to think these children ARE overweight?

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The schools in my area have just sent out the results of the National Child Measurement Programme.

There are a number of acquaintances/friends on my social media who have posted their child's result online, along with a picture of their child and an angry rant about how their child is as skinny as a rake, not an ounce of fat on them, 'stocky' not 'fat', perfectly healthy etc etc.

But they are. Some of them are very overweight and plainly so. Others may be a little bit chubby and due for a growth spurt or something, but clearly not slim, either.

There are streams of comments underneath these posts agreeing and expressing their disgust and anger. And I'm wondering if everyone's lying, or they genuinely believe that these children are slim?

I know BMI is notoriously squiffy when it comes to kids, and I have seen genuine cases of it being so totally wrong it's laughable, especially when it comes to strong, athletic children. But that isn't the case for these children, at all.

AIBU to think that you owe it to your child to at least consider the results before going on the defensive?

I could and I often do. But he’s 2. And struggles to understand about waiting! I know that makes me sound a bit stupid and open to criticism I’m sure but when we need to get out of the door or I need to get things done saying no and having a huge screaming tantrum sometimes isn’t an option!
I know all the right things to do. I suppose I’m just being open about how hard I find it (having a bad day I think!) and this thread hit a nerve a little.

I think if you want to stop it you are going to have to accept that there will be a few tantrums about it.

He has snacks when you leave the house??

but when we need to get out of the door or I need to get things done saying no and having a huge screaming tantrum sometimes isn’t an option!

In the short term, giving in resolves the problem so you can get out of the house but long term it teaches your ds that screaming tantrums work.
If you set your intention to stop this and be firm then of course you will have to tolerate a tantrum and it may even great worse for a few times until he realises it won't work anymore. In the long run, it will mean you don't have the problem anymore.
Tantrums like this only work if rewarded. Some will say they have tried it and it doesn't work because nothing works with their child but if they were really honest, they have probably given in again once or twice or given up.
There isn't a pain free way to do it.