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I hate Surrey

470 replies

BettyBeer · 29/05/2018 08:14

Is that unreasonable? I properly hate it.
I don't live there but most of my family do. Everyone seems to be obsessed with property prices, extensions and who's in the best bloody school! I even went to a cafe away from my family and the two tables close to us were discussing house prices and where the best catholic schools were.

Sorry if you live there but it just all seems to be greedy, self important twats. Am I wrong to make a sweeping statement about so many people? probably Wink

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CraftyNestUK · 30/05/2018 21:11

What a snob you are. YADBU

Boulty · 30/05/2018 21:19

Sounds like the people you have come across have the important things in life on the top of their list 🙃🙃

MissClareRemembers · 30/05/2018 22:20

Aw12345 to be fair the Aldi is a bit out of town...the Waitrose, however, is smack in the middle of town...

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FreeMantle · 30/05/2018 23:53

Of course not everyone is the same but of course you absolutely can generalise. There is a reason the Conservatives get in every year. Not everyone votes for them but it's a heartland.
You can argue that plenty of people work in retail but the draw of Surrey is that you can easily work in London as opposed to say Yorkshire or Hertfordshire. It changes the feel of a place.
Sussex is equally as wanky but with a poor road network and the coast it has a different dynamic.
Why be pendantic. We know what the Op is saying.

JosieJasper · 31/05/2018 00:12

Stillwishihadabs. Sorry but I couldn't resist correcting you. Brighton & Hove are in the county of East Sussex but they have their own council. Brighton & Hove City Council (not county council) Grin

Tinkobell · 31/05/2018 06:43

Years ago I can recall having a conversation with my DP (now DH) from our northern town "Surrey!" We said "where the HELL is that?" We both heartily agreed it was a "None" county with no notable features. Anway, a few years later we both ended up there taking job offers from firms in Weybridge. We had £400 pcm to spend on a rent on a one bed flat above a takeaway in Walton.
A lot of people in Surrey are like us. They came from outside for work and have done pretty well. It's a good part of the world to do well. Some people do crow-on a bit and frankly that's boring. But really I wonder if that's what's at the heart of the OP's hatred? Those that moved and made life happen v those that stayed put.

Gaspodethetalkingdog · 31/05/2018 06:46

We live in a neighbouring county and I don’t think Surrey is any worse than elsewhere, expensive however as it is close to London. Some it it is very attractive

Speckledhen10 · 31/05/2018 07:45

I was born in Liverpool and stayed there until I was 24. Liverpool is known as a very friendly city and that is still true as I visit family several times a year and there’s always a great buzz in the city. But I moved to Send in Surrey 20 years ago and it’s far friendlier, down to earth and community spirited here. Yes there are areas of great wealth in Surrey, but most people I know are ordinary workers, teachers, nurses, etc bringing up their families on a tight budget. A few neighbours commute to London but have a long expensive daily journey. I have a few friends who moonlight with weekend shifts in garden centres or cafes for extra cash. We do discuss house prices as they’re so horrendously expensive. But most conversations are about normal family stuff including any bargains or good deals we’ve found.
Come to Send if you want to see ordinary friendly community based Surrey life, with no chips on shoulders or snobbery.

DameXanaduBramble · 31/05/2018 07:53

Love & adore Surrey. Can you imagine if this had been started about Yorkshire? There’d be outrage quicker than you can say ‘Where’s me washboard’

Moggie45 · 31/05/2018 07:57

My brother lives in a village outside Guildford so we go there a bit. We went for a walk in the Surrey Hills and bumped into a set of their neighbours. Upon being introduced we were asked if we were from ‘in county ‘ and yes he was wearing red cords. We are from Berks which can be similar but Surrey wins the award for crowing ! So, YANBU.

grasspigeons · 31/05/2018 08:27

'In county' GrinShock well now I know other Surrey people are saying that I get where all the negativity is coming from! Noone has ever asked me that which means I'm clearly either an outsider or just exude Surrey so why ask.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 31/05/2018 08:32

This is such a strange thread!! Surrey is huge and diverse, full of all sorts, some as OP describes, plenty that aren't!

My teens love living in Surrey. Jump on a train and be in London in 30 min or Brighton in an hour. Free travel for under 18s.

GrumpySkintCow · 31/05/2018 08:57

I live in Surrey and YANBU. There are things I love about it-great countryside, low crime, good schools, easy to get to London/coast etc. But there is a lot of keeping up with the Joneses and first world problems discussions among school mums. I have a lot of great friends, but there I also know quite a lot of what was described on this thread as stereotypical surrey people. Very low cultural diversity, a lot ot privilage, which can be a bit depressing.

SadieHH · 31/05/2018 09:01

Grumpy did you not read my post above about the nationalities that can be found in my children's school alone? It's hardly a lack of diversity.

BendydickCuminsnatch · 31/05/2018 09:23

The HVs are virtually non-existent. The Surrey hospital where I gave birth was awful. Even registering the birth was a nightmare as there is no registry office in the poor bit, it was closed and now you have to go to the rich bit to register things - also a nightmare to get to by public transport.

Oh that sucks that you had such a bad time with HVs and birth. I had my first in London and my second in Guildford. HVs in our part of Surrey are bountiful and friendly and the hospital was incredible!! Whereas the HVs in London are something else, completely clueless and have awful advice that actually caused my son harm. I know not all HVs in London are the same though! Agree the registry office is difficult to get to without a car.

nursy1 · 31/05/2018 09:57

Isn’t it really the Home Counties we are talking about? Not bad aspects/ good bits of Surrey in particular?

Agerbilatemycardigan · 31/05/2018 10:05

The part I lived in was full of champagne socialists.

Jeremy71 · 31/05/2018 12:01

I currently live in a small town near Woking. House prices are expensive but this keeps the undesirables out and makes it a safe, nice place to live. Our children attend a outstanding catholic school, the majority of children that attend the school are brought up with similar strong values and bullying is kept to a minimum. I feel very privileged to live in such a lovely area.

Tinkobell · 31/05/2018 12:03

What I would say about Surrey versus other parts of the country (have lived and worked in Somerset, Tyneside and Chester) is that it might not be the kindest part of the world to be if you were to find yourself down on your luck. People around here can struggle with how to respond to life’s blows I feel.

SluttyButty · 31/05/2018 12:05

House prices are expensive but this keeps the undesirables out Hmm

How do you define undesirables? You are aware that poorer people can and do instill strong values too aren't you?

Jeremy71 · 31/05/2018 12:25

Slutty - Crime rates are higher in poorer areas of the country. I'm just saying that I feel privileged living where I do and would recommend it to anyone who could afford to do so. There isn't anything wrong with that.

Kursk · 31/05/2018 12:31

Jeremy71
With regards to crime rates, I feel safer here in the USA than I do in Surrey

SluttyButty · 31/05/2018 12:40

But Jeremy you used the word 'undesirables' and I asked what you'd define that as. I'm aware of how crime rates work.

Hypothetically, if a couple and their 4 kids moved into your road and you found out they'd only been able to move there because they'd won the lottery enabling them to move out of their social housing property, would they be undesirable?

Jeremy71 · 31/05/2018 12:40

Glad to hear it Kursk. It must be reassuring to know you can always reach for your rifle if needs be.

Jeremy71 · 31/05/2018 12:50

Slutty - not at all. As long as they went about their day in a respectful manner then I would have no problem with that. I'm talking about the type who swear in front of their kids and drink to much. I had the misfortune of experiencing that once at an all inclusive holiday. In my experience having a few bob helps reduce the likelyhood of having to be near those sorts of people. Each to their own I guess

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