To tell DH he is pronouncing DD’s name wrong.

[DuchessOfNorfolk]

DD is mainly known as a shortening of her name. Occasionally we call her the full versio. However I have noticed DH pronounces it in a different way to how I have ever heard it pronounced. I assumed there was just one pronunciation of it. I’m wondering if it would be reasonable to point it out? Or do I just live with it.

Surely - as her dad he has just as much say in how her name is pronounced? Depending on the age of your daughter ask her how she wants her name to said.

But I can’t say poor, pore, paw and pour and differently.
Just like your and you’re are the same.
I do say our and are differently though.

Are you saying that you want all of southern England to start saying words differently to help with spelling?

What about bath, path, and grass? Shall we say them differently too?

No Simon, the bath/path/grass thing is fine.

But that is confusing as it sounds like it should have an r in it.

I say barth. Dh, from the midlands, says bath. Who is right?

What about right and write, pair and pear? Do you get them confused too?

I suppose part of what is behind my posts is the mocking/othering view of Northern and Scottish accents by people in the south who genuinely believe they themselves don't have an accent.
You do have an accent.

I have an accent, a Southern accent.

I still don't get confused about homophones and never have.

Nor do I think that Scottish and Northern Irish accents are 'wrong' or need to be mocked.

Not sure what is so mindblowing about that really but hey ho apparently I'm 'cruel' for not teaching my kids to speak with fake Scottish accents when they come across a word that would have a rhotic R. Because that's what it would have to be, bearing in mind it is not possible to have a southern accent with a rhotic R.

"bearing in mind it is not possible to have a southern accent with a rhotic R."
Why is that difficult? The rest of us have to moderate our accents in certain circumstances.

The rest of us have to moderate our accents in certain circumstances.

Well so do I. I’m very posh and adjust how I talk if I’m talking to trades people. 😁

Nah mate. Don't like me accent? Fuck right orf!

Seriously. I love hearing different accents. I always try and speak clearly but I'm not pretending to be something I'm not. Or from somewhere I'm not.

I agree saying Jess-ca is odd.

I've never heard it said like that.

However, you still haven't answered how come you didn't notice this when you were first discussing the possibility of using the name in the first place.

Maybe I missed it but I’ve not seen people attack northerners just post using “southerners” (where there are a mix of dialects too) and it’s you, MrsSarahSiddons, in particular who has said that we thinks it’s cruel to teach them to say poor, pour and paw differently...

If anyone has an issue with accents it’s you and projecting such bullshit says more about you than anything else.

DuchessOfNorfolk

He said jess-ca missing out the middle sound.

Its an Americanism lol Watch the 'Rescue of Jessica McClure'. They pronounce is JessCa all the way through.

Oh dear, this is not the most pressing of the worlds problems,,, can you not just go along with someone who says a persons name differently than you do ? Much too small an issue to get iffy about.

He's saying it wrong. Correct him. The end.

But I can’t say poor, pore, paw and pour and differently
I'm Midlands and ask these words sounds the same. Can someone explain how they sounds different? Except the Black a Country "poo-a" for poor, I got that one but don't say it.

I say barth. Dh, from the midlands, says bath. Who is right?
HIM.

SleepingStandingUp omg I’m going read everything you wrote from now on in a thick brummie accent a la Mark Williams in the Prudential advert from the 90s.

Bugger off Middle 😝😝😝 I said I know how to say "I aye poo-a" but I definitely don't do so 😝😝
Now tell me how the Middle Class posh people pronounce poor, pore, pour and paw and how you pronounce scone

It drives me up the pole when I see people write "draws" for drawers, and even worse, when they refer to a "chesta draws". Grrrrrrrrrrr!

SleepingStandingUp I’m a southerner and think it’s cruel to pronounce those words in any such way that may differentiate them to the ear. Cruel, I tell you! CRUEL!

Scone... I vary/mumble it...

"bearing in mind it is not possible to have a southern accent with a rhotic R."Why is that difficult? The rest of us have to moderate our accents in certain circumstances.

Because they just can't pronounce the R.

A friend of mine asked me to help another friend who was learning Spanish because they couldn't do an rrrr sound. So there was me going rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, and this person going uhhhhhhh, uhhhhhhhhh, uhhhhhhhh like they had furballs.

it’s not confusing because context.
In my accent paw/poor/pour sound very different, but hear/ear/here/year are all the same; a gloriously mangled south walian ‘yur’. However, if I say I’m 37 ‘yurs’ old, people will know I’m not counting my age in appendages on the side of my face. Similarly, if I say ‘I have ‘yur’ ache, people know that I’m saying said appendage hurts. It’s really not that difficult.

Also, it’s not just southern people who don’t have rhotic accents. Most welsh people don’t either. Learning to speaking using the rhotic ‘r’ is not easy if it’s not natural to you. If it was as simple as just ‘adjusting’ then everyone would be able to effortlessly do a welsh ‘ll’ for example.

[Because they just can't pronounce the R.

A friend of mine asked me to help another friend who was learning Spanish because they couldn't do an rrrr sound. So there was me going rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, and this person going uhhhhhhh, uhhhhhhhhh, uhhhhhhhh like they had furballs.]

LOL. Just like my DH!

I was going to name my daughter Eva, to be pronounced ehva as in Eva Peron, but I found that this was often pronounced as ee ver . So, instead I used Ava which I thought would be simpler but to my surprise, some people call her Ah Ver!

I find it funny the way Princess Eugenie's name is pronounced like "you genie". Where I come from it is pronounced urr je knee.