Help!!!! Moving house today and DH is sick

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Help! DH has said he feels too unwell to drive to the new house. He does look shite. But what do I do?? It's a 2 hour drive, hes been asleep since 8pm last night and he's still in bed. The moving people are coming at 10.30 and the bed hasn't been taken down, as he's in it still.

Please help me work out a plan of action. I think I might have to leave one car here and come back for it tomorrow?

Some people on this thread are just plain nasty.

Well said Walking

Right his dad is now insured on our car, thank you to whoever suggested that and his Mum is taking a couple of boxes along with him in their car. They're going to stay here as there's a spare room that the movers don't need to go into so he's gone back to bed, I'm off to get the keys.

It will probably be the end of me one day, I have a ling condition and have had it 7 times in the last 9 years.

He has a cold? So, actually, he's not ill at all then and he's just being a complete pillock. Tell him to man up, stop being so pathetic and get his act together and then consider whether you want to continue to enable this man child.
Good luck OP.

On the morning of the last time I moved house my head fell off! So you know what I did? I strapped my big girl ball pants on and duct-taped that head on. All by myself. Then I carried everything on my back to the new house because I am not a weak pathetic manshape.

If he is ill he is ill. You have yourself, your in-laws and the removals team. I'm sure you will manage.

Get him to take a decongestant containing pseudoephedrine. Be very careful not to double up on paracetamol if he’s already had any. It has a stimulant effect and will give him enough of a kick to get up and out, and he can crash later.

I get really bad colds where I've had to take time off work because I've been so ill. I wouldn't be impressed if my DH turned round to me and told me to "woman up". To tell him therefore to "man up" is horrible.

If he's being sick and feeling so awful, check for photophobia , neck stiffness...could be meningitis, not just a cold
And agree if this was a man coming on complaining his wife was ill , there be a different response
Glad your pIL are able to help and at least by this evening you'll be in your new home

When people think like this. Is it any wonder that men people don't look after themselves properly and don't go to the Doctors when they should.

What a drama!
This sounds like much more than a heavy cold. Lucky his parents could come and help out.

I've a chesty cough and some virus shite at the minute. It's pretty bad, started vomiting yesterday and couldn't keep fluids down so ended up in bed half the day pretty bad.

I "get on with it" through most things including pneumonia just before Christmas. I'd happily have the pneumonia back over this bug it wasn't half as bad!

FWIW OP if it's the same or a similar bug I'm loads better today now the vomiting has eased off so hopefully he feels better tomorrow.

It's just shitty timing, good luck with the move.

If he’s normally good with thing kind of thing it sounds like he has the flu as that does knock you out completely!! Glad you’ve managed to arrange something!

if this was a man coming on complaining his wife was ill , there be a different response

I would have said the same if the wife was lying in bed with a “heavy cold”. However, things have progressed since the OP said that.

Flu isn't really a cold tho plus we're out of flu season
If his parents are helping them you're sorted so good luck moving!

If he is normally pretty tough then do you think it could be something worse ? I'm all for man up if he is usually a dick but surely he wouldn't act like this when he is moving ? Has anyone prodded him lately ?? 🧐🧐

Bloody hell, give him a break (not you OP) the guy isn’t usually crap when he is ill, runs 15k to get rid of a hangover and has started vomiting.

Since when does “a heavy cold” make you vomit?

Good luck with the move.

People are being harsh. The guy is sick! He isn't usually like this according to OP, so he isn't pulling a fast one.
Thank god you have some help arriving. Good luck with the move!

Some posters really need to RTFT, he's been sick, it's not a fucking cold!

There are some really, really nasty posters here. Do you treat your partners like that when they are ill?

Poor chap. I started out feeling a bit but then imagined it was my husband, and he would have to be pretty damn sick to do this. Do you have space in the back of your car? As best possible I would tuck him in the back with pillows and a duvet, plus sick bowl and finish the house stuff. Then head off and collect car later.

If he normally isn't a lazy malingerer there is no reason to believe he has decided to start today.

My DH used to really play on any kind of illness and put on an ‘ill voice’ and do an ‘ill face’ it made me want to slap him and I had no sympathy whatsoever.
Then one time he had a nasty virus that started attacked his liver, he had zero sympathy from me until he started to turn yellow and ended up in hospital.

I felt fucking awful for not believing him but it was very much a case of crying wolf.

He no longer milks tiny minor colds, I haven’t heard The Ill Voice in over a decade and finally he gets sympathy when he feels rough because it so rarely (genuinely) happens.

In the mean time I’ve got his mum on Facebook and I can see exactly where he got it from 🎻.

I missed out the part where the virus attacking his liver was “just a little cold” which was why he got no sympathy. Once I knew how bad it got, it was a very different matter!

He's not usually like this but you've packed the whole house on your own?

Missed the post about his parents, great solution all round.