Did you have a fancy proposal?

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I didn't. We decided to get engaged together and I even chose the ring. When I tell people they're very surprised, and say they hope their other half takes them on a fancy holiday before popping the question.

Am I alone in getting engaged like this? I don't know if I've missed out on the excitement of a surprised proposal. But surely in a long term relationship you know it's coming? And will have spoken about it at least? The proposer will need to know the other wants to get married surely?

I had a poem countdown lol a line of it a day for 20days made a poem but I just thought it was an advent calendar.

Didn’t have a proposal. We had talked about marriage and agreed we both thought it was a good idea. Job done.

I find it strange when people say they had agreed to get married but then had a proposal. I have friends who have done this and I just don’t get it - once you agree to get married you are engaged surely, therefore a proposal is redundant.....

Dh proposed to me sitting listening to the music channel in the early hours of the morning. We'd actually had a row earlier on (I blame the fact I was in the very early stages of pregnancy), then made up and moved on.
There was no big speech, he went to the spare room, came back, sat down for a short while, then got down on one knee and said "will you marry me?". I said yes, he put the ring on, that was it. No one else there, nothing ott, perfect.

If I ever get a 'next time' or a round two, I want the ring and I want a heartfelt proposal. I want someone as driven to love me and our future as they are their own life.

Round 1 was just a drunken 'I think we should get married' while he was sat on a pavement eating a kebab after a night out.

That sort of set the tone for the rest of my life so far and his level of overall ambition and I'm starting to really resent him for it now I'm trying get somewhere in life. I'll be leaving soon, after 5 years of marriage, if it doesn't improve. Our son deserves a better rolemodel too.

Not a fancy one here. I was feeling very sorry for myself the day before my birthday with a cold and a huge cluster of cold sores. He proposed to cheer me up

DH (then DBF) walked into town to the shop to pick up the ring, complete surprise.

I had a neighbour knock on the door asking me to move DHs car as it was blocking them in. I rushed round trying to find his keys, ran out, barefoot, and did it. On the way back I didnt see the smashed milk bottle someone had left on the street and walked over it. Ended up in A&E. Ringing DH, he wasnt answering his phone. I left a message with his mum and asked her to get hold of him. An hour later, half way through 2 drs pulling the shards of glass out with big tweezers (Area heavily numbed and me high as a kite sucking on gas and air) DH arrived. Extremely sheepish about where he had been. Informed me he had gone for a drive to pick up some client books from work and didnt have his phone on. I knew this wasnt true (as I had moved his twatting car with no shoes on). I went nuts and accused him of everything under the sun. He then informed me Id spoilt everything and pulled the ring out . Been happily married over 15 years now.

I always think that the love of your life asking you to spend your life with him (or deciding together as a couple, or the woman asking the man) is fantastic enough, why do you need a sunset or a full brass band

Good grief no.
Nothing romantic like a proposal, engagement, or expensive rings.
All our friends who did this were divorced within 5 years of marriage, they expected too much of each other.
We are still together 30 years later and married for over 25 years now.
Expect expensive stuff and be prepared for it all to go tits up.
it's all false and the best weddings I've attended were registry office and back home for egg and chips.

Nope. We walked past a jewellers one day and he said "shall we go have a look at rings?"

Next thing I know, it was ordered and delivered by courier to my workplace a few weeks later while he was 1000 miles away 🤣

I have one friend who had a breathtakingly romantic proposal. The marriage lasted a couple of years and she's now happily married to someone else.

He took me to Italy. I wasn't really expecting a proposal as we'd only been together 6 months, but he got down on one knee on some cliffs and produced the ring. It was a diamond solitaire which was exactly what I would have chosen, though I did have to wear it in my middle finger until we had it altered as it was slightly too big. Now it's 16 years later but I'll never forget what he said that evening and the whole thing was a very special moment for us both.

Constance88 Next time I will ONLY accept a brass band at sunset, playing in the distance whilst dp kneels and presents me with the sparkliest aquamarine and diamond ring.

It's been 8.5 years of waiting so far....

I proposed on Blackheath station after getting drunk at a wedding. He said OK. We were 19 and it’s our Golden Wedding next year.

My dp was planning to do it at a quiet meal...the restaurant ended up being packed.
So he did at home. After kneeling down. Which made it difficult to pull the box out his pocket. Went to get up to be able to g t the box out and fell back on his ass..
He's still as clutsy now and I still can't wait to get married next year

I find the holiday proposal thing very cliche and impersonal - EVERYONE I know has been proposed to on holiday, it's so unimaginative.

DH's was very personal and private in a special location that meant a lot to us.

Telephone call when he was working overseas.

I picked my
Own ring too and we went
To a nice hotel watching the World Cup in bed in our dressing gowns, he pauses the footy pops the question and then resumes the tv!! I didn't care

I had a wonderful, thoughtful (but not showy) proposal. It involved following clues around London. I couldn’t believe how much love and thought went in to it. It’s still one of the most amazing days of my life.

No but it's was very meaningful and touching.
I suffer from cysts and it causes my periods to be very painful, I had come on unexpectedly during an overnight visit and could barely walk so he ran me a bath got me some pain relief and went out to get me some sanitary stuff, came back and whilst washing my hair told me he wanted to look after me like this always and then asked me to marry him.

I had been doing a 1 in 2 on call as a junior doctor in 1987. I was exhausted. My then boyfriend insisted we went for a walk up a hill where there was a fabulous view. He proposed at the top. I said yes. We married 5 months later and were married for 24 years until he died in 2012.

Haha. No grand gestures here either, but it was lush. We were at home, just the two of us, pissed out of our heads on rum when we started chatting about our lives together. I was rolling a smoke and when I turned around my then boyfriend was down on one knee with a ring. We cried, laughed and danced that night and texted our families in the morning. My husband had planned to do it someplace special but it felt right to do it then. He felt bad for it so we drove up to the sea the next day and did the proposal again on the beach.

I’m not for big gestures but I absolutely loved how he got in touch with my best friend from my home country to work out how to ask my father for my hand in my native language, and then he rang my dad and asked him. He couldn’t understand a word because he doesn’t speak English () but my dad’s fiancée explained it to him and he was chuffed. My husband also let me listen to a recording of him asking my dad if he could marry me. It was so sweet.

This could well be outing if there's anyone on here who knows me, but DH proposed in a Chinese grocery store in Singapore, completely unexpected. Chose the ring together a week or so later. Were together 49 years. He died in February.

I'm not romantic and would have been very suspicious of a big proposal. DH tried to propose in Venice but I got really grumpy at him for trying to take me down a street that seemed far too isolated. Then he was going to take me somewhere meaningful but then we saw friends and they had got engaged in precisely the way he'd planned. Then we went to friend's wedding and there was much made of them deciding to get married in a traffic jam on the M25. So he gave up trying to impress me and asked me at the wedding (weddings beget weddings as the old saying goes). I was grumpy with him and didn't say yes until the next day. We've been married 20 years. He still has to put up with me being grumpy.

Ginmakesitallok snap. Chip shop proposal for me too. On one knee on the greasy floor. :)

I wouldn't enter into any legal contract without first properly discussing it. I realise that isn't "romantic" to some. However I don't see marriage as a romantic thing either. I also earn more than my partner so I don't feel a desire to get married!