Did you have a fancy proposal?

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I didn't. We decided to get engaged together and I even chose the ring. When I tell people they're very surprised, and say they hope their other half takes them on a fancy holiday before popping the question.

Am I alone in getting engaged like this? I don't know if I've missed out on the excitement of a surprised proposal. But surely in a long term relationship you know it's coming? And will have spoken about it at least? The proposer will need to know the other wants to get married surely?

My husband proposed to me in Bali. Went ring shopping when we came home and got married 6 months later in NYC.

Not at all . We went together to book the hotel for the reception and then about 6 months later he turned to me and said “ what about it ?”

for Proseccoagain and Musicaltheatremum, I’m sorry for both of your losses. I hope the years you each had with your DH’s were happy ones with happy memories. x

We were spending Christmas/New Year at the PILs. We'd gone to bed after seeing the new year in and we were talking about the future. I asked if he wanted to get married and he said we might as well.

I designed my engagement ring and he got MILs favourite jeweller to make it. He went down on one knee in the shop when we went to collect it (it took DSD & me to get him back up )

Nope, just woken up by dp after a night of being ill ( morning sickness and 3 months pregnant) and he asked me to marry him.
People tell us that he didn't propose properly but it was perfect for us. We aren't flashy or center of attention people so it was very us

Nope, he asked if I wanted to get married the next spring, I said "yes, finally!" (6.5 years together) and I sourced and purchased my own rings. Job done.

I'm not into asking dad's permission either. My bil asked both (separated) parents and they both asked why he was asking them when it was their daughter he wants to marry!
I'm also not fussed in any way about a ring. Waste of money imo! I come from a family which isn't materialistic in any way. We weren't shown love through gifts but through those little acts of kindness and care which mean so much. I'm very lucky.

He always said he didn't believe in marriage, just a bit of paper etc.

Later we spoke about TTC, I said I want to be married before having them and that was very important etc.

One day, out of the blue, on a Friday evening while slobbing out watching crap on Netflix & stuffing my face with Jacob's crinklys, he brought getting married up (after popping out once or twice to the pub for a pint 😆) and asked why I want to marry him (I didn't clock) then he just said so do you want to then? Then we went and bought a ring and I picked it.

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No proposal and no ring - very happy about both! Just discussed and then set the date!

I wouldn't say fancy but it was pretty bloody amazing! Him and his band were headlining a gig and there was a huge turnout for them - music is loud and fun, drinks are flowing, everyone's having a great time. Towards the end of the set the lead singer asks me to go up on stage, then my husband (obviously boyfriend at the time) drops to one knee and asks me to marry him in front of a huge crowd! The whole venue was cheering and he'd even gotten someone to record it. To top it all off the ring he'd picked for me was utterly beautiful and exactly what I would've gone for myself.

To me it was incredible, however I appreciate it might not have been to everyones taste!

Well we were on holiday but it wasn't to do with the proposal. We had been in France for a month and were lying in bed one afternoon and he just asked me. Nothing fancy but it was pouring outside the shutters and quite romantic because of how loving it was. He didn't have a ring or anything and to be fair it wasn't a surprise, not the first time we'd talked about it or he'd proposed. It just felt right. I said yes straight away and he said 'thick and thin mind. We're in it for the long haul whatever happens however tough it is- that's the deal' and I agreed. And we've stuck to it for 9 years. I would have hated a publc proposal.

My friend's boyfriend went down on one knee in a restaurant in Sunderland on a Sunday night. Can't imagine anything worse.

No, but it was just right ❤

Not "fancy" but he did make an effort. We were out for Valentine's Day (cliche I know) and went to a small restaurant that we always went to for date nights and he proposed after desert and got down on one knee etc.
The next day we went out shopping and chose the ring together.

Not fancy at all. We had talked about "when we get married" from when we moved in together a couple of years previously. It was in a dark, dirty rock club and he didn't actually ask until I got him to clarify what he was saying! Not on one knee....floor far to sticky, he'd still be there now. Song in the background turned out to be so inappropriate. We did get free fizz. We chose the ring together the following week. So not fancy but perfect for us.

No, we had previously discussed the best way of protecting each other when babies came along was marriage and so, when I was pregnant with our first, we got married

P.s have never had an engagement ring.

I do have a gorgeous wedding ring and an infinity tattoo on my ring finger

No. One evening we were talking about the future, I said I know you want to be the one who asks, but I don't know what's holding you up, it's not as if you know I'm not going to say yes, that was it. Married a few months later, that was 20 blissful years ago...

No! Was rather p*ssed and in bed at my folks house in the states. Next morning with raging hangovers we went and told my parents and their response was that my mum went 'JOHN! I want to talk to you in the kitchen RIGHT NOW' and then they stormed out. They came back and my dad went 'Well you know us, we're not gonna jump up and down are we?'. They ended up (despite us wanting a tiny tiny cheapo wedding) spending nearly 40k on 'their' day. It was... interesting. We would've been happy eloping (I think so would my dad!).

*No, I asked him. We were washing up at the time.

Now married close on 27 years.*

Similar to us. We were doing dishes after dinner when DH suddenly - and on the spur of the moment - flung the tea towel over his shoulder, went down one knee and asked me to marry him. He hates the fact it was "so unromantic" but I love the fact it was spontaneous and genuine.

That was 16 years ago.

No, he thought it was a good idea at the time, I didn't see anything better on the horizon so said yes. He bought the ring and I wore it, got married six months later and we're still together after 20 odd years.

I was 7 months pregnant with Dd he took us on a babymoon to Spain for 4 nights which he booked and only told me about the night before we went! (I wasn't cross it was sweet) it wasn't a big fancy holiday just a cheap last min deal. He took me for a lovely meal in the evening when we got there then walked me down to the beach then got down on one knee and presented me with a lovely ring he was shaking with nerves and he got all the words he wanted to say mixed up. Much fancier then a lot of engagements I suppose but I dont think you you need all that for a long and happy marriage and everyone's moments are equally as special when it comes to a proposal.. I would of been happy if it was at home in front of the telly but I was very grateful for the relaxing break away before dd was born. We have been married 7 months now.

Yes, but I knew it was coming, I helped to pick the ring (although he did change the diamond specs)

It was a beautiful and thoughtful proposal but I would've said yes to a haribo ring in our living room!

It had potential to be romantic, Cornish cliff top, sunset, 2 bottles of beer in a rucksack.
Except future DH said ' Fake, I've got something I want to ask you but first I need to do a shit'. After an hour's walk to find a loo it'd gone dark, I was tired and pissed off and a NT car park isn't quite what I'd hoped for.
22 years later I've almost forgiven him.

I also picked my own ring. I know my OH would have gone and taken out a zero interest loan and spent loads of unnecessary money. His mum has always been very much ‘money is love’ and he struggled with that himself.

I chose a simple, ‘fake’ solitaire ring on a gold band. It’s lovely, and exactly what I wanted. Cost £300, which is absolutely plenty.

So I know he was going to propose anyway, we’d always discussed getting married.

The scavenger hunt was lovely though, it started with my oldest son bringing me what I thought was a card because it was OH and I 5 year anniversary, but in the card was an instruction to find my gift, which was in the living room, and was a candle, and attached to the candle was a note containing a reason why he loves me and a clue to the next gift, which was in the kitchen, and a bunch of Roses, again this had a note explaining why he loves me and a clue to the next gift, which was in the office, and a bottle of champagne and again, a note with a reason he loved me and a clue to the next gift which was in the garden, when I got into the garden there was just a card, which I opened, and as I turned around OH was down on one knee with the ring.

I loved it, it was very much my OH as he is really, really romantic. But also accounting for my own tastes as I hate public shows etc.

No engagement ring. No proposal. We decided to get married as expecting a baby and wanted to do it before child born.

Still feel cheated 13 years on!