Softzilla, the police

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

I can't update just now but here's the new thread. I will update later when I can.

What a ridiculous situation.

It's taken barking mad to a whole new level!

The Police are basically saying.. one of you needs to stop going to the Group... and one of you needs to pay up/write it off... well that's unhelpful... however...

the legal footprint has begun... they have to record all of this.. so it's not an entire waste of time... well done OP

I agree with SGB - get her thrown out of the soft play group. If I were the group leader, I know who I'd rather have going forward.

How many people are in this group anyway?

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It's not very fair for you to be the one who considers no longer going to group.

It's not a soft play group. It's just a normal preschool group so quite large. Say 30 people ish? I don't think the police would take my money! Lol. I could send the £5 But would that make me look like I'm agreeing to her story?

Did I read correctly that the police told you how to block her but still allow a message through once a day? Apologies if I read that wrong.

@SheilaTurnip no, thé party one was mine.

This one seems to be about a party just for OPs kids!

If you owe her a fiver send her a fiver, if you don’t, don’t

Either way her messages don’t ask for money so it’s obviously not the issue

Don't give the daft cow a penny. This was never about money. It was about a perceived slight that didn't exist.

Don't feed the crazy. Also, I'd let the group leader know what has gone on and then she can deal with her as she sees fit. If she says she's happy to have SZ back and you feel uncomfortable, you might have to find a new group not that you should have to .

If you don't owe her money then don't send her it. It will then look like she's telling the truth.

Can’t believe this is still going on.

Hope she gets the message now OP.

If you don't owe her money then don't send her it. It will then look like she's telling the truth.

TopBitch They said it's like a system alert type of thing.

Copy from all the threads all your posts in green (including times and dates) in to a word document.

Why would you send her a fiver you don't owe?

As an aside I wouldn't worry too much about MN threads/court. That has actually happened to me. Judge ignored it.

I think SZ's list of complaints against you, OP, is a lot bigger than the original £5 now. I don't thinking giving her cash would help. She'll just see weakness and come after you for compensation for the rest (eg a public apology and a sacrificial lamb to make up for the police visit today).
Your only way out is to not see her again and to hold the threat of police involvement over her if she tries to get in touch with you.

Are your DC due to go to the same primary school?

If you don't owe her money then don't send her it. It will then look like she's telling the truth.

OP can say to the police I don’t owe her anything but if that’s what it takes here’s a fiver. Just put it in an envelope. No note or anything.

Actually mzzz, reading your post makes me see your point.

DO NOT send her the £5. Firstly, you don't owe her it, but also you would be going against your 'no contact' position. It would just open up yet more from her. I doubt the police would be impressed. Don't do it!

I agree with mmzz, you can't send the £5 as she'll see it as a complete admission of guilt on your part.

I wouldn't send the money either. You don't owe it (as far as I know anyway) so why should you!