Softzilla, the police

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

I can't update just now but here's the new thread. I will update later when I can.

What if you’re on iPhone/iPad? Is there any way to find OP updated posts easily on those?

Not in the app or anything built by mumsnet. Only in a browser (Chrome, safari Firefox etc), using the functionality built by the browser developer.
It is one of the limitations of MN

Anyone anxiously waiting for Friday...

Hadsuchahardday. Very easy. Just type the name into the grey address bar at the top of the page, choose (at the very bottom of the list) find on page or whatever it is, then just use the arrows up/down.

I don't really see what the problem is once you've customised your colours. Maybe scroll a little more slowly?

I've been using iPad for MN for a fair few years now - was given my first about 7 years ago - and, imo, it's easier to find op's posts than on the laptop for the most part.

Meeting with SIL friend tomorrow. Party mum will be nearby in case but she seems genuine. We've chatted but she hasn't pressed to know details, just been as normal.

I still wouldn't trust her, OP

Definitely be careful - don't say anything you wouldn't want repeated to sz

I wouldn't trust her either OP...

Why are you meeting with her?

I'd definitely be careful meeting sil friend in case sz turns up too.
If sz is there or turns up, don't say anything just leave straight away and go to where party mum is. Once you're with party mum, call and report it to the police straight away.
I sincerely hope that doesn't happen, but you need to prepare yourself just in case.

Ooh can't wait for the next instalment!

How many 'my sil is batshit' threads do we get on here? I'd say quite a few. It's entirely possible that sil can't stand SZ either.

Hope it all goes well today OP!

Hope it all goes well today OP!

I'm meeting up with her because she is a friend. And I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt. I will be asking why she didn't tell me tho. X

Give her the benefit of the doubt but dont trust her either. Good luck.

I echo the advice to be wary, though it sounds like you have been anyway. However I personally wouldn't like to be tarred with the actions of certain loosely related by marriage relations of mine either, so I'm glad you are giving her the benefit of the doubt at this time.

It may be the case that the SIL is hugely embarrased by SZ and wants to let you know that she's sorry her bugfuck relative has targetted you.

I hope it goes ok, but please be careful. It might be that she’s had similar problems - or knows of similar problems occurring. But just watch what you say

Dobby that is exactly my thought on it. I have some.... tricky extended family members. I would not like to be judged on the behaviour they show.

I just hope SZ isn’t there when you turn up to meet your friend

I agree with weemadarthur

Can you take someone and a gun with you just in case SZ is there waiting to ambush you?

Chances are it will be fine but yes this could be a setup for an ambush. You need a plan for a swift and immediate exit if it goes sour.

Iv probably missed a bit so sorry if it's been answered but did she know what was going on?

If not then it just might not have felt something relevant or important enough to mention. They are quite distantly related.

As soon as she knew though that argument doesn't work. I'd have felt morally that I should mention it so you knew so as to avoid this very situation where you might question my loyalty as your friend.

How did it go today, OP?