To serve sandwiches at a wedding

[CheesecakeAddict]

So opinions please...
We have an afternoon wedding. Everyone is invited for the whole thing (No one just for the evening). Everyone barring 5 guests are coming from far away. In many cases from abroad, so I don't want to come across as a terrible host.

We are having an informal meal. It will start after the ceremony at 4pm with canapes, a bbq with sides buffet, then dessert and coffee. The caterers have told us they cater for 3 items from the bbq for each guest. 12 of the guests are under the age of 5 so I expect there to be extras as I can't see a 3 year old eating 3 burgers/hot dogs. The venue have told us they expect the meal to finish by 7ish and we have to be off the premises by 11.30pm. I was thinking of putting a spread on at about 9pm but my DM thinks most will still be full from the breakfast. Especially as the cake (not a fruit cake) will feed 130 and we have around 80 guests, so plenty to go around. Wibu to just put on sandwiches rather than a full buffet or do you think people will be upset? All this will be around £200 per head as we have to use their caterers and whilst I am happy to increase that for my guests who have travelled at least 200 miles just for us, I don't want to throw more money if it's all just going to go to waste.

£200ph for a bbq and canapes?! A lot of people do sausage/bacon buns at night time. We had meat and potato or cheese and onion pie. You're right, your meal would have only ended 2 hours before so unlikely people will be that hungry.

So 3 burgers/hot dogs per guest. If that's correct and I was in attendance i would be more than happy with some sandwiches to tide away any hunger. 3 burgers would probably do me all day.

I can't see a 3 year old eating 3 burgers/hot dogs.

You’ve never met my children then...

Agreed 200 per head seems steep. Does that include alcohol?

What about a big cheese board? That way any waste can be taken home.

That sounds fine op. tbh I can't imagine being hungry for much two hours after that food.

Is £200 ph a typo? please say it is!

Guessing you will be eating the bbq at about 6-7 pm so I wouldn’t imagine many people will be hungry by 9.

For £200 per person I hope you are getting something better than hot dogs or burgers on the bbq? I’m a big bbq fan and would be sad if it wasn’t a bit more exciting than that.

Have a happy day.

Hoping £200 is a typo. :)

Isn't a sandwich buffet apt to cost more than other "snacky bits" though, cos of the faff of making them? Sarnies cost more than sausage rolls, scotch eggs, crisps etc in shops. You might find a buffet of other things works out cheaper per head and "looks more" laid out than just sarnies.

£200 a head!!?? For a bbq and a couple of extras? I think you can do better and be far more savvy!

@hisnamesblaine yes.

£200 per head!?!?!

Does the 200 include the cost of the venue and ceremony etc, surely food and alcohol doesn't cost 200 per head?!

Wow that’s bloody expensive!!

A relative of mine did chip butties or bacon butties later on at their wedding they went down very well.

80 x 200= £16,000 on hot dogs, burgers and sandwiches.

Can you explain the £200 per head statement please? Is this correct?

Sandwiches and cake would be plenty after a bbq and sides a few hours earlier, it's more than is often served.

OP, I've planned parties at 5 star hotels in London, all drink, food & venue for £80 per head, for 3-5 hours.
Are you locked into this? What does it include?

Even if it includes alcohol it's an absolute disgrace!!!

Are you really really paying 200 pounds per person?? I knew weddings were expensive but I just can't get my head round that.

I'm guessing £16000 incl the venue etc, not completely ridiculous incl alcohol and some venues are extremely expensive. We spent nothing like that but saw plenty of venues where we could easily have. Anyway op, yanbu with your question.

Holy fuck! 😲😲😲

Surely the per head cost doesn’t include under 5s?

It can't be £200 a head!!