Softzilla, the police

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

I can't update just now but here's the new thread. I will update later when I can.

Yes they will probaby be at the same school. There are two in this catchment but we both have our eye on the same one I think. They go to the same preschool but drop off at different times mainly. The police answer to that was asking the lines of will cross that bridge when/If it comes to it.

Why can she not just back off?! Not even a visit from the police is convincing her. Sorry you’re having to deal with this, OP.

Hopefully her husband will put a stop to her. He must be embarrassed.

Hopefully her husband will put a stop to her. He must be embarrassed.

Did the police comment on her having texted you while they were with her, that must have shown them first-hand what she is like?

What do you think this is really about OP? It can't be about the fiver (do you owe her £5?), there must be some reason for her to have latched onto you like this.

Did they say anything about the anniversary party?

They were obviously not impressed by the text thing. But they mainly just gave me a glossed over view of what was said. They didn't tell me all the details. And it didn't help that it was at that moment that I dissolved into a pool of snot and tears....

I think you should turnround and make a very public display of handing over 5 pounds in front of witnesses ...
Say that you don't owe her it but if paying 5 pounds means she never talks or contacts you again it's worth every penny

The £5 is part of her weird psycho drama tissue of lies. You don't owe her diddly, you have the texts that NEVER mention it to prove this and giving in would encourage her. No contact, and definitely no giving her money. Have yourself some nice 💐 and a 🍷instead.

I cannot understand why she doesn't just leave you alone.
She has some serious issues.

Unreasonable DO NOT send her anything, money or message, no contact means just that, NO contact, nothing.

and a as you're being such a OP whilst being flung into such a surreal situation.

They were with her a long time so much more must have been said than they told me tbh.
I have no idea why me. I don't think I am anything special. Except that I am not good normally at standing up for myself. And as someone had pointed out I do have a history of putting up with more than I should and not walking away from a friendship when others would (especially when I think it might not be their fault eg known disability/ disorder). Maybe she sensed that.

Don't send the fiver! It validates her and it won't stop her! She has never mentioned it in text before so there is no proof to back up her alligations she doesn't have a leg to stand on! See what the report says if it says she is still trying to contact you go to the police hopefully she's done now though.

What does party friend say?

Just be careful if she sends her DD to the same school. Do you think she'd assault you?

Don't give her any money, you know you don't owe anything and it's just a ploy to justify herself to the police. Let's face she has never in all the hundreds of messages has she mentioned you owe her any money.

I would also speak to the play group owner that you have had to escalate to getting the police involved as softzilla has upped her harassment of you. And let her make a decisions as to who she wants at her playgroup.

They didn't say anything to me about the anniversary party. I dunno if they did to her. But I got the feeling when I told them about it that they weren't that bothered beyond that id said no and she had kept bothering me.

dont let her get to you op. Glad the police have given her a warning. Its up to her to behave or take the consequences now.
I wouldnt want to leave a group where my friends went to either just cos some mad cow was there. Fingers crossed she leaves you alone now.

My stalker just gave up. Things got worse and worse, and then just when I was really scared, he suddenly stopped. I found myself 20 yards from him on a dark night at 10pm in a deserted business park and I thought this is it. But he just left me alone.
Maybe that's what happens ? They start for no reason and stop the say way?

Mine fucked off to Mexico. He and DD write to each other (he's her dad).

I really hope her husband can help her now. I really think she needs it!