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Do you love, or hate your house?

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OnTheporch · 26/05/2018 10:30

I've hated every house I've lived in apart from my current house which I love.

It's set back away from the street via a drive, and then another private drive to access the house so we're nowhere near any proper roads. To the side of us is green land. It's detached so no neighbours to fall out with.

Inside it's all corridors and rooms, no open plan nonsense so it's easy to hide away from people. I love it. I can't imagine a better house and I've never felt so settled.

It's 4 bedroomed and the kids are slowly starting to leave - soon we'll only have one here and they're 17 so might fly the nest soon also.

Would I be unreasonable to stay here forever even though it's much surplus to requirements?

Do you love or hate your house and why?

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NathalieM · 17/07/2018 16:03

I love my house, me and my other half have spent so my time and energy to make it perfect and it is getting there.

Of course, it's not without it's faults and we do have huge dreams like having a basement media room but I am working on the extension to my partner, will leave the basement till later GrinGrin! My ultimate home goals would be to have a basement just like this: www.basementworks.co.uk/gallery-basement-media-rooms/

But that is going to take further saving and persuading! haha

Neighbourhood is lovely, mostly older generation so it is on the quiet side which is perfect for us!

jellyshoeswithdiamonds · 17/07/2018 16:22

I've grown to love it over the years.

It's a modest 4 bed, not huge or flashy in the least which is what I love about it the most.

When we moved here it was the fact it was in a tidy area, good spot for the kids schools and college, now they've grown its in a good spot for M4 commute.

The garden is fully enclosed (important with a dog), we have fabulous walks straight from the house. We have lovely views across the valley.

Not on a main road. We have driveway for three cars to park and with a bit of tweaking could get four on.

The reason I've grown to love it is the biggest downside it has is that the back garden backs onto neighbours behind and the gardens aren't huge. This has since the last 8 years turned into an advantage as my husband works away a lot and having the back so well protected (?) it has added to my feeling of safety here on my own.

Can't say we'll be here forever but will really be loathe to sell as its a fab house so could suit one of the kids in the future.

holidaycountdown54321 · 17/07/2018 17:12

I used to hate my house, it was bought in a hurry when I was 7 months pregnant and not much on the market. Nearly 2 years on we've done a lot to it and have since had another baby. Although I don't love it, I now like it and see that my practical decision was the correct one (we looked at a beautiful 2 bed cottage, no parking for the same price, I decided we'd outgrow it v quickly, we went for a 3 bed semi with garage, drive, bigger garden but no character, ugly interior and in need of gutting!).

It's a comfortable family home which I can appreciate now. My next house I am going to love, if I don't I won't be signing on the dotted line!!

mimibunz · 17/07/2018 17:20

I used to hate ours, small terraced with no space for visitors but these days I like that we live in a great location, the house itself is worth 3 Times what we paid and we won’t have to downsize.

Allyg1185 · 17/07/2018 17:33

Bit of both
Positives
It's a 10 min drive from work.
10 min walk to ds school.
Nice neighbours one side and nothing on the other side.
Small group of kids around the same age as ds for him to play out with.
Local to our Drs and dentist.
Front and back garden.
In a good size town. 4 big supermarkets, parks, library, small theatre, good bus links

Negatives
Houses are being built on the land right in front of our livingroom.
Needs decorated in most rooms but can't afford it at the moment.

Padparadscha · 17/07/2018 18:21

Hate our current house (I refuse to call it home). I’d bulldoze it if I owned it. I’d bulldoze the whole shitty neighbourhood if I could get away with it. Initially it was all we could afford to rent, then it was a case of bare it and save to buy our own place, or move to a different rental and still chuck money away for another couple of years.

Four years later, we’re finally buying our first home. It’s not a perfect forever home - it’s small with very little garden, but the kitchen is wonderful. I’ve seen houses that are 30-40k more and don’t come near how lovely and spacious our new kitchen is. It’s a little bit of a project, need to spend between 10-15k on extending, adding parking and general updating, but it’s perfectly lovely just to move into as well. Very excited, end of the month can’t come quickly enough so we can finally move!

13Crows · 17/07/2018 18:42

Hate hate hate it. 2 bed housing association, me, my partner and my 14 year old son. Can't afford to buy and can't afford to rent privately. No storage space whatsoever. Bathroom too small to even change clothes in. No space for a table to eat at so we eat our food with the plates balanced on our knees in the living room. No room even for a coffee table. Craft stuff all packed away under the bed, no flat surface to work on. Garden totally devoid of plants and hedges. Fences in terrible state. I absolutely detest it.
We only have hubbys wage coming in. With my dodgy knees I doubt i'll be able to get another job. My son was diagnosed with Crohns disease in December 2016 and what I would do for a 2nd toilet.... and having a table to eat at would be luxury!
Being realistic, it would take a lottery win to get us out of here. I try to put it out of my mind but its depressing. Its not a home. I know i should be grateful we've got a roof over our heads. I am. But I want to be in a comfy home with room to move.

AsTheMilesTheyDisappear · 17/07/2018 18:51

I love ours. It's been a huge slog to renovate but its lovely, light and open plan and really rural.

I can't believe it's ours.

Giggage · 17/07/2018 18:54

I hate it. Hate it, hate it, hate it, hate it, hate it, hate it.

I loved it at first but as my neighbours moved or died, inconsiderate, selfish arseholes have moved in, and I'm not the only person to have said it either. Others on the road have also mentioned the downward trend over the past 10 years.

It's the house I bought with my ex. So it's got additional bad memories and to make it worse, I'm fucking stuck here for at least another 5 years until I'm in a financial position to take steps to get rid of it.

The kids are miserable here too. It's a joy to leave and we dread having to go back to it.
The day we leave permanently, we will cry with relief.
It's got bags of potential, I had millions of plans for it, but now, I resent every single penny I have to spend on the bloody place.

Still, I'll move. Eventually.

stressedtiredbuthappy · 17/07/2018 18:56

I like my little house very much.
My neighbours are fantastic, literally everyone on the street is lovely.
But it's too small for my needs now , I've no garden and the schools aren't that good.
So will be off next year!

wellBeehivedWoman · 17/07/2018 18:59

I love my house. It's on a street of what were new builds 6 years ago but it's been done very well - nice wide streets with lovely landscaping, detached houses, reasonably sized gardens. The house itself is really airy and bright and the rooms are a good size. It won't be our forever home but it's perfect for us now and I love it so much.

HellenaHandbasket · 17/07/2018 19:05

Love love love. It is too small for us long term and needs work,but it has felt like ours from the first time I saw it from the road. Location is perfect,loads of outdoor space and scope to extend when we can afford it, lovely and light and bright. Nice neighbours on one side and nothing but fields elsewhere.

PivotPivotPIVOTTT · 17/07/2018 19:47

I'm only renting but I hate the house I'm in.
Viewed one yesterday which was perfect for me. Really really loved it, it was ideal lots of space, ticked all my boxes. I was going to phone today and accept it when I got a phone call to say it's been taken. 2 months it's been sitting empty with no interest. I'm gutted can't stop thinking about it. I'm never in my life going to be in a position to buy, will be renting forever feeling very sorry for myself tonight. Hate the house I'm in even more now :(.

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore · 17/07/2018 20:52

Love and hate. It's a big family house with a big garden and we moved in at a time when we would have had the money to do it up... had I not had an unplanned pregnancy. Now, the sheer size of it sometimes overwhelms me and I hate it. But then we find a few hundred or even thousand pounds somewhere and make a little bit of progress and I love it for a little while. One day I hope I'll just love it!

ilovetomatoes · 17/07/2018 21:34

Absolutely despise it. Live next to wankers which make me miserable 7 days a week. Will be selling in the autumn.

Semster · 17/07/2018 21:56

Much as I hate to be all Kirsty and Phil... it's all about location.

My house is fine - big enough, nothing broken, layout could be better but it works. But the location is absolutely perfect for my family right now.

Once my kids finish school I'll buy a house by a lake. Ideally the house will be big enough, not falling down, won't smell bad or anything.

plominoagain · 17/07/2018 21:57

I love my house now . I have hated it in the past , mainly when we discovered how much was wrong with it , and I still begrudge the fact that we have had to spent upwards of 50k making the basics like safe plumbing , safe electrics and functional double glazing when the house was only two years old when we bought it , but now the kitchen’s done , and I have the horses outside and there’s only the bathrooms to do before we’ve finished , I love it . Im never leaving .

YoThePussy · 17/07/2018 22:06

Moved to my house after a very unhappy time in my life. Went to view another place and the agent couldn’t find the keys so took me to this one whilst they hunted. Walked in and knew I wanted it. Thought about it for six weeks, went back and it was like coming home.

Nearly a year on and love it to bits. As a PP has said, I walk up the road to it and can’t believe it is mine. I feel it is sitting in the sun smiling at me and welcoming me back each time.

brizzledrizzle · 17/07/2018 22:09

I don't especially like it; it's too small and too cramped and there isn't enough storage. We had to downsize when we moved here, it's still home though.

Nolagerformethanks · 17/07/2018 22:19

I absolutely love ours, it's only a rental but lovely neighbours, semi detached, our own driveway, lovely garden and views. I wish we could afford to buy it I feel very lucky to be able to live here Smile I really feel for everyone unhappy with theirs Flowers

Stinkbomb · 17/07/2018 22:30

I love a lot about my house, but had to 'down-size' when STBX left me so I would prefer bigger rooms, although the number of rooms and size of our contained garden are fine.

dudsville · 17/07/2018 22:32

Love it. Or Has the thread moved on since pg 1?

Jozxyqk · 17/07/2018 22:51

Hate it. Been here several years. Black mould, absolutely zero inbuilt storage, landlord is terrible (takes them months, even years to sort things - our gas fire was condemned for 4 years before it got replaced), holes in the carpets. No thermostat. They always buy the cheapest appliances possible, which inevitably break, or don't work well to start with. Carpets in the front hall & bathroom - why!? Plug sockets broken before we moved in, rendering them unsafe to use. Downstairs toilet directly off the tiny kitchen - if the toilet wasn't there, & the plumbing was used for white goods instead, it could be a fantastic kitchen diner, but instead it's completely impractical. But as long as they keep getting the rent, they don't give a rat's ass. Letting agent are useless. We can't wait to move out, to a different rental. Can't due to benefits trap. No social housing locally. Stuck. Sad Saving every penny so if we are ever able to improve our situation, we'll be able to pay 6 months up front, or have as much as possible towards a deposit to buy. So hard.

MummaSW6 · 07/12/2018 11:28

If you don't love your houses have you thought about a renovation or extension.
When I bought mine I wasn't in love but it was in the correct area and in budget. We saved up for 2-3 years and I hated the house for that period Angry then we finally had our extension and bathroom renovation and I frickinnnnn love it !

Alfie190 · 07/12/2018 11:38

I have loved all the houses (and the flats) I have lived in other than my childhood houses, which I hated. Also I maybe just like my current house, I love some things about it, but it is a period cottage and I sometimes wish it was more modern, in terms of rooms being regular shaped, it is all nooks and crannies, sloping ceilings etc. I would just like square / rectangular.