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To think she’s faking?

670 replies

Appleofmypie · 27/05/2018 14:34

One of my team at work is 14 weeks pregnant. She’s been off sick for 5 weeks with severe hyperemesis and still has a week left on her sick note (she’s being signed off for 2 weeks at a time)

By complete coincidence she is Facebook friends with a friend of mine.

My friend has put some pictures on Facebook this morning of her Greek holiday she’s still on, and my work colleague is in most of them - sunbathing, eating, swimming in the sea, playing volleyball. She has obviously blocked me as she is tagged in the pictures but her name is unclickable.

I’m gonna sound like a complete cow but I think she’s faking her sickness.
She’s on full pay from work and we’re having to pay an agency temp to cover her work too. It’s a small company that is struggling and I doubt we’re going to make any profit this month due to this.

My questions are:

Should I tell/show our boss?
What evidence of hyperemesis does a GP need to see to sign you off or Could it just be on her say so?
Is she actually doing anything illegal?
I know that pregnancy sickness is covered separately to normal in terms of disciplinary but if it’s proven she’s faking could it still be gross misconduct?

Thanks

OP posts:
WowLookAtYou · 01/06/2018 22:50

The only question I have is WHY go on holiday in half term? The cost is so much more.

Maybe some of the friends she's away with are teachers?

WeirdyMcBeardy · 02/06/2018 00:01

Can she be sacked for this? To keep her job would be a total piss take!

SofieMonde · 04/06/2018 11:56

OP we need an update stat :) popcorn sold out everywhere

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 04/06/2018 12:06

Just rtft. Why do people carry on like thisHmm Just go to your bloody workGrin

SteveMcGarrettsBudgieSmugglers · 04/06/2018 12:36

Nachos, popcorn and a cheeky little Rose waiting for the update

Appleofmypie · 04/06/2018 12:44

She had a doctors appointment at 11am so wasn’t in this morning. She’s due in at 1pm. Whether it’s to work or hand in another sick note I do not know.

Friend request was declined and boss was blocked.

I looked at her profile again on my old account (its a Fake account in a stupid name I set up to send myself crap on FarmVille years ago - don’t judge 😂) and there’s more holiday pictures, and she hosted a bbq in her new garden yesterday too!

OP posts:
Sleepless123456789 · 04/06/2018 12:57

Shamelessly placemarking :)

PotteryLady · 04/06/2018 12:57

I bet she brings in another note.

bitzy12 · 04/06/2018 12:57

Oh believe me, she does not have HG!!! This woman is taking the mick big time and it's soooo frustrating. If she hands in another sick note.....Angry no words.

I don't understand why she's been given one though, you can easily test for hg through ketones. Which is testing your wee to see how dehydrated you are. I bet her wee is as clear as....as clear as wee can be anyway.

Not unbelievably dark and just a couple of drops because you are that dehydrated you can't psychically wee because there is nothing in you....and for this reason you don't have the strength to go into work and hand in your sick note. Someone else has to do it for you....quite possibly while your on your way to hospital for the next couple of days to get bags and bags of fluids inside you. That is HG. HG = hospitals. Not holidays and hosting bbqs!!!!!

GladAllOver · 04/06/2018 13:00

Hosted a bbq yesterday, and today she has a doctor's appointment. :)
I'll bet she sends in a sick note rather than bring it in and face the boss.

ajandjjmum · 04/06/2018 13:04

She must be really thick - firstly to be lying about how sick she is, and secondly putting proof on social media.

We had a difficult pregnant colleague, and when I passed comment to a friend who is a legal employment lawyer - basically we're stuck with her - he said not, you just had to be sure to follow procedure correctly. I'm sure the HR company are advising your boss on this.

Good luck for later!

TittyGolightly · 04/06/2018 13:04

Aren’t you her manager, OP? Why aren’t you ringing her to see how she is? Very unusual for an employee to be able to put in fit notes for weeks on end without being expected to speak/meet with their manager!

blacklister · 04/06/2018 13:08

Who wants to place their bets that she comes in with another sick note? She'll be signed off for another fortnight and have the attitude that 'there's nothing they can do'.

TittyGolightly · 04/06/2018 13:12

But there is something they can do.

blacklister · 04/06/2018 13:17

Absolutely there is @TittyGolightly. But mark my words she'll be one of those that thinks she's completely untouchable because she's pregnant.

Nogodsnomasters · 04/06/2018 13:17

Omg is she in? I'm desperate to know now!

blacklister · 04/06/2018 13:18

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HollowTalk · 04/06/2018 13:28

I'm shamelessly placemarking. Apologies!

JustVent · 04/06/2018 13:31

Surely she hasn’t got the bollocks to hand in another sick note?!

If she has, will your boss have any legal leg to stand on about letting her go?

whatwouldbe · 04/06/2018 13:32

my money is on another sick note. she will probably post it rather than coming in personally.

StatisticallyChallenged · 04/06/2018 13:40

The thought of being in a 10 mile vicinity of a barbeque with HG EnvyEnvy. I had to completely ban DH from cooking burgers and sausages in particular, the smell turned my stomach and made me physically gag and retch!

This woman is really taking the mick!

LoniceraJaponica · 04/06/2018 13:40

"Friend request was declined and boss was blocked."

That's rather telling. Under normal circumstances you would be able to question why she has a tan, but with all this lovely weather we have been having she would be able to explain that away.

Your boss needs a screenshot of the photos so she can present her evidence when she confronts her (cropped so that the CF doesn't know who sent them)

TheKarateKitty · 04/06/2018 13:44

My vote is in that she put in another sick note.

Shameful lie that screws everyone else.

TheBiscuitStrikesBack · 04/06/2018 13:46

Placemarking!!

narkedwithanarc · 04/06/2018 13:48

She's an absolute piss taker Angry