To ask DD who she is messaging/calling?

[28thMay2018]

DD is just 18 and has been spending a lot of time online. She doesn't have many friends at college (well, not any close ones) and doesn't ever really message anyone.

Since being online a lot, she is all of a sudden glued to her phone. Pulls it really close to her face if anyone is sitting near her to stop them from seeing. Speaks really quietly if she's on the phone in the bathroom or bedroom, etc.

I've asked "oh, who's that" and she often looks at me funny and says "a friend" but I know full well she doesn't have any irl. She seems very fixated on these online friends and I'm slightly worried about the risks. When I have heard the phone calls, they seem a bit flirty and it definitely makes me uncomfortable.

Would it be wrong to ask her when she's on the phone or whatever?

other than that, does she have an online boyfriend do you think?

My dc are in their forties married with their own dc including an 18 year old. I worry, a lot. One is having a minor op under GA next week and the other is depressed about work issues. I can’t pry just fret but if dd, at 18, had been acting like yours I would certainly have worried, a lot.

Bloody hell, give her some space!

The irony is, the more you interfere and obsess and try and invade her privacy, the more previously she’ll guard it, understandably.

If I were you i’d just say ‘I know you’re an adult and I respect your right to talk to who you wish, whenever you wish. I just want you to know I’m here for you if you ever need an ear’ and leave it. Let the poor girl have some breathing space. Just because she’s under your roof doesn’t give you the right to know all the ins and outs of her life.