To want another baby with my exh

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Hi i have 2 dc with my ex h who i broke up from 4 years ago. Recently ive really been wanting to have another baby but would want all my children to have the same father. If i was to have another child id be doing all the work as i do now and i fully expect this to continue in the same way so aibu?

I kind of don't see why not actually!

I was with a guy who had a DD from previous relationship, ex called him to ask if he'd be the father to her next baby so they both had the same dad.

Told him to tell her to get fucked!!

get To be fair, that was what she was looking for!

[hmmm]

I don't see a problem. Families come in different shapes and sizes. Fwiw if I wanted another I would like the same dad too, less complicated that way.

But then I don't think kids in single parent families need to be pitied.

okay, I realise my mistake when using my choice of words!!

Me and him split and they got back together and had another 3 kids!

How embarrassing for your all your children, especially when they are old enough to realise what happened.

Go for it. Why not? As long as you both know the score.

why did you split up if youre still keen to have more family with him

What are you expecting his level of involvement to be?

@lifebeginsatgin what on earth is embarrassing about it?

Not when he doesn't provide financially for the ones you already have.

I don't suppose a sperm donor would either but at least these children would know who their father was and not be feel like the odd one out for having a different dad.

Op I think it seems a perfectly reasonable idea but I absolutely would NOT have sex with him. That's insane. Cup and syringe.

why did you split up if youre still keen to have more family with him

A relationship is a lot more than wanting a baby.

How embarrassing for your all your children, especially when they are old enough to realise what happened.

Sex is always embarrassing for children. Should we all stop at one?

If the kids you already have now are happy with the arrangement that you have with their dad (re access and him providing for them) and you're not relying on benefits to fund your lifestyle, then YANBU.

If the kids however are feeling that Dad is unreliable or not around for them when needed, if they feel he is unsupportive of them, if you are struggling financially or on benefits, then YABU because you are only thinking about what you want, not what is best for your family as a whole.

well yeah, but i was asking OP

Are you getting any benefits? Cos Universal Credit has a 2 child limit.

You want to have another child with a man who doesn't pay maintenance? You're nuts.

Incidentally what's wrong with having children to multiple fathers?

I don't suppose a sperm donor would either

I've heard some fire excuses for dad's not paying for their kids but I think saying sperm donors don't pay has to be my favourite 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Nothing's wrong with having children with different dads but it's completely understandable why someone wouldn't want to.

*shit not fire 🤣

Butterfly but how is it worse than having a child with a man who you split up with and who doesn't pay for his current children.?

If a woman came on here and said "thinking of having a child with my OH but he has 2 kids he doesn't pay for" then not one person would tell her it was a good idea so I'm quite surprised by so many telling OP to go for it

I know at least 4 women that have had babies with the exes so their children can have the same fathers.

It was important to them and they all didn’t mind being single parents.

What would his girlfriend think?
Why couldnt you make it as a family?