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AIBU?

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IABU - I’ve just had a glass of wine

321 replies

Hiphopopotamus · 06/06/2018 19:17

And I’m a recovering alcoholic. 5 months sober. All gone now like I’d never bothered. So here I am, back to square one

OP posts:
claybakefan · 12/03/2019 01:29

Well done HipHop. One day at a time Flowers

TheSchumanPlan · 12/03/2019 01:33

Well done OP. Six months is an incredible achievement and you should be proud of yourself.

ilovesooty · 12/03/2019 01:38

Six months - brilliant.

sureitsgrand · 12/03/2019 01:39

Well done. My DH is 10 days sober after 10 years of problem drinking. It's the first time he's ever admitted he has a problem or wanted to give up. I can't tell you the pain he's caused me especially the last three years. He's like a new person without it, I hope he does as well as you!

Aquamarine1029 · 12/03/2019 01:42

You are doing brilliantly, op. A step back is NOT failure. Your ability to recognise triggers and temporary weakness is a massive victory, and you have the strength to get through this. Please don't ever give up.

MrsTerryPratcett · 12/03/2019 01:43

Treat that little voice like a dickhead that's visiting. Little arsehole wants you to fuck everything up. Nice try negative self-talk.

Think about seeing your DH Sober when he gets back. How great that feeling will be.

And go to some meetings!

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom · 12/03/2019 01:52

Hi hip no need to apologise! I'd much much rather you gave us the chance to chat with you rather than you being on your own and struggling!

I posted on the thread the first time, and have thought about you since, I'm sorry things went off for a while but I'm very pleased to hear about your 6 months, bloody well done hip.

Well done for coming back and not trying to handle things on your own.

Your doing great, I know it's tough but you can and will get through this until dh gets home and the cravings subside a bit.

Have you got rl support? Meetings or a sponsor etc? If so use them that is what they are there for!

Tangfastics · 12/03/2019 02:43

Your head isn't warped and that voice isn't you. It's addiction.

Don't think about the first drink, think about the last.

You got this!

ApplestheHare · 12/03/2019 03:04

Hiphopopotamus lovely update, 6 months is such an achievement. You are doing so well. Keep it up and get to 7 months for us Flowers

AgentProvocateur · 12/03/2019 03:10

Well done. Six months is an amazing achievement. Keep it up. FlowersBrew

LegitimateShite · 12/03/2019 06:46

Six months is incredible - you are bloody amazing! You can do this Flowers

fluffygreenmonsterhoody · 12/03/2019 06:51

Wow, six months. You’re doing brilliantly. Go for seven?

Cuttingthegrass · 12/03/2019 07:15

Fantastic update. You are so strong. Well done. What a brilliant idea to reread your thread and that you remembered then how you felt. You’ve got this.

Slowknitter · 12/03/2019 07:21

Flowers Well done, you are doing brilliantly.

BlimeyCalmDown · 12/03/2019 07:25

Great to see an update, we often don't on so many threads!

Well done on your 6mths, as others have said try and go to extra meetings all week, plan distractions and other rewards, treat yourself in other ways all week. If you don't already have a sponsor/mentor, see about getting one this week.

You can do this!

Lou670 · 12/03/2019 07:33

Please try and see it as a blip and it is one day. If you are counting the dry days then mentally see it as X days minus 1 rather than seeing it as going back to the start of counting all over again.

Do you have an app on your phone where it records your non drinking/drinking days. They can be very motivational as it records days dry, units of alcohol not drank and money saved.

Do you attend any group settings such as CGL (Change Grow Live) formerly known as Addaction. This charity funded organisation is for all addictions and they run 12 week courses for addicts. They are really good and it helps to be amongst people that understand. See if there is one in you area.

The self help books are good and there are a lot of them out there. 'This Naked Mind' written by Annie Grace is good. I second the Jason Vale book as well. I have also heard good reviews on Russell Brands book.

5 months sobriety is a massive achievement as some people struggle to reach 5 days. Identify what the 'trigger' was to make you want that drink. Perhaps you were upset, angry, bored or seeing if you could really just have that one drink.

Remember that you take the first drink and the second drink takes you. If alcohol is your release for when things go bad (as it does) find something else less harmful that will take the place that alcohol used to fill.

Try not to dwell on the 'one day' and focus on all of the other days that you remained sober. Each day is a new day. I know just how hard this is. I am on day 25 and it requires dedication and strength and so much focus.

I will be thinking of you. Keep on going!!

buckeejit · 12/03/2019 07:34

Good job OP, you got this. Keep posting for support if you need it

Fazackerley · 12/03/2019 07:38

You are amazing. Can you get out and about a bit for the next few days so you aren't in the house alone too much?

Gatehouse77 · 12/03/2019 07:43

Fantastic achievement so far - I'd imagine it feels wonderful to know that it was you who made those changes because of a choice you made.
I'd try thinking of all those victories - small or large - to keep me going when it's tough.

Well done!

rwalker · 12/03/2019 07:45

It's a bump in the road not a disaster . It shows how much you want to stop by being 1 glass and then your asking for help well done for 5 months Its a long road but not an impossible one. Your not back to square 1 good luck and take care

shockthemonkey · 12/03/2019 07:51

Well done OP! Amazing work (and I know it's sometimes very hard work staying sober, but it's so rewarding, isn't it?).

ReggieWoo · 12/03/2019 07:57

Well done OP.

It's never just one and you'll be so pleased you didn't.

One day at a time.

Livpool · 12/03/2019 07:57

Well done OP xx

Duchessgummybuns · 12/03/2019 08:01

Well done, another recovering alcoholic here. It’s so tough, especially when alcohol is everywhere. Keep on keeping on, I find this diagram helpful on bad days.

IABU - I’ve just had a glass of wine
willitbe · 12/03/2019 08:03

Well done Hiphopopotamus - you are doing well, it is good you had this thread to come back to re-read. Keep strong and focused as the few days progress.