Why are women dependent on benefits viewed as lesser than those dependent on men?

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Just that really.
Women, usually single parents are viewed as total scum when they rely on benefits to live.
Women who are funded by their husbands are seen as morally superior.
Both women are dependent on an outside source-why is their value decided by what source of income they have?
Most families receive tax credits which are also a benefit. So many of the UK parent population are dependent on public money.
Thinking specifically of the Radford situation and the recent thread on their proposed receipt of tax credits (this may not be true but was suggested by a poster.)
Sue is seen as a wholesome mother with a wonderful family and good marriage.
If she were not married she'd be a breeding scrounger.
In both situations she'd be doing the same job-raising children and doing the wifework
AIBU to be pissed off at this disparity?

Neither does being a single parent on be efits not consitute having no work ethic either.

Why don't people just be thankful if they are in a position of security financially or any other way and realise through many different circumstances there are people who will never achieve what they have done.
Some people need help, some people have to rely on benefits or someone else for periods in their life and they shouldn't be judged or looked down on.

Why don't people just be thankful if they are in a position of security financially or any other way and realise through many different circumstances there are people who will never achieve what they have done.

This with twinkly lights on.

Does anyone else really not give a shit what Brenda down the road claims or how many kids with absent fathers Carole from the school gates has?

I don’t think that if they all suddenly came off benefits the country would be dripping in gold and my life would get better. The MP’s would just buy more hookers and holidays and fuck all would change for me and mine.

I’m glad I have job, glad I have a roof over my head and I’m striving every day to do better for my own family.

Whatever anyone else needs to do to get by ain’t got nowt to do with me.

I am happy for my taxes to be used to fund single parents to stay home with their children for the first few years. I think it can be very beneficial to society for parents to have the option to focus solely on raising their children, especially when in a stressful situation like relationship breakdown or poverty. It's only a few years, but it could make all the difference.

@BoxsetsAndPopcorn
I wasn't assuming there was a relationship. I'm saying it doesn't matter if there is or not. Both parents should be equally paying.
I don't think 50/50 isn't the norm because RP don't want to work lol. It's because majority of men refuse to have their kids any more often than EOW so the burden is entirely on one person.

Absolutely bb

I think OP is right, single mums on benefits are looked down on. It’s terrible as raising children is a vital role in society. By not valuing it we are doing ourselves a disservice. And it is a disservice not to value the role of mother for married women who are SAHM as well, quite often the men see themselves as more important for working. My husband has had to help out more with kids recently as I am working ft in a role so I can finish a qualification. He is shocked at how demanding it is.
How often do we see divorce cases where the woman is seen as lazy or scrounging when she doesn’t work? Will the husband then share all the childcare, school holiday care, doctors dental and hospital appointments, cost of childcare and sick days etc? All things ‘lazy’ mums are often expected to do
So I agree with OP and more generally that typically women’s roles in society are vastly undervalued. Another one is care for the elderly - look what a state we are in with that, can’t afford the cost of care yet don’t value the (usually) woman’s role of carer within the family