nursery sending back clothes like this?

[MrsMotherHen]

My daughter goes to nursery shes just turned one so needs feeding still unless it's finger food.

She always comes back with her clothes in a bag absolutely rotten now am all for kids getting messy and having fun. Although this is food mess were she should have had a bib on, its always the same and always something near impossible to get out! Thank god for vanish gold!

Now at almost £40 a day I shouldn't have to provide a bib surely they have never mentioned bringing one?

I have been sending her in in and 2nd hand stuff but even after one wear most of the time its wrecked its just so wasteful to bin clothes shes not had much wear out off.

This was todays clothes....how an earth has she got orange food stains on her knees! The paint I don't mind that's normal nursery mess but the food stains are starting to annoy me?

Should I bring it up next session? Is this normal? My son came home immaculate at this age but it was a different nursery.
AIBU??

DS is nearly always covered, and the nursery do use bibs. I don’t mind- I’ve just bought a lot of dark blue T-Shirts that don’t show the stains as much. I second what someone else has said about hanging clothes in the sun too.

As an aside- £40 a day! Nurseries here charge a lot more 😔

Looks normal to me. My dd needed changing after a meal even at home with a bib on. She often was changed after lunch at nursery. We pretty much only bought second hand clothes and she had masses of them! I think most of the stains came out though.

His is pretty standard. It’s simple don’t send in nice cloths. My ds has been known to go grouch 4 outfits in a day. Send in hand me downs, supermarket stuff, charity shop stuff or just stuff you don’t like anymore.
I am much happier that my child has had fun, exploring painting etc.

I always judged how good a day they'd had at nursery by how disgusting they came home.
They will be expecting your child to try and feed themselves. Encouraging independence as a PP said.

Sorry OP but yabu (albeit unintentionally) in your expectations of nursery.

I recommend using second hand clothes for nursery. Nursery staff are not 1:1 like you'd be at home.

And get ready to deploy stain remover & soak clothes prewash, but please never send her in her best outfits! . (Those are for mummy days, who is very careful when feeding her.)

Frankly I had one neat child and two messy children who'd end up with food slathered in their hair, over walls and generally splatted all over their clothes, muddy knees, paint stains, all far worse than your photos from nursery, pre school, primary school and at home (though I could change their outfits 3x day at home) ! Your DD is learning to feed herself and enjoy food and to play . It's messy and fun!

Compared to how my children often return from school, and back when mine were babies & toddlers from nursery, that's fairly clean! These days it's more ketchup, red pasta sauce and felttip glue or paint stains on fresh white school shirts that I battle !
Definitely send bibs in (usually normal bibs for food not the all covering 'painting type bibs' cos few toddlers will wear those when no one else is!) and ask nursery by all means to use her bibs, but overall you might feel less upset if you can reset your expectations.

DS1 used to come home looking like he had been down a coal mine. Sometimes we escorted him direct to the bath rather than let him go near the sofa/Carpets. He had a great time at nursery lots of free play outside and in but also very mucky. Only certain clothes were allowed near nursery - the tatty, clean but stained, and the slightly Ill fitting.

Normal/not that stained. I started DD off from the start in clothes from the boys' section as they tend to be darker and so the stains show less. Navy blue and dark greens are good colours to go for. Also striped tops will show less mess.

I work in a nursery and we use bibs, but at 1 they are definitely feeding themselves. The kids clothes/ floor and high chairs are a mess. If you're still feeding her, it's not surprising she's not very good yet abs that you're not used to the mess. Looking at your pics.
A. There is no way this is the amount of fod stain a 1 year old makes without a bib, believe me!
B. I think she was wearing a bib but the t-shirt was showing a bit at the top.
C. It easily gets onto ones when sitting on chair, knees are right next to bottom of bib. Just takes one bit to miss the bib.

finova
Rotfl!!!!

Don't throw stained clothes away. Hang them in the sun and if still stained, keep them for nursery where. My DD has a separate section in her wardrobe for her nursery clothes. I don't send her in wearing anything that I would be upset about getting stained and I go on the assumption that everything will get covered in crap

Looks like normal nursery life really. Just use vanish and wash them

doesn't she get as dirty at home? I found that dirty clothes meant a good day for my kids, and I much prefer ed seeing them covered in mud/paint and less so food.

People were giving me funny looks when I was sending mine in white tops, but presoak and bleach wash get rid of most stains and white was easier to clean.

The point is that it doesn't matter if they wear stained clothes first thing in the morning, as long as the clothes are clean. I still send my primary school kids with yellow-stained shirts, suncream destroy the clothes and I haven't found anything to remove that. No point giving them a pristine white top which will be stained again after 5minutes, so on sunny day, stained-tops it is.

On another note, if anyone has a magic solution to remove suncream-stains...

Yabvu
Those are clean clothes nearly! My dc come home much much worse!
Only send her in clothes you don’t mind getting dirty.
And at 1 she should defibately be feeding herself most of the time just with bits of assistance

It's totally normal. Washed stains are declared clean dirt and clothes go right back on and to nursery for a new layer.

www.sheknows.com/home-and-gardening/articles/8153/stain-removal-smarts-how-to-get-stains-out-of-your-clothes
www.cleaninginstitute.org/clean_living/stain_removal_chart.aspx

Skme good tips.

My DS started nursery at 9 months, they pretty much let him feed himself from the start - I have a great photo they took for me with him with his face in a bowl of yoghurt I would rather they did, he’s 20 months and has competently used a spoon and fork for ages and at home makes a decent effort with a knife too.
He generally comes home filthy despite them using aprons and bibs but their paint washes out, so does mud and sand. If they are going to do something where they get utterly filthy like sitting the babies in trays of gloop they put them in a nursery vest - so they do their best. They do get food marks but the only thing I haven’t managed to get out with vanish and some effort is turmeric and I quite like that they get them to eat curry so I live with it!
I do send him in nice clothes because he’s at full time nursery so if I didn’t he’d barely ever wear them but I accept that some of them will get marked eventually.

I can't see a problem. Just stick them in the washing machine.

Mine come back way worse than that! I love it. They have had lots of fun and would never complain. They always use bibs but still manage to get them mucky!

I send them in scruffs and manage to get it out mostly.

They look the same as my DC clothes after coming home from nursery. It drives me mad but I've never complained about it. Even the time they decided not to take her pristine white cardigan off before lunch...I soon learned my lesson there.

I've found the best way for getting stubborn stains out is to soak in water, wring out then sprinkle vanish on top of the stains and leave for 30 mins to an hour before washing.

Don't send her in her best clothes!

It looks totally normal to me.

Tbh I loved it when DD came home filthy! It was the mark for me that she'd had an amazing day! I never sent her in nice clothes, just Asda and Primark cheapies, so that if they were totally wrecked they could easily be binned, but usually all they needed was a Vanish bath before the machine

Totally normal for nursery - you should see the marks on my DDs tshirt when I picked her up today! Goodness knows what today's messy tray was

Only certain clothes get sent to nursery - eg the tshirt she wore today started off nice then I accidentally sent her to nursery in it and it got irreparably stained with God only knows what so now it's for nursery only. Then keep some nice clothes for non-nursery wear.

So she's been going for a couple of months and you've only just clicked that they don't use bibs despite repeated cleaning and throwing away clothes with food stains where a bib would be? And you've never asked the question before?? Are you okay?

The worst day for me was the day when DD2 came out covered in paint. And I mean covered. The staff at her nursery were very apologetic and said she'd run over to the painting and put in the apron all by herself, so they'd praised her for remembering to do that and only then realised she'd put it on inside out. She still wore those clothes again.
I've never really cared about sending them out in stained clothes, as long as the clothes have been through the wash and are actually clean. It's a clean stain! Which is just as well or we'd be buying new school dresses every week thanks to the curse of the whiteboard marker.

It looks like she's had a bib on.
At one they will be encouraging them all to eat independently and as they eat as a group that's a lot of spoons/hands and faces in lots of bowls
My dd comes home from reception much worse than that! A combination of school dinners, paint, pens and a mud kitchen!
Nursery also tended to have a combination of suncream, sand and paint - often between the toes for fathers day/chridtmad/Easter cards
I would try to get the stains out as best you can then just have a pile of older/ cheaper /slightly stained clothes for nursery. You won't be able to see the mark on those anyway