if there’s a stain I can’t get out of just send her to nursery in them knowing it wouldn’t matter if they got messed up

Send a bib! They do get mucky though, even though the girls try to keep them on , it’s to be expected.
We do. At nearly £60 a day.

Nursery practitioner here...this is extremely normal. Firstly, have you ever tried to keep 12 bibs on 12 infants/toddlers at the same time. When we have used them in the past we spent so much time putting them back on that we couldn't actually serve the food in one go, and as eating at our nursery is a social experience, it did not work. The only time we use them now is in the under twos room when we have a child in with severe allergies, to prevent contamination of the classroom.

Secondly, this is why we sat for children to wear old clothes. I cannot fathom why some parents send their children into nursery in Jools/Ralph Lauren etc. I'd recommend a small stock of second hand "nursery clothes" that you don't care about. Stains on knees happen when young children are using normal (small) chairs and push themselves out from the table whilst eating, it happens, a lot!

Thirdly, eating without bibs is to aid in the development of independence and the transition from infant to toddler to child.

Fourthly, with four adults to twelve under twos(1 to 3 ratio), there is not time to worry about keeping them spotless. At any given time there are nappies/naps/meals/activities/injuries/behaviour etc to deal with, all whilst supervising the rest of the group. I'd be concerned about the priorities of staff who were more concerned about keeping the children immaculate.

Ask, not sat

@Wellthisunexpected

I just wouldn’t expect the nursery to wash my DS clothes including bibs, clothes come back to me with food, paint, dirt all the usual. The girls always say sorry to me, I’m always saying no worries I expect him to be dirty this = fun. He always goes in clothes I don’t mind being messed up as long as they don’t mind me sending him back in them

I’m a nursery nurse - we always put bibs on our children before meal times. We provided them for every child. However, if you haven’t asked them - then they’re going to continue to not put one on her if they don’t put bibs on all the other children.
We always used the plastic cover all ones. Speak to them, but if you don’t want it happening send her in old clothes or dark colours - or send in your own bib if they’re not providing one :-)

We have totally separate clothes for nursery, and shoes too. Mostly hand me downs. Therefore I don’t care what happens to them. Just chuck it all in the wash, if stains don’t come out I don’t panic, I know it’s been washed. Massive bag of spare clothes, particularly important when they are potty training.

At the weekend I dress her up all nicely, it’s such a pleasure!

Funnily enough when DS started school he didn’t stain any of his clothes, I suppose by the time they get to school they don’t spill everything they eat & generally school has less messy play.

We put bibs and aprons on the children up to two and half (dependant on their eating skills) but they will still get messy at times depending on the food on offer. All of it is normal baby mess from self feeding though. Mine used to be the same at home when small after certain meals. We let our babies have a spoon to attempt self feeding as soon as they show an interest in grabbing the spoon to have a go themselves. At a year old they’d be getting quite keen to do as much as possible themselves with just a supportive helping hand and watchful eye from staff.

Fill up an empty spray bottle with 1 part hydrogen peroxide (ask at your pharmacy) and 2 parts fairy liquid. Spray stains. Wash as normal. Now you will never need to worry about stains on kids clothes.
Berries, tomato sauce - all comes off!