Softzilla, the police

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

I can't update just now but here's the new thread. I will update later when I can.

Oh dear! I have followed these threads with interest.
I feel that this could be a catalyst for her closure. She may feel that going to group and announcing that she involved the police but has magnanimously decided to write off the debt you owe will "fix" this for you. Or, she might be thriving on the drama and find a way to continue.
If it was me, I would look around for another group, and ask my good friends if they would make the change with me. I feel if you give her the £5 she seems to want from you, then she will feel that she has won the point, but it might not end the "game".

Definitely don't give her the fiver!

Good morning! I feel exhausted today
No word from anyone other than party mum and friend 1 but she's now blocked so I shouldn't be hearing from softzilla. Not sure what to do today. I don't want to go out incase I see her and also don't want to stay in incase she shows up here...! I'm going to call group leader later and explain and I will be writing a letter to nursery to inform them in case.

The £5 is obviously the price of the admission to SoftPlay that OP should have paid for SZ on the second meetup that she'hosted' (even though she didn't host and should not be paying for anything/anyone). Because OP paid for SZ entrance to softplay on the first time - which was a Birthday Party!) and^ her lunch, (which OP didn't need to do) SZ thinks OP should pay every time they meet up.

She's just nuts. Hopefully blocking her and ignoring will do the trick, OP.

The £5 is obviously the price of the admission to SoftPlay that OP should have paid for SZ on the second meetup that she'hosted' Yes of course.

Go out and do what you normally do. If you don't, then she has won because she's got inside your head. However, if you do see her, don't look at her, don't speak to her and leave if she tries to speak to you.

Tell the other mums too (just its been upsetting, over 100 calls / texts every week, won't leave you alone even when asked, no idea what started it, eventually no choice but to involve the police and now you just hope she'll leave you in peace...)
You need to get in front of the PR of this, or else SZ can get everyone on her side and mobilise them against you.

Go out and do what you normally do. If you don't, then she has won because she's got inside your head. However, if you do see her, don't look at her, don't speak to her.

Agree with this!
Don't let her turn you into a victim.
There will be plenty of other people there aware of the situation to help protect you if she does go and kick off! (I doubt she will)

I agree with everything mmzz says.

You need to get in front of the PR of this, or else SZ can get everyone on her side and mobilise them against you.

Absofuckinglutely. Get in there first. Do not say anything negative about her personally though - keep it factual. If asked to give an opinion on her/her behaviour, just look overwhelmed (not hard, I imagine, given the past few days!) and say you just don't know. The attitude is bewilderment rather than anger - that will get public opinion on your side. It shouldn't be necessary to think like this, but it is.

Agree with going out. Go to your playgroup and talk to people, preferably about anything apart from her, your life must continue as normal.

Then go out for lunch and treat yourself, staying home will give you too much time to think and for anxiety to increase.

Pretty sure the group leader will have told her to stay away by now. And if she does show up and try to kick off, you've got lots of witnesses (who will be able to prevent her actually launching a physical attack) and the police will be able to nick her.

Also, I'd go to other people's houses and invite people back to yours as well. That may make you feel a bit more secure - at least you'll have witnesses if she does turn up. Don't let her in if she turns up when you're alone at home.

@JaffaCakesForBreakfast reported. For troll hunting and being a massive cow.

Jaffa if you think the ops a liar why do you click on a thread that is clearly called softzilla

I wonder if SZ likes a jaffa cake or 2......

I’d go out OP. Don’t let her dictate your life as ultimately that’s probably what she wants. I hope having the police round willl put an end to it.

I think you need to send a message to your mutual friends explaining everything as those not in the know may feel the police is a very extreme action so explanation is necessary.

Apologies for my 'slightly' rude message yesterday, After a night shift I started on thread 2, then continued to the end. I was truly beside myself, when the police visited, then no further update. I am beyond invested x

How do you know it's a lie if you haven't followed it? I don't understand why you care. If you don't believe, ok, you do not have to stay and read or post.

And one thing is always true with these threads. On those with some serious themes, there are always mumsnetters who have had similar experiences and give excellent advice. On those light-hearted CF threads, they bring a laugh to many and for some it might be the only cheerful thing they have had in the day. Laughing together creates a sense of belonging and is good for one's wellbeing. So what if an OP is not real? Why do you care? Why does it matter? The experiences of most replying are real, and that counts. The experiences of many lurkers hoping for advice in similar situations also matters, the advice that reaches those who genuinely are suffering is more important than deleting a thread started by a dubious OP.

I find it so annoying all this troll hunting, dubious posting, suspicious commenting clogging the threads... Just report and let MNHQ do their checks.

For what is worth, I personally think this one is true. But if it's not, I don't mind, it's been useful to hear advice about the topic, and I'm emotionally invested into knowing more and gives excitement to my day.

Don't stop your life because of her batshittery. Go out, go to groups, see your friends. She wants to make things awkward for you. Don't let her.

But make sure you don't hold back if anyone challenges you. Tell them precisely why the police had to get involved. You don't owe her niceties. You'll find out who is really a friend now sadly, but at least no one will mistake you for a walkover again.

Go to your group OP, you have every right to be there. The group Leader has already warned SZ twice and removed her when she's approached you, so update the Group Leader re the current situation and Police involvement, then you know all will be fine.

I struggle to see what motivates Jaffa and other people who post similarly, jealousy maybe that the OP has found a source of support? Attention-seeking? Immaturity? No knowledge of MN posting guidelines? No ability to see they are making fools of themselves?
OP has already said more than once if anyone doubts the authenticity of her posts then contact MNHQ direct, maybe Jaffa missed that bit too.