To think 2pm on a Sunday is an anti-social time to barbeque?

[BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot]

One of my sets of neighbours are an obnoxious couple in the early throes of retirement. They have children my age and grandchildren who are toddlers. This time of the year until October now they will be barbequeing almost daily and twice daily on a weekend with the kids and grandkids noisily "enjoying" The garden.

We work full time. The only time we can feasibly peg out washing is the weekends but with this good weather every weekend from 1pm 2pmish their barbeque is fired up and doesn't go off until dinner.

I freely admit I don't like them as it is but this just tips the balance. Do tell me I'm being unreasonable...ill just ignore you keep seething while they stink my washing out.

[Pancakeflipper]

I love your neighbour Kurri!!!
That would make me sit the garden waiting for him to begin the entertainment.

[Foxyloxy1plus1]

We had a barbecue yesterday. We had grandchildren in the garden. They weren’t silent. They were running around the garden and in and out of their house. Their parents and grandparents were speaking to them. Occasionally, the parents told them not to do something.

We all ate the food and then we went to the beach. When we came home, they didn’t play out again and they went home at 6pm. I don’t think any of that is unreasonable.

I think that you, OP are ageist and have probably expected everyone to agree that your washing is more important than anything else. What you forgot is that the irritations you say you suffer are easily avoidable and you have been told so, about a hundred times.

You don’t like them. Fair enough, they aren’t your sort of people. Has it occurred to you that they might not like you and that they might be pretty fed up of living near you.

[BewareOfDragons]

You are joking, right?

[Flaminglingos]

Maybe gather all your personal documents that you've been meaning to shred,and start a bonfire at exactly 2:30pm.

[BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou]

My neighbours often bbq at lunchtimes on weekends. Doesn’t bother me. It doesn’t affect my washing any more than normal cooking smells.

If the weather isn’t good enough to put washing outside it is on an aired in my kitchen.....where I do a sort of indoor BBQ.....

[Roussette]

What are they doing that is wrong? The BBQ season is so short because half the time it's raining anyway, so when a bit of good weather comes, you begrudge neighbours enjoying it? Don't be so miserable!

You talk of other NDNs having bouncy castles and parties, yet you moan about this couple having their GCs round for a BBQ. Also I imagine you're exaggerating massively in your OP saying it's every day!

Move your washing line somewhere else if that's such a thing for you. Also I leave out washing while we barbecue and unless it is only a foot away, it doesn't smell. There's plenty of fresh air out there for everyone!!!

Right... must skedaddle... just off to light the barbecue!

[Ikabod]

We lit our bbq at this time today. I know it's annoying but they have the right to use their garden as they wish. And lighting a bvq on a sunny afternoon in June is perfectly reasonable.

[PurpleTigerLove]

You need to buy a house without neighbours

[BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou]

my heart sank at the whiff of barbecued meat wafting through my windows at 2pm, so I know where you're coming from.

I could smell bacon cooking at 9am this morning. The smell was wafting into my bedroom window and making me sad that I don’t have any bacon in at the moment. It wasn't being cooked outside but in my neighbours kitchen....perhaps I should have demanded she shut her windows when cooking......

[MiggeldyHiggins]

I never hang any washing out, and cannot understand the general enthusiasm for doing so

Its the normal way to dry clothes. Other than a dryer or a damp house full of damp washing, how else are people going to do it?

[BingTheButterflySlayer]

Only 2 barbecues a week sounds like utter bliss... our next door neighbour seems to have one every single bloody night (I'm not joking - it's like he goes into kitchen refusal mode in March until September every year) all Spring/Summer/early Autumn. Right under our back bedroom window and until he bought a posho gas one he used the stinkiest lighter fluid going that made me physically wretch with the smell of it.

Burns his dinner to an appropriately crispy cinder on his comedy oversized barbecue we've nicknamed The Beast, then whips his top off to show the world his pasty white man boobs and plays darts in his back garden while gobbing off to his son about how fucked up the country is with all the "coloured people and gypsies in it". Every frigging night if it's not raining... if it's raining they've got a gazebo they'll pop up that will inevitably get blown in wind overnight and end up in our garden.

We've had to move our kids bedroom and squeeze into the box room ourselves with pretty much only room for our double bed because the noise and constant smoke and Daily Mail comments section rants were getting so disruptive.

I take consolation in the fact that him and his son drink so much booze and eat so much red meat they're a heart attack waiting to happen and we might lose them eventually (I don't think they'll ever move house willingly so it's just grit teeth and tolerate the fuckers).

Last nights was also doing a drinking game, plus mates around for singalonga hits of the 80s - went on past midnight and that's fairly typical. I'm just a bit obsessional about washing needing to be on the line stupidly early (or overnight if I can time it for after Captain Sausage-Idiot turns The Beast off) to get it dried before man creates fire once again.

[howabout]

YABU to do laundry on a Sunday - my Grannie would have been tutting. She wouldn't have approved of the BBQ either mind.

All these problematic ndn garden issues are making me glad I live in a flat. I never hang out washing either - even today after a thoroughly lovely afternoon at the park we came home to rain.

[EastMidsMummy]

I hate the smell of barbecues & have never had a barbecue or attended one in my entire life.

WTF?

[TheMonkeyMummy]

YABU.

[happymummy12345]

It's a normal time for it

[LilyMarie]

Have a chat with them and ask what times they like to barbecue? Then maybe arrange to hang your washing out between 8am and 1pm before they start their barbecues. This issue could easily be solved with basic communication, no need for seething and dagger eyes over the fence!

[Lizzie48]

The best way to handle this is surely to enjoy your own garden and have your own barbecue, or a picnic in the garden. ? As PPs have said, the good weather doesn't last long in this country anyway. If you can't beat them join them as the saying goes.

[RedForFilth]

I don't understand why its the only time to do washing? I work 60 hours a week and I'm a single mum but organise my life so I don't have to do chores on a Sunday!

[RoadToRivendell]

Do your neighbours cook poo burgers or something?

Too funny!

I think we all really enjoy having neighbours who make less than full use of their gardens, but we're in no position to demand it. Sorry OP. They sound like hard work.

[HushabyeMountainGoat]

YABU. We also work full time. I put the washing machine on timer to start at about 4am and then peg it out at 6am before work.

[tremendous]

But a tumble dryer

[tinytemper66]

I returned from holiday yesterday. I washed 4 loads of clothes this morning, dried them outside and brought them all in by 2pm. It can be done!!
Now the ironing on the other hand......

[PickAChew]

It's a perfectly normal time to barbecue but I can understand how it would be hard on neighbours if it was every day.

[SluttyButty]

My old neighbours fired the bbq up most days and every weekend. It was a gas one if that makes any difference I'm crap at cooking outdoors and husband isn't much better so we're clueless and my washing never smelt

[PickAChew]

Bing you need to sit out in the garden with Classic FM on. That's pretty much what transport interchanges do, up here, to keep undesirables at bay. Like a cat scarer for louts.