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IABU - I’ve just had a glass of wine

321 replies

Hiphopopotamus · 06/06/2018 19:17

And I’m a recovering alcoholic. 5 months sober. All gone now like I’d never bothered. So here I am, back to square one

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lastnamefirstfirstnamelast · 06/06/2018 20:44

Dont drink that bottle OP, the first glass has caused a trigger. You'll feel much better tomorrow if you dont drink it x

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 06/06/2018 20:46

OP you are amazing for reaching out, this really is no big deal, you can pull it back. Is there anyone you can visit, and drop them in a bottle of wine, on your way home. You've done five months, that's an achievement. Stay on track Lovely !

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Alwayslumpyporridge · 06/06/2018 20:49

Try this analogy, if you had slightly cracked the screen on your phone you wouldn’t smash it up, if anything you would be more careful with it. Now imagine that your sobriety is that phone. Ditch the bottle and call your sponsor

Ginkypig · 06/06/2018 20:50

hip take a step back!

You posted this thread because one glass is a signal and you don't really want to drink the bottle so your reaching out for help
Well done that means you can see where this is heading but you still have the opportunity to pull this back.

stop catastrophising you have had a wobble and knocked yourself back a couple of steps but you haven't ended up at square one your still far far into your journey!

ghostyslovesheets · 06/06/2018 20:50

don't drink more - AA

iklboo · 06/06/2018 20:52

How is it 'clear' the OP is a troll? If you think she is report the thread.

lljkk · 06/06/2018 20:55

CALL YOUR SPONSOR

senioritabonita · 06/06/2018 20:56

No. This is not the way it is at all. Throw the bottle away and call your sponsor.

Deandre · 06/06/2018 20:57

But your not back to square one, square one is doing it and not caring, you do care because you’ve posted about it, your at square two, higher than square one, tip it out, it will give you pleasure knowing you’ve gained strength in being able to do this knowing you could have just given in.

Your stronger than what you give yourself credit for...otherwise you’d be at square one.

Malbecqueen · 06/06/2018 21:04

I know this place. It's a journey. You can say "feck it" and drink that bottle, but you will feel utterly sh*te tomorrow and will have even further to climb back up. Put it away. Make a cup of tea. Have a biscuit. I know you don't want to and this seems ridiculous by comparison, but give yourself some space. Work through it moment by moment - "I'll have this cup of tea and then see whether I really still want one"... I'll brush my teeth and get ready for bed, and then see..." You owe it to yourself... moment by moment... you've done phenomenally well - and you know how much better you feel off the wine... keep breathing and keep us posted xx

KarmaStar · 06/06/2018 21:05

Are you still in here op?

smashhits90s · 06/06/2018 21:08

It happens Op. you've been sober for 5 months and that's fantastic. 1 glass is a blip. Pour the rest away. You can do this.

HonkyWonkWoman · 06/06/2018 21:11

Hope you're ok Hipho!
Pour the wind down the sink and eat something sweet. Get some biscuits or chocolates and a cup of tea.
It's really not too late to stop! So stop, right now!

HonkyWonkWoman · 06/06/2018 21:12

Wine !!!!

MadMags · 06/06/2018 21:17

Don’t bring that bottle into your house.

Throw it in a public bin.

Get home and call your sponsor. You HAVEN’T fucked it up. You CAN stop at that one glass.

Please, go home, have some tea. Go to bed.

CoffeeOrSleep · 06/06/2018 21:18

Are you still on your way home? Pick a house - put the wine bottle on the doorstep, give yourself a little giggle at how crazy they will think their milkman is. Keep walking.

You are not drunk yet. You have had 1 glass of wine. You are still not drunk, you can decide to stay that way.

Leave the wine somewhere. Don't allow it in your house. Go home, drink a pint of water. Call your sponsor. Eat something sugary.

DragonMummy1418 · 06/06/2018 21:28

It takes a stronger woman to pour away that bottle than it does to drink it.
You are strong! You can do it!
Thanks Please call someone.

Dollius01 · 06/06/2018 21:29

OP, that one glass has triggered a craving which will be very, very hard to resist. Don't beat yourself up about it. Alcoholism is a vile disease and many, many people have hiccups along the way before they achieve sobriety.

Bloody well done on the months you have managed it. You did that once, and you can do it again.

But please, please call your sponsor or a fellow recovering alcoholic. They will show you compassion and understanding.

If you are in AA, try to stay close to the fellowship for the next few weeks - a meeting every day if you can. It will really help.

TheEmmaDilemma · 06/06/2018 22:08

Smash it. Do it now for your sake x

Ginger1982 · 06/06/2018 22:24

Don't drink the bottle!

If you dropped your phone and cracked the screen you wouldn't jump up and down on it because 'oh well it's cracked anyway' would you?

lljkk · 06/06/2018 22:46

She's getting blotto. I love AA, honest, but the all-or-nothing stance makes some feel inspired to go for it harder when they slip off the wagon "This is my only chance!" "I've waited this long" attitude.

Just excuses, obvs.
I hope someone in OP's real world life helps them get sober again, soon.

Halebeke425 · 06/06/2018 23:33

Just know that this is not the end of your road to recovery and you can come back from this. I hope you find the support you need and are ready and willing to take it when the time comes Flowers

TheHeathenOfSuburbia · 07/06/2018 09:38

How's the hangover, @Hiphopopotamus? Smile Did you get the 3am sweaty wine regrets? That's always a treat.

Be kind to yourself today. You're a person who hasn't drunk for 149 of the last 150 days, that's awesome!

I like the saying, "You don't lose- either you win, or you learn". So take this as a learning experience; what are you using for support at the minute? Do you need more support, or a different type, or...?

Hiphopopotamus · 12/03/2019 01:19

Apologies for resurrecting my own zombie-ish thread but I’ve just been reading through all these posts again. I did keep drinking that night and kept drinking for the next three months. Just shows how screwed up my thinking was. I suffered some bad consequences for falling off the wagon but I’ve now been sober for six months again and I’m almost back on track.

My reason for seeking out this thread is that my DH has gone away for a few days and there is so much of me that is tempted to drink. That warped part of my head is saying that I have the house to myself, no responsibilities (still no kids so no need to worry about the children) My head is telling me that I could just enjoy some drinks for a few days and no-one would know. Just a little freebie.

Reading this thread has been so helpful in remembering exactly how I felt after breaking my sobriety last time and how awful it was and how difficult it is to get back on the wagon. So I won’t be drinking this week. I’ll be keeping going, eating healthy and doing good things.

Thanks to everyone’s wise words on this thread. I wasn’t ready to hear them last June but they have really helped today.

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