DH's no 'pooing....

[Mammyofonlyone]

DH has decided to try the no 'poo approach to hair care. Someone at work has told him it is 'meant to make your hair hold its stills better' or some such.
However, he has never been particularly fussed about his hair - we are not really a typically 'trend' driven family - and he has a standard men's style short crop. I should add he does have lovely thick healthy (albeit a bit grey now!) hair.
Obviously it up to him what he does with his hair but my issue is thus: in under one week his pillow case has gone from white to a gross yellowy brown! He has a special pillow to support his neck for which I have more than one cover but I'm not convinced Ill get them anywhere close to being white again when I wash them.
Apparently he is continuing to apply his styling product everyday - surely there is no need and eventually he'll end up with more wax than hair if he applies it every day and never washes it out?!?
I get the virtues of no poo in general but surely his is more aimed at people with longer hair where the condition is more evident?????
AIBU to want him to just wash his hair as he used to everyday??

Interesting that the trichologist thought bacteria in hair was an issue. I have read that bacteria on skin, like in the gut can be very useful and healthy and that using soap destroys the skins ability to protect itself.

Nanny - you can. There's v gentle cleaning agents in the majority of them. I haven't used shampoo for over a year

Oh and you need to scrub your scalp really well, I do probably 5-7 mins of scrubbing each time I wash

Exactly Candy! He doesn't have styles!! He has short standard man in his 40s style hair. There aren't really a lot of options. I think he must've been talking to the trendy people in the office who do have actual styles

the grey lady
You have just reminded me of something!
I home-dyed my hair not so long ago & it was way too dark. I decided (thanks to google) to try and strip some of the colour by washing it with washing up liquid.
I used Asda pomegranate and raspberry leaf & was expecting it to be dry & matted after scrubbing and rinsing several times but ended up with the softest shiniest hair!
It's 50p a bottle... I might give it another go!

Thx for the tip Toffee. Will defo be trying that

@migGril if you’re on Facebook there is a curly girl group - called Curly Girls! (Conditioner washing group...)
There’s loads of information in the files and some super helpful people on it.
I’ve been curly girl for 18 months and the difference in my hair is amazing.

If the pillow cases are white I’d be soaking them in diluted bleach overnight.

The curly girl methods are pretty revolutionary. Be warned, it can take some time to adjust to it and many people report a somewhat icky stage that is hard to get through. Best to start it on holidays, or during some life stage when you don’t care (operation rehab, caring for a newborn?).

My (straight haired) hairdresser had a child with tight ringlets. Masses of them. We laughed that there’d been a baby swap (my dd, born same week, has her hair!). I introduced her to curly girl hair mgmnt thinking, and now she’s introduced it to her whole salon. Bonus for me!

I can’t say I recommend the CG actual product range. It had weird old lady fragrance added (stunk out the bathroom) and meant no other curly family members wanted to use it. So stupid on the company’s part. Hopefully they’ve fixed it by now. I’ve found local alternatives that work with the system.

When I did no poo I still conditioned my hair.

Yuk at the pillow

That's the first time I've seen 'poo for shampoo. Talk about a double take...

I dare say it works well for some, but for others it's not pleasant to smell unwashed hair. There was a man who regularly came into my workplace - not homeless or anything, but evidently didn't believe in it - we tried to avoid getting too close since it was very unpleasant.
Ditto the odd person sitting in front on the bus.

It's occurred to me lately that a few decades ago - certainly when I was much younger - you used to see an awful lot of dandruff on people's shoulders. I haven't seen any for ages - I wouldn't mind betting it's down to much more frequent hair washing.

You can buy shampoo now that doesn't contain SLS or parabens. You can even buy extra sensitive baby shampoo. I don't understand why you would give it up altogether? Doesn't the scalp feel uncomfortable?

Clionba - I see it like using an oil or balm to clean your skin instead of a foaming wash. Scalp actually feels more comfortable, less dry and flaky

Right, Ollivander, does it get rid of the sweat etc if you've got very hot /exercising?

aaah! So you still 'wash' your hair but use plain water or conditioner? I thought you just stopped washing it altogether and wondered how this would work as surely the scalp still produced oil etc.

I would insist:

a) he is fully responsible for cleaning said pillowcases back to whiteness

b) it’s putting you off sex

That may change his mind.

Don’t try Toffee’s tip OP. Your DH can try it.

I'm another bloke who started doing similar a few years ago - but just cutting down on shampoo. A little when necessary rather than a big wodge every time I'm in the shower. Works fine for me, I would say a little oilier than regularly shampoo'd hair, but I'm not sure zero-oil is a natural state for hair. I am still showering it regularly, using fairly hot water.

What never occurred to me is that I would stop using this one thing (shampoo) but carry on putting other shit in my hair. The point is to let the hair look after itself in a slightly more natural way by leaving it to it's own devices. In my case, I apply a bit of shampoo only if it's not coming clean with a few minutes of hot water. Cutting out shampoo but shoving wax in every day is grim.

Using an abbreviation which is well known slang for faeces is ridiculous.

Clionba - yep, I ride my horse so my head gets sweaty a lot and it works fine

Does anyone remember this from last year?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-38812935

And I agree, make him clean his own pillow... yuck.

No poo actually means no shampoo, you can clean it but you use a cleansing conditioner instead or something like apple cider vinegar to clean it and then conditioner. You can even buy no poo shampoo by DevaCurl.

For hair prone to oil, like many people with straight hair have, shampoo is essential as it strips it of oil. Curly and afro hair needs the oil in the hair and shampoos containing silicones, sulphates etc. remove the oil from it causing it to dry out and frizz.

If he has curly or afro hair, try something else rather than the no shampooing at all as I've said above and tell him to wash his bloody hair!

I have long thick curly hair and curly girl method didn't work for me, and I did persist for a while. I just use paraben and sls free shampoo. Curly I wash every day to get rid of product if I dry and straighten I can go for a week and it's not greasy but I start to crave washing it thoroughly. Your husband is disgusting. I lived with a guy at uni, intelligent, attractive, popular with the ladies, he refused to wash his pillow case because it had 'his smell' it was yellow and gross, about nine months in his room mate and close friend washed out when he was out. He went nuts.

The sebum produced by your scalp actually does nothing to moisturise your hair at all and just sits on top of it until washed off. Its the silicone usually in the shampoo/conditioner used that make the hair shaft lie flat and smoother, so making the hair more manageable, less prone to frizz, and less tangled.

I don't get why people insist on no sulphates or silicone in hair products. There's no evidence as far as I know to suggest that they do any damage to your hair or scalp.