Softzilla, the police

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

I can't update just now but here's the new thread. I will update later when I can.

In a way I can understand people disbelieving this kind of story. Probably the doubters are kind and decent people who would never behave so deviously.

OP, you are not silly. And if you want to update, then you go ahead. I am glad that you have spoken to your friend and the leader, they at least have your back.

Unreasonable
Ignore the keyboard warriors, they have nothing better to do than put people down to make themselves feel better.

Glad group leader is still willing to be proactive and nip SZ crazy behaviour in the bud. She really is determined to do anything to affect you. How strange that nobody is going to the 'party' hmmm.

Anyone would think there's only room for one thread on Mumsnet and the OP keeps hogging it!

I think next time i see a group of people having a talk about something they've talked about before i'll march over and inform them i feel it's time they talked about something else

OP. We're still interested. And we outnumber the one's who aren't

sorry for joining in the derailing op-just trying to say what others have youre not silly you can post when you like

I can't help but think that a few posters would take it more seriously if it was a father instead of a mother in her group, doing the stalking.

I've known 2 men who were stabbed by women who were stalking them, one was a former partner, the other just a completely twisted person who dreamed up a connection.

Female stalkers can be just as scary and dangerous as male ones.

Glad group leader is across it. And I don’t blame party mum at all. Something like happens out of the blue. She probably wasn’t expecting it. Of course it’s going to throw you off. Glad you had a plan now though.

Please don’t feel put off posting. It’s a scary and weird position to be harassed. I’m glad the police have taken it seriously (even if some posters here haven’t)

LeighaJ
Exactly, it seems its not important/scary/threatening if its a woman doing it, its all just a fuss over nothing, she is just attention seeking bless her, just ignore her she will go away (clearly she isn not going away in this case but that seems to have slipped by some posters)

But if it was a man, the answers would be totally different I am sure.

I'm glad you and party mum have a plan in place in case it happens again this week. Hopefully it won't need to be implemented.

It must be very draining having to deal with this and wondering when/if this psycho will strike again.

Only thing I can report is this big anniversary party was supposed to be this weekend and still no one has heard anything about it
Hands up anyone who is surprised to hear this.

if softzilla approaches then group leader will ask her to leave. Group leader has said that if she's bothering party friend that she can come over to her too and the same will happen.

Good!

@Unreasonableunreasonableness I haven't said much but you have my complete support.

(((((Madd Hugs)))))) stalked survivor

This is absolutely the thing with stalking. It goes on, and on, and on, and so many of the incidents are so trivial in themselves that people not exposed to it are bemused by the victim's distress. And the stalker quite often backs off a bit, for a little while (if given some sort of smackdown)... then pops up again with a new bag of tricks.
Much sympathy to you, Unreasonable. That bloody woman. Sooner or later she will end up getting either arrested or a serious kicking.

That's it, @ReanimatedSGB stalking goes on and on over months and even years, and the victim has every right to go on posting about it if she gets support that way.

Nobody tells the posters on the Stately Homes thread to stop posting about their experiences, do they? What's the difference? I suspect the only difference is it's AIBU and posters think they have a right to be as obnoxious as they please.

I'm glad you and party mum and group leader have a plan for this week. I think poor party mum got a tough ride here, it can't have been an easy situation to deal with at the time and hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Has party mum been left alone other than last Fridays incident? If so that's good for her, but it does mean it was about you.

It's all well and good calling those voicing a different opinion twats, keyboard warriors etc but good point about the stalking.
I think having been stalked by a man has influenced by view somewhat. I was afraid for my life and those of my children- not turning up at the same social gatherings and documenting his every breath online as entertainment for the masses. The wording upthread was 'if this is no longer enjoyable for you then don't follow' (paraphrased). There is no enjoyment in reading about a stalking campaign, surely?

My view*

Blanche: the fact that you didn't want to (or perhaps there wasn't anything like MN when it happened) discuss your experience of being stalked online doesn't make you wrong or OP right or vice versa. OP is clearly finding it helpful to be able to vent and ask for suggestions. I'm a little tired of the people who keep coming back to the thread to piss and moan about how boring or implausible it is.

I left it in the hands of the police but I'll say no more as I'm no troll hunter and don't want to be seen as one.

I left it in the hands of the police but I'll say no more as I'm no troll hunter and don't want to be seen as one

And yet you are continuing to derail the thread!! If you don’t have anything relevant to add, or can’t be nice what’s the point?

Just because you were stalked by a man doesn’t make your experience more valid or important than OPs, it’s not top trumps. And it’s bad form to keep attacking an OP to the point she doesn’t want to post on her own thread!

No comment on that!
Stop derailing. You addressed me so I'm having to reply.

Nope, I responded to you and your continual derailing which is impacting OP unfairly. No need to respond, no need to post on the thread again.

What a carry on. I commented ONCE, because I can, as another poster expressed an alternative opinion and was getting it in the neck. The derailers are the likes of them, and you jumping into a pile on.
Difference of opinion. Meh. It happens.
I'll leave it at that.

You commented in support of the derailing challenged by MN and yet still continued? So it wasn’t once was it? Unless someone had your username and deregged.

Good luck to both you and party mum tomorrow sounds like group leader has your back.

Bollocks I have now realised it's Wednesday not Thursday so comment stands but for tomorrow

Hope all goes ok Friday op x