DH was informed recently that he'd be "wetting the baby's head" with his family and friends the weekend after our baby is born. DH informed them that he had no intention of doing any such thing, and you'd have thought he'd shit on the carpet. Horror. Comments about me "not letting him". DH hasn't been drunk in years and I can count the number of times he's been in a pub in the last two years on one hand. He's not a fan of that kind of socialising and can't be bothered.
I will be having a csection. We also have two large dogs and lots of stairs in our house. We intend on cosleeping. They're totally expecting DH to go out on a bender, just days after I have abdominal surgery, leaving me alone with a newborn, having to get up to let dogs in and out etc. I mean I'm not so precious that I couldn't do it l, but why should I have to? On what planet is this seen as normal or OK?
I really think it's old fashioned, sexist nonsense. A bunch of blokes going out to celebrate a baby by getting pissed, while the actual baby and its exhausted, bleeding mother are left at home to get on with it?
DH totally agrees with me. I said an afternoon pint would be one thing, but we both know that won't be enough for the in laws. They don't drink a lot regularly, but any sort of event seems to be a green light for getting pissed. Maybe OK at weddings but surely not in the first days of having a newborn?
I also feel resentful that even though DH has no interest and has never been a big drinker, for some reason I'm being cast in the role of boring old spoilsport!
People really do treat you differently and have weird expectations once you start to have kids, don't they?