nursery sending back clothes like this?

[MrsMotherHen]

My daughter goes to nursery shes just turned one so needs feeding still unless it's finger food.

She always comes back with her clothes in a bag absolutely rotten now am all for kids getting messy and having fun. Although this is food mess were she should have had a bib on, its always the same and always something near impossible to get out! Thank god for vanish gold!

Now at almost £40 a day I shouldn't have to provide a bib surely they have never mentioned bringing one?

I have been sending her in in and 2nd hand stuff but even after one wear most of the time its wrecked its just so wasteful to bin clothes shes not had much wear out off.

This was todays clothes....how an earth has she got orange food stains on her knees! The paint I don't mind that's normal nursery mess but the food stains are starting to annoy me?

Should I bring it up next session? Is this normal? My son came home immaculate at this age but it was a different nursery.
AIBU??

Completely normal but still quite annoying. I send my son in his scruffiest stuff, hand-me-downs etc. He's in pre-school now so he has a uniform polo-shirt - it's less annoying when that come back all messy (though to be fair he's a lot less messy these days).

Doesn't look.that bad for a 1 yr old. As others have said, keep stained clothes for nursery, or buy dark colours.

I think that looks quite tame for a 1 year old! I'd assume the knee marks are from foodie covered hands touching the knees, quite normal at this age.

I agree with everyone else, stop throwing away stained clothes and just allocate them as "nursery clothes". I work in early years and say that a mucky outfit is the sign of a good day. I expect clean hands and faces for hygiene reasons but not clothing.

MrsMotherHen

"shock How did I forget about the "baby" wash on my machine! thanks for that."

My last washing machine had a baby wash setting. No idea how effective it was though since I didn't have a baby then.

I wouldn't send my dc anywhere in stained clothes so I don't think you're unusual in that respect op although mn will tell you otherwise

Yes I agree. I would never send my child anywhere in stained clothes. I don’t know anyone that would. Yet on MN apparently it’s common to do so.

I would wash the clothes in a hot wash with stain removing powdered added to usual detergent, that usually sorts it. I would also send bibs. The clothes don’t look ‘precious’ as PP said and look fine for nursery. But if the stains wouldn’t come out I’d also bin them so yanbu for that but maybe a bit U for expecting them to use a bib if you don’t provide one and haven’t mentioned it.

Tbh I think you're expecting too much - just don't send her in her best clothes. I can't keep my DD clean all day and I'm only looking after one child - how do they stand a chance with a group of 20+ kids?!

My kids went to nursery in clothes like that

Those marks on the clothes frankly look like nothing to me! Surely a soak overnight in vanish would get that out?! My 5YO has come home looking filthier than that after a day at school!

I am a snob and don't send my kids any where in stained clothes. I've yet to find something an overnight soak in vanish followed by a wash won't solve.

i remember years ago when pfb started nursery being appalled at another baby wearing stained clothes :) in general though, i don't, unless there are stains that I haven't managed to get out and somehow they've gotten back into the wash pile. Kids in stained clothes don't look cared about.

I think I have expected a bit much by the sounds of it. She is learning to feed her self at home aswell we both have a spoon each of I left it 100% down to her very very little would be eaten and the dog would get a feast

I am setting 3/4 outfits up for nursery tonight she only goes twice a week so will be plenty

Got some great stain remover tips here aswell so thanks for them

People commenting on how cheap my nursery is? Luckily that is the standard price around here (North West) It is still a big chunk of money out my wages to me at the end of the month £250 for one and a half days a week.

Normal state of clothes and to be honest I've seen a lot worse!! Buy some of those tunic bibs and send one in each day/ have cheap and dark coloured nursery clothes/chuck napisan into washbasin at the end of each day to soak stained clothes.

The preparing several outfits in advance plan sounds good. I was a little shocked when mine started too. Just wait for the potty training stage...!

I would be more worried if they came back spotless

Are you sure they don’t have bibs? Even with bibs my son used to get filthy at nursery. It’s just part of being a kid and most nurseries encourage messy play which I think is fab. I used to just send my son to nursery in stained clothes. He wore his “nice clothes” at the weekend

That's normal my DS5 used to go through clothes something rotten, expecially at Nursery he always came back with a bag of dirty clothes and wearing either his spares or some nursery spares and even now he is at primary school, he comes back covered in mud at times (Forestry school) he always has some kind of food on his white polo shirt and always seems to lose his jumper. Its just kids and even with a bub it won't avoid the fact they get it everywhere.

Think yourself lucky ,I’ve had an actual shit sent home in pair of daughters pants once

I wouldn’t mention anything. My 1yo comes back filthy. Clothes completely ruined. Stains won’t come out.
They probably are using bibs, but unless it’s the tommee tippee milk bibs which have a sponge across the neck then the food constantly spills. They are supervising quite a few children at the same time. All who make a total mess. Imagine your stress st feeding time. They have that x10.
I used to work in a baby room and the amount of complaints we had from messy clothes. I can assure you if your child is messy and dirty that is a very good sign. A clean child would be very worrying!

People list clothes on Ebay as suitable for nursery. Another code word is, 'playwear'. Seems to mean: absolutely trashed cosmetically, but will cover them well enough. I'd stock up so it doesn't gall when things get badly stained. I'd also buy lots of plain white things, because Glowhite can get the stains out with ease then. Colours and patterns are a tougher situation.

I still have a sink full of vanish washing white school shirts. You've probably got another 14 years of it tbh. It's so bad dh asked if it wouldn't be cheaper and easier to buy new shirts when they get like that!

I had nursery clothes for my kids. 5 changes that were stained and marked. They ended up rather uniform like - dark tracksuit bottoms and a t-shirt or polo

I hate those bloody whiteboard markers. Impossible to get off clothes and children 😣

Normal.

I reckon the messier they come home the happier a time they've had :-) Just wash it, it'll come out, and if not then it can go in the 'nursery clothes' pile.

I bought a cheap bundle of clothes off eBay for DS to go to nursery in, he comes home plastered in paint, chalk, glitter, food, grass stains etc and the clothes are in his bag ready to go in the wash.

Unless there are some kind of nursery photos going on, a few stains on his clothes doesn't bother me, him or the nursery.

At this time of year they are also slathered in suncream as they have attempted to cover him in it