Softzilla, the police

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

I can't update just now but here's the new thread. I will update later when I can.

Jux thank you that works and is brilliant!!

She knew everything up to the point that I discovered that she was related to softzilla. So basically everything up to the anniversary invite and the police. But she was away on holiday last week anyway. She heard through her sister that the police had been over to softzilla's and put 2and 2 together and figured out it was me. Her sister doesn't know that she knows me.
I asked her why she didn't tell me and she said that she didn't realise that it was her when I first told her and when she did figure it out she felt awkward and worried how I'd feel about it. I told her that it had thrown me a bit but as much because I found out from someone else and that made me suspicious.
She's said she's ok if I don't want to talk to her about it, but said she'd not pass it on anyway. She is close to her sister but her sister also finds softzilla a 'difficult personality' so would probably sympathise with me. I have briefly outlined what went on.

Sounds like your mate is barely involved with SZ at all. But I can appreciate that she feels a bit awkward about it.
Hope the mad cow herself has not been acting up this week.

So was it SZ's anniversary? Was there any party, at all?

TBH if she's that randomly related to her, its fair enough she didn't really think about it. Not surprised her sister find SZ difficult though

She’s Softzilla’s SIL’s sister?

So Softzilla’s brother is married to her sister?

That is fairly distant - I have never met my brother’s partner’s two brothers. (And dh and SIL have been together over 10years.) I think I can remember their names but I’m not 100%.

She hasn't heard of any anniversary party. But she wouldn't necessarily know. They are distant but because they live in the same place with young kids, and it's quite a small town as you may be able to tell, paths do cross quite a bit.

Good luck for tomorrow OP. Are you going to go a bit early / on time / late?

When is the anniversary party? Has it supposedly happened already now?

she would have heard on the grapevine though about a party wouldnt she

I'm sure she'd have heard about the party if it had been real and not an excuse for softzilla to corner the op.

Op you say you want to just let all this go and move on but you're the one stoking the flames, presumably because you're enjoying the attention on these threads and in RL. Stop now.

Op you say you want to just let all this go and move on but you're the one stoking the flames, presumably because you're enjoying the attention on these threads and in RL. Stop now.

Op you say you want to just let all this go and move on but you're the one stoking the flames, presumably because you're enjoying the attention on these threads and in RL. Stop now.

Op you say you want to just let all this go and move on but you're the one stoking the flames, presumably because you're enjoying the attention on these threads and in RL. Stop now.

Sorry about multiple posts. App said it had failed

To be fair to the OP she wanted it all to die a death weeks ago, it's the other nutter that won't so she comes coming back to MN for support.

You can't reason with the unreasonable and SZ won't let it lie.

Meeting up with others to discuss it, multiple updates on MN (and they are "updates" not requests for help - that's the op's own word) are not the actions of a person wishing for it to die down.

Can I ask, what am I doing to stoke the flames? The conversation about softzilla yesterday was pretty brief. Mostly we talked about other stuff, like we usually would.

You are listening to the folks here, who are egging you on to keep it going, and then fanning the flames again here with updates.

If I were you I would answer all questions / comments in RL now with "I've moved on from that" and change the subject and leave this thread.

I know you're enjoying the drama but you're as bad as her now - or getting that way.

And PartyMom needs to get a life too. She's way too over invested.

And yes, I can tell it's a small town. All this meeting up and discussing everyone else with the same circle of people would drive me absolutely insane.

No idea how you came to that conclusion, OutofPractice!

Gosh bitoutofpractice everyone loves to hear updates on many threads, I really don't see what OP is doing wrong by responding to the numerous messages on here.

If it bothered me as it does you, I think I would just not open the thread to read anymore...

Gosh bitoutofpractice everyone loves to hear updates on many threads, I really don't see what OP is doing wrong by responding to the numerous messages on here.

If it bothered me as it does you, I think I would just not open the thread to read anymore...