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Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

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Biscusting · 09/06/2018 21:25

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

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Flowerpotbicycle · 10/06/2018 12:48

What a bitch!

WindAndWuthering · 10/06/2018 12:49

My theory is that she forgot you are friends on facebook. I hope she sends an effusive apology when she has got over her mortification!

GeekyWombat · 10/06/2018 12:54

I'm so sorry OP. She's clearly a cowbag and you're best off without her.

At least you don't have to worry about hosting her next time!

Biscusting · 10/06/2018 12:54

I am totally gob smacked at this, I mean i’ve Known her for years. I feel like I should have called her out on FB now. Raging.

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MoonlightMedicine · 10/06/2018 12:55

I’m not surprised OP! What a nasty woman she is, I’m gobsmacked too!

Crunchymum · 10/06/2018 12:56

I was hoping it was a misplaced "joke" and your friend was going to make a public apology.

Cannot believe she has unfriended you.

I'd be inclined to go to town on her now. Rude cunt.

Shopkinsdoll · 10/06/2018 12:56

If you have lots of mutual friends, I would put up a post explaining how down right rude this girl is. Explaining how you went out your way to make her feel welcome and then the CF treats your home like the local B and B.

Wibblywobblyfoo · 10/06/2018 12:56

What a nasty bitch

RideSallyRide76 · 10/06/2018 12:57

Wow what an unpleasant person. Op you are definitely better off without her in your life. It's bonkers the way some people feel entitled to act.

Dobby1sAFreeElf · 10/06/2018 12:59

You could always post something like this on your own wall Grin

Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?
LighthouseSouth · 10/06/2018 12:59

is her Facebook set to private btw?

LighthouseSouth · 10/06/2018 13:01

oh sorry, you've known her for years.

surely this is a case for calling and talking? I realise she might not answer the phone....you could text asking "was this a joke gone wrong" or something? I would just need closure on something as weird as this tbh.

BolleauxtoBankers · 10/06/2018 13:01

Could your mutual friend who liked her post have known it was you she was writing about? Perhaps you should tell him via pm exactly what happened? Just to see if he might at least unlike her post, if not call her out on it on your behalf?
I agree, she must have forgotten you were on FB, it would be a daft thing to do if she wanted another freebie stay with you in July! But honestly, who DOES that about a stay at a friend's place, anyway?

fcekinghell · 10/06/2018 13:01

If you have mutual friends then why not post a link to this thread in your own Facebook? Your work colleagues don't need to know that you wrote the thread. Yet mutual colleagues will see it and TBH this is one thread that I hope the fail picks up.

Biscusting · 10/06/2018 13:02

I like that Dobby. I feel like mailing her a shit sandwich or maybe a shit nestled nested between some freshly baked pain au chocolat.

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Biscusting · 10/06/2018 13:04

The mutual friends (five of them I think) are all old uni friends as well. I haven’t spoken to them in years. Feel it might be a bit weird to speak to them about it.

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expatinscotland · 10/06/2018 13:05

Wow, what a bitch.

S1444 · 10/06/2018 13:05

So weird!!! Id ask her about it or comment ??? underneath and see if she says it was a joke. If its not then you don't want to be friends with her anyway so just say your busy or someone else is coming to stay that other weekend and ignore haha what a strange person!! The review wasn't even good cheeky bitch

pinkstar01 · 10/06/2018 13:06

Mouth open....I've known some nasty bitches in my life but this is really something.
OP if you were me I would HAVE to do something too, I can't believe her nerve!

I would probably put up a public post on Facebook about what happened and name/shame her and make a point about how ungrateful people are nowadays.

RoseWhiteTips · 10/06/2018 13:10

Biscusting

I like that Dobby. I feel like mailing her a shit sandwich or maybe a shit nestled nested between some freshly baked pain au chocolat.

I thought you were dignified.Hmm

SpiritedSoul · 10/06/2018 13:10

Wow! I would be fuming!

But think about it this way: she has shown her true colours. This was someone you trusted enough to welcome into your home and she didn't deserve your trust, your kindness or your friendship.

Do not waste any more energy or time on this person and remove her from your life with no regrets. Thankfully you saw who she was and how little space for her there is in your life. She is disloyal, entitled, petty and has no sense whatsoever of what is appropriate.

Consider this experience time-energy well spent to get her out of your life and switch from rage to relief! You dodged a bullet there, for sure. I would question the mutual friend who liked her post too. Did the friend know she was referring to you?

Good riddance! Don't let the door hit you on the way out!

SimonBridges · 10/06/2018 13:11

You are better off with this freeloader out of your life. She clearly just used you as a free hotel.
Bollocks to her.

TheMaddHugger · 10/06/2018 13:12

Unbelievable

Iloveacurry · 10/06/2018 13:14

Good riddance I say. She was no friend. At least you don’t need to entertain her again.

CornforthWhite · 10/06/2018 13:15

She is a horrible person.
I know you’ll be reeling but try not to worry too much. I know how hurtful losing a friend can be but try to laugh about it. This is truly a case of her being a complete nutter.
Maybe she did it to hurt you on purpose. The only reason for trying to hurt someone so publicly is a feeling of inferiority and a big case of the green eyed monster.
The 5 friends who’ve liked it will have no idea it’s you. But I’d distance myself from anyone who thinks it’s nice to laugh at others.