To want another baby with my exh

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Hi i have 2 dc with my ex h who i broke up from 4 years ago. Recently ive really been wanting to have another baby but would want all my children to have the same father. If i was to have another child id be doing all the work as i do now and i fully expect this to continue in the same way so aibu?

Does he know about your idea?!

That's insane. I doubt he would be on board

YABU. How do you know he even wants another baby?

Well it worked for Hugh Grant. Just ask him and see what he says.

Does you exh see and pay for your kids?
Does he have a gf/partner?

I can understand wanting all your kids to have the same dad. Depends what he thinks really though

It does sound a little insane I'll admit. He doesn't have a gf and doesnt yet know about my idea but i have a feeling he would be quite willing. He doesnt pay for his kids in the sense of handing money over to me however he does provide them with some of the items they need.

Would you have sex with him if he agreed to father another?

Can you afford it?

Can you afford to have another child without relying on benefits?

How awful for the child. Why plan another baby with someone who doesnt support his existing ones?

You're meant to put your children first not yourself.

Yes i could provide for another child imdependently and yes i would have sex with him.

I can understand the idea in principle if you had a fantastic co-parent relationship but it could be very confusing for the existing children.

Not to mention the financial impact it would have on you if he doesn't pay for the kids he has already.

Don't see why not. I'm all for having kids with no father around. I have learnt it's a mistake to rely on men. If I'd known this when I was younger I'd have have just had all my kids alone.

I honestly don’t see the problem.

Why not channel your energies into getting the money that your dc deserve from him?

madcatlady why are you assuming that the dad isn’t around?

I agree it does sound insane, however I think it could work and if both you and ex are happy with the arrangent then why not?
Just make sure if he agrees that he hasnt had the snip since you’ve split up!

Um, wouldn’t it be a bit confusing for the children you already have?

It does sound mad but not half as mad as some stuff I've done that's worked out just fine.

Obviously all depends on the relationship and situation but if all the peripherals are ok then why the hell not?

I think it's fine.

If you’re both willing and you’re accepting that you are likely to be doing all the work then I don’t see the issue.

How would it be confusing? Kids are eminently more flexible and accepting than grown ups.

Does slightly depend on ages but if they're old enough to be weirded out by it (approaching or teen) then for God's sake don't have another baby anyway! Freedom is on the horizon 😎

Why doesn't he pay for his children?

Not when he doesn't provide financially for the ones you already have.

I know someone who did this on the condition that as she wanted the baby he wouldn’t have to provide for it at all and it seems to have worked out just fine for her