Softzilla, the police

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

I can't update just now but here's the new thread. I will update later when I can.

Because it takes 2 parties to create a drama - what a pile of victim-blaming crap!!

what a pile of victim-blaming crap!!

totally agree...

Fiesta
But then op will be left with no friends. Why should she suffer twice over?

Disgusting @FiestaThenSiesta . If the OP was being continuously harassed by an ex-partner, and the situation was escalating, would your advice be the same? You know the saying "if you've nothing nice to say...." - well, in your case also nothing productive/supportive/useful/non-shite

I think it would be OK to infer that as so many seem to be taking your side, she may have done something like this before.

Please don't let the thought of her stop you doing what you want to do. Go out. Go to group. Go to soft play. Go to the park. This is not your doing, you tried to get her to leave it and she refused.

The £5 she came up with probably derives from that first time when she thought you should have paid for her, when she being a CF. Now she's just deranged.

Have a lovely time with your new friend this afternoon.

Has SZ posted anything on MN or NM?

Hope your playdate went well.

@Fiesta
So op is to avoid everywhere that Softzilla goes so as not to fuel the drama? How ridiculous.
How about Softzilla stays away if she can't start behaving in a reasonable manner?

I think that FiestaThenSiesta has something stronger then wine in her coffee cup today.

The only reason the play group leader would ban Softzilla from the playgroup is because she is showing unsafe/abusive behaviour towards another parent and therefore softzilla has becoming a safeguarding issue.

OP I think you should continue to go to the group etc, don't let craziness destroy any future friendships.

OP I think you should continue to go to the group etc, don't let craziness destroy any future friendships.

If you don't go to group next week she will think she's won and tell them the story but trusted in her terms. Walk in there as if she's invisible and get on with what you need to do and at the end walk out head held high. If she starts let the group leader deal with it but don't avoid where you usually go. Don't give in to intimidating behaviour it's what she wants you to do, you do what you want to do. The minute you give in to intimidation is the time you add fuel to her fire and she won't get the message she needs to know.

So fiesta,you think that bullies should be given into do you? Worst thing you can do as bullies never go away if they are never challenged.

Oh my goodness, just been reading through and seen all the police updates, crazy story about £5 now, etc. I hope you are feeling better this evening OP. How was the playdate today? Do you have a sz missed call count for the day??

I was one for leaving police out of it before but it seems as if she's gone a bit nuts since then - was it something like 14 messages in one day and threatening to come round? Definitely right to have involved police

Flipping heck she’s bonkers. OP I think you’ll come out of this just fine actually, especially if Group Leader is fully aware of the loopy behaviour. It’s rather sad for her actually as she’s effectively committing social suicide. Oh well.

I think Fiesta is that kind of poster you find on every thread, who has to find some way to make the OP unreasonable. I mean, what has this OP done wrong, that could possibly justify Softzilla stalking her?? Yes, it's true that they can't both go to the group, that goes without saying, but it really has to be Softzilla who stops going. She needs to be banned, and I think it's very likely the group leader will do just that.

She sounds like an actual maniac...

Hope the playdate went well. X

Thanks Fullmetaljacket.

Wow just got back to this and see MNHQ have had to post a warning.

There is no point trying to engage directly with trolls. Other than telling them to fuck off, best to ignore. It's not just stupid you can't argue with....

Hope the play date went well OP. I hope you're able to work out a plan to help you stick to your routines. Just make sure you do not communicate with her at all - either directly or indirectly.

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Christ on a bike! I've just read all the threads. She's deranged!
I wouldn't give her a fiver and I would still go to the group.

I wonder if she has any history of doing this before? It’s interestung her DP wasn’t surprised to come home and find the police there. How old is she OP?

Hope you had a good Friday OP x

I'm not sure if it's been mentioned upthread and it doesn't make any difference as Softzilla is clearly batshit crazy, but.... roughly how old is she??