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Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

999 replies

Biscusting · 09/06/2018 21:25

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

OP posts:
raidthefridge · 10/06/2018 14:49

Fuck texting the witch. Call her and let her know how much of an utter bitch she is. She won't pick up but you can leave her a disgusted voice message instead. In fact- write it down first so you can just recite it.

She shouldn't be able to get away with being so horrible without you letting rip.

Rach5l · 10/06/2018 14:56

Really shocking behaviour, what a bitch Shock

Rach5l · 10/06/2018 14:56

Really shocking behaviour, what a bitch Shock

TheABC · 10/06/2018 14:59

Just a thought - is your DH still linked to her? Add the comment through his account. You have nothing to lose now.

iheartmichellemallon · 10/06/2018 15:03

I can't believe people are actually like this - so sorry Op, she sounds horrible & im not surprised you're hurt. You're definitely better off without her in your life.

GrainOfSalt · 10/06/2018 15:05

I'd just reply with the comment you make in your OP

Oh dear you seem to have "mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!"

And tell her the invoice is in the post Wink

Jux · 10/06/2018 15:10

If this is a joke, the it was badly written, badly thought out and badly executed.

Don't do the jokey replies, or respond in kind; they'll either just make you look as much a dick as she is, or they'll backfire and make her think she can do it again.

Do make a more measured and honest response, preferably by text or PM. I do think you need to respond more publically on FB too, though, especially as your friends can see it - one's already 'liked' it - but it doesn't have to be long, something like "wow! You invited yourself to my home on the basis of a half dead friendship, and treated us to this in return! You realise that your request for a further stay in July is now completely off the table, don't you?"

Doolly067 · 10/06/2018 15:17

Unbelievable!

Id comment and say "that's the one and only review you will ever leave us" and return the favour.

ZispinAndChai · 10/06/2018 15:17

Wow, what a bitch! Shock

You could sign her up for the Debrett's newsletter to help her improve her social graces...

Devilishpyjamas · 10/06/2018 15:20

Unfriendend? Not even an attempt to explain/apologise? Wow!

MumofBoysx2 · 10/06/2018 15:21

I'd say nothing. Copy and paste her comments into a word document, and ignore her now. Next time she asks to come, just reply with 'I think you might find a hotel more comfortable and paste the comments. I would so do that!!

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 10/06/2018 15:24

You are so well rid.

MeghanMarklesTiara · 10/06/2018 15:31

Well shot of that one, OP. I can understand how your feelings must be hurt - what a huge bitch. With friends like her who needs enemies, eh?

CountArthursgroupie · 10/06/2018 15:35

Could she have forgotten that you were FB friends, and have thought you couldn't read it? Not that that's an excuse, it sounds like you made a lovely holiday for the ungrateful besom, one that most of us would have happily paid good money for and got treated abominably for your trouble. And I'm definitely up for a holiday with nice people and such a lovely breakfast. You know, if you're looking for somebody to take her place in July...

holasoydora · 10/06/2018 15:35

Am speechless OP!

Aeroflotgirl · 10/06/2018 15:36

She has made herself look like a fool, nobody will want to host her in case they get a 'review', in Facebook. For those saying it might be a joke, joke for who? Certainly not for op, joke for twat friend, so people can have a laugh at op expense. Yes your well rid of that one.

bonnyshide · 10/06/2018 15:38

I, too, am speechless.

What an unpleasant person she is, you are well rid of her, pity you had to waste a weekend on her to find that out!

I bet your house is fantastic!

Underworld345 · 10/06/2018 15:38

How strange! I reckon she thought you weren’t friends on Facebook or something, then when you messaged her, she was mortified you’d seen it and didn’t know what to do but unfriend you!

Bramble71 · 10/06/2018 15:38

Wow! What a cruel thing of her to do. She's certainly no loss as a friend.

Pity you didn't reply to her post, then other people might see how mean a post it was, but hey-ho. It can't be changed now. She seems horrible and you're way better person than she is.

Can you imagine the joy you'd have if she did still turn up in July and you could slam the door in her face?!

Ninabean17 · 10/06/2018 15:40

You're well to be rid of her, op. What an utter cow.

Jaxhog · 10/06/2018 15:41

You could always send a bill for the weekend. Seeing as she thought she was staying in a hotel.

kaitlinktm · 10/06/2018 15:45

I agree with PP - I think she has forgotten you were FB friends and thought you wouldn't see it - and in mortification has unfriended you. Even so, she evidently isn't a nice person or a real friend.

Infuriating that you can't respond though.

eloisesparkle · 10/06/2018 15:45

OP You got great advice and fantastic ways to call her out on her behaviour.
Sadly you didn't use it/ them.
Now you regret not doing it and wimping out by sending a private message.
Lesson learnt.

honeyishrunkthekid · 10/06/2018 15:47

I'm glad you didn't air your dirty laundry and messaged her privately.
She doesn't need to be called out in public. I think the post speaks for itself.
You retained dignity. You could always text her or call if you really want to ease your rage, personally, whilst you have the upper ground, I would leave it be and be glad you're well rid

honeyishrunkthekid · 10/06/2018 15:47

I'm glad you didn't air your dirty laundry and messaged her privately.
She doesn't need to be called out in public. I think the post speaks for itself.
You retained dignity. You could always text her or call if you really want to ease your rage, personally, whilst you have the upper ground, I would leave it be and be glad you're well rid

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