To think 2pm on a Sunday is an anti-social time to barbeque?

[BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot]

One of my sets of neighbours are an obnoxious couple in the early throes of retirement. They have children my age and grandchildren who are toddlers. This time of the year until October now they will be barbequeing almost daily and twice daily on a weekend with the kids and grandkids noisily "enjoying" The garden.

We work full time. The only time we can feasibly peg out washing is the weekends but with this good weather every weekend from 1pm 2pmish their barbeque is fired up and doesn't go off until dinner.

I freely admit I don't like them as it is but this just tips the balance. Do tell me I'm being unreasonable...ill just ignore you keep seething while they stink my washing out.

[Vitalogy]

Don't worry OP. All those burgers, sausages and red meat means they will soon be at the centre of the crematorium barbecue.

[LionAllMessy]

The bastards haven't been cutting the grass, too, have they?

HAS to be the same OP!

[Lizzie48]

We have neighbours who love to have bbqs in good weather, but they have a perfect right to do so. It's at a reasonable time after all so we wouldn't dream of complaining. Our 2 DDs play with their DD so we just don't make a fuss. They haven't complained about our 4 cats going into their garden, though, so it works both ways.

You live next door to each other, so it's in your interests and theirs to get along. If you can't cope with any noise from neighbours is to live in the country, without any annoying neighbours.

Or else you talk to your neighbours and find a compromise that works for both of you. In my experience, people respond much better if you approach them looking for a solution that works for all of you. If you go in there all guns blazing, chances are it won't end well, and what's the point of that when you have to go on living next door to each other??

[Onlyoldontheoutside]

I am blessed with neighbour with small children splits of washing out at weekends.They have BBQs but let us all know if washing out.
One side has started playing radio during the day but I try to ignore it as it is gone on the evening when the kids go to bed.

[StewPots]

@CurlyhairedAssassin unfortunately my neighbour is quite snotty and looks down on us, I feel really judged by her even if DS is just pottering in the garden with his bike making noise or we are in the hot tub when she's out there.
Her garden is lovely and had a lot of money spent on it, ours is tidy and clean but shabby looking... either way whenever we have been in our garden she gives us dirty looks of she sees us out front or has been known to storm in and slam the door if we are out there.

She spends her time off reading in the sun, sure she doesn't want us lot cramping her style ruining her concentration 🙄. So we limit garden time because it's not worth the hassle.

[BorchesterTowers]

YABU

Completely. 2pm is an absolutely normal time to have a barbecue on a Sunday - a relaxed lunchtime.

You sound quite rude & envious about your neighbours - people are allowed to retire, you know, and use their garden on the weekend. FFS

[StewPots]

She also decides if you're worthy enough to say good morning to, depending on what we've been doing I guess. BBQ hot tub etc then if we see her and say good morning we get a reply. Enjoying the garden or DS been riding his bike out front? Don't even look at her because you get ignored anyway. Ridiculous I know.

[nakedscientist]

YABU

Get a tumble dryer and chill out!

[daisychain01]

You've got all morning to hang washing out. Get up early, out by 930am, dry by 11am this weather.

Be nice. It's summer.

[crayoladreamz]

Eh? Seems like the perfect time to BBQ?

[MumofBoysx2]

Um, to be honest if you said 'when is the perfect time to BBQ' I probably would have said 2pm. Sorry!

[daisychain01]

I would have sworn the thread was going to be about lawn cutting. BBQs at 2 pm takes it to a new level of grumpiest NDN award.

[AllMYSmellySocks]

To be fair if you actually read the OP they're doing it CONSTANTLY. That is obviously fairly antisocial.

[Bluelady]

Never heard of such a ridiculous complaint.

[Snugglepumpkin]

I hate the smell of barbecues & have never had a barbecue or attended one in my entire life.

If I had to guess what the most reasonable time for someone to have a barbecue on the weekend was, I'd guess somewhere around 2-3pm.
YABU.

[welshmist]

Wash it at night, hang it out overnight or early in the morning, then run and grab it when they fire up the bbq. They sound like lovely grandparents putting up with the kids/grandkids so much.

[kalapattar]

BBQ at 2pm - fine

Constant BBQs outside, loud noise outside, everyday, all summer - does start to affect the neighbours.

You need to start this again next week - but rewrite the OP.

[Amatullah]

Hahaha is this you!

[keepingbees]

Slightly off at a tangent here but why do they swear at you for speaking to them nicely?

[SevenStones]

Sounds a perfectly reasonable time to have a BBQ.

[lifechangesforever]

The most unreasonable post of the day goes to..

Of course YABU, Sunday afternoons are the perfect time to BBQ.

[Lizzie48]

Come on, AllMYSmellySocks in this country we need to make the most of the good weather we do get. We had such a long winter this year. Before we know it this good weather will be over.

I actually quite like the smell of bbqs actually.

[AlmostAJillSandwich]

Im kind of jealous actually, i love that smell, i'd take it over the smell of regular line dried clothing any day. Not sure if its just here, but regardless of the powder/tablets/detergent, anything hung outside to dry just loses all smell of anything nice and just has an odd, unclean smell to it once its brought in. I'd prefer all my clothing dried indoors however we have damp and mold issues (no central heating, cant afford to get any) so not an option.
Also, they are older, they have grandchildren who i assume are pretty young? So their bedtime will be pretty early, pushing forward the BBQ time til earlier. Hang out first thing and in by dinner, or hang out late and leave overnight to bring in first thing. I do sympathise that it is annoying, but you can't control what they choose to eat and how they cook, so just need to try your best to work around it. If you lived next door to an asian family who ate typical heavily spiced cuisine and the smell of their cooking was wafting out their open window and affecting your clothes, would you be as angry? Plenty of people live in acomodation with no outdoor space, and still manage to dry washing, it is manageable.

[drearydeardre]

YANBU - I am with you all the way.
Sadly there are lots on here who have an entitled view of the world and barbeque when and where they like - with associated noise.
These early retirees with young grandchildren while you two work all week - it would make me angry too. (especially as it is every fine weekend!)
Yes you can enjoy yourself in your garden as you wish but spare a thought for noise-sensitive people who hate the smell of burning meat, screaming toddlers and keep it down a bit.
As well as a 'right' to do what you like you also have a 'responsibility' to be a bit considerate.

[PolkerrisBeach]

I didn't realise that there was a rule that BBQ was only acceptable for dinner and not for lunch.

2pm on a Sunday is a very normal time for a barbecue.