Did you have a fancy proposal?

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I didn't. We decided to get engaged together and I even chose the ring. When I tell people they're very surprised, and say they hope their other half takes them on a fancy holiday before popping the question.

Am I alone in getting engaged like this? I don't know if I've missed out on the excitement of a surprised proposal. But surely in a long term relationship you know it's coming? And will have spoken about it at least? The proposer will need to know the other wants to get married surely?

No fancy proposal.
Can’t actually remember being asked.....it was in the days when the civil service used to give you a weeks leave if you got married.handy for a childcare crisis at the time.

He did buy the ring and surprise me when he proposed.. but i knew it was coming at some point in the next few months cause we had spoken aboout it. We were at home and although a lovely surprise, it was very casual and chilled. I definitely prefer this..idve been so embarassed if hed made some huge deal in public.. i hate being centre of attention etc

Nope, no fancy proposal. No big wedding. Not even a wedding dress.

But a very very happy marriage.

No, not at all. We just had a conversation about getting married and decided we would - there was no proposal as such.

Oh proposed to me on the 13th February 2015 whilst I was pregnant and laid up in bed with sinusitis and a bad nose bleed due to the pressure.
I think he had plans of a more romantic proposal the following day...
I was happy with the way he proposed. I don’t think I would have been fit to leave the house on Valentine’s Day anyway, and the proposal really cheered me up when I was feeling so bad.

I got home pissed from my work Xmas do and he was sat watching telly. He went to the loo and came back down with the ring and got on one knee. He’d had the ring a few weeks and planned on proposing on Xmas day, but as we were chatting when I got home he realised he couldn’t wait any longer and wanted us to have our own special time rather than it be shared with Xmas. I’m glad he did it that way as it meant I got a night of amazing shagging which wouldn’t have happened had he proposed in front of the DC on Xmas morning .

Same. Decided to get married and bought a ring. My dh was too shy for the big public proposal. Slightly envious of others getting this tho!

DH told me his sister's car was broken down at our local beach, and we had to go and rescue her. When we arrived, there was a picnic laid out on the beach, with roses and champagne and so on. But DH has never been the romantic sort, so daft fool me, I was still staring round the beach going, "Where is she? Do you think she tried to walk the coastal path? We need to step away from these people's picnic, they'll be back in a minute!" ... until I recognised DSIL's china and wine glasses, and realised the picnic was for us, and by then he was on one knee.

It was v lovely and surprising, though I wouldn't say "fancy". Beach was exceptionally quiet, but the proposal was witnessed by one elderly gent walking his dog, who came to congratulate us, and one lost guy with a rolled up yoga mat searching for the beach yoga class!

Yes my proposal was amazing!

I loved it!

No we were on the way to the tip.
( Now married 24 years)

We decided to together, to make things easier for a move abroad. We picked the ring out together but had a slight wait in collected it and me receiving it. Now DH then proposed after cooking a meal and got down on one knee.

We were living in the forrin country where now OH had been posted to. When i was about 7- 8 months preggers we went to a Consulate party.
The Consul, our friend, phoned 'OH' the next morning and told him that x years ago he and his wife had been in exactly our position, ie unmarried and pregnant partner, and they had to marry to comply with the laws of the land. He spelled them out = if a child is born to an unwed woman, irregardless of the years the two had been together, the State would claim the child as its own and we would need to go to Court to prove parentage. This could take some years and until it could be proved the child would be taken away to be looked after by the State!

So I was, if you like,a reluctant bride. I didn't and still don't, believe in the concept of being 'given' in marriage ffs!, but the alternative, that of me coming to the UK for the birth and returning when kiddo was old enough to travel, was an absolute no-no for me.

So our Consul friend published the banns at the Consulate (three weeks I think) and we had a Civil marriage just in time! I was terrified of even coughing untll we'd had the ceremony

Brilliant venue, tho, and the three things I had to agree to were actually promises I agreed with, so all was well.

And the party lunch after was bloody brilliant.

He proposed over a picnic in the park on my birthday and we chose the ring together. Honestly, I think it's really grabby to expect to be taken on a fancy holiday for a proposal.

DH proposed at the O2 watching John Legend with my grandmother's 75yr old engagement ring. I loved it.

It was funnier because the day before he'd done a sack race and had it in his pocket (I didn't know at the time)

That is exactly how I got engaged op. When we had the discussion DD was 6 months old and DH said he had considered proposing while I was in hospital giving birth, so glad he didn't do that.
We got married almost exactly a year later when DD was 18 months and today is our 2 year anniversary.

Mine had suprised me with an holiday in the Caribbean (knew we was going somewhere just not where) we had a perfect holiday and no kid i had no idea he was planning it and i almost asked him that very same day but i always wanted to be proposed to so i decided he would do it in his own time he asked me on a deserted beach at night :-)

Ours wasn't fancy either.

We'd already talked about it and I'd dropped some heavy hints. He proposed at home with no ring.

We went ring shipping the day after and we chose something that he'd never have picked out for me which I instantly fell in love with and still do.

I don't feel like I've missed out for not having a flashy proposal because I'm a home bird and MrGunty is romantic in other, less obvious ways.

It's our 15th anniversary today!

No, and I never had a ring either. He’s been an amazing husband for 15 years though and makes me laugh every single day so I wouldn’t change a thing.

Yes, and it was wonderful.
Had a fancy wedding, too, and funnily enough still didn't fall apart after 6 months!

I love all these stories - it just shows that the real sign of a good marriage is having the glue in place that holds you together. A fancy engagement does not guarantee a happy marriage, but nor does it condemn one either.

We had a very special engagement in Rome. That said, I can see how sitting on the sofa and it just feels the tight time and you are already together years ... I think that is lovely too.

No big fuss here, the ring box was at the bottom of a stocking filled with other little presents, he gave it to me on Christmas morning when it was just the two of us.

Married quietly (fewer than 30 people with us) 10 months later and still happy nearly 14 years later.

No fancy proposal here. We were shopping for my birthday present and decided to buy a birthday/engagement ring. My ring doesn't look like a traditional engagement ring and we didn't tell anyone, other than the people closest to us, so it took months for people realise.

Hardly fancy but we are still together so it has never bothered me.

DH had been a friend for a couple of years before we dated.

He asked me in the garden of his great grandparents house which was set in a few acres and very private, his family kept it as a holiday home. We were laid on a rug on the grass and it was a beautiful sunny day.

We stayed locked away from the world telling no one for three days. Then drove to closest city picked a ring and rang round family and friends.

Oh yes, the rings! In that culture there was an exchange of rings ( def a no-no in OH's work) so he went off to the Jewellery Quarter with my finger measurement and bought them. Back home I hammered a nail into the wall over our bed, where DH's ring got posted.threatened told him I'd put it through his bloody nose, and lead him round,like a pig, if he annoyed me.
Later we designed and had a ring made for me which I absolutely love.