To think DH might get fired?!

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NC for this.

Essentially DH fell asleep ah hour ago after being violently ill all night and morning; I've been sick as well so I think it's a bug. He was off one day last month but hasn't had time off before that for about three months. He asked if I'd call in for him so I did and the conversation went like this:

Him: 'Good morning X speaking how can I help?'
Me: 'Hi there, I'm calling to let you know that X'
Him: 'Sorry, who?'
Me:' Sorry, my line isn't too clear, I was calling to let you know X won't be able to come in this morning. He's been up all night being-'
Him: 'I don't want to hear it thanks, bye'

And then hung up. He didn't even let me explain why and sounded really mad. DH just had his days off for the week so I'm worried they'll think he's playing at it. Am I over thinking it or does this not look good?

*CalF123

Someone else phoning in on behalf of an employee would result in instant dismissal at the office I manage.*

Oh now there’s a surprise.

Shouldn’t you be patrolling the office and monitoring the length of pee breaks?

So what happened, OP. Did he get up and call his boss himself?

Really detest employers who think no one should ever, ever be sick.

In 12 months I had 8.5 weeks sickness but one occasion, unavoidable but annoying to have so much time off
This year I've had 4 days for laryngitis - no voice means I can't do my job!

20 days in a rolling year, i.e. 4 weeks off in a year? 😲

Calf, I am seeing your you office staffed by playmobil people with a my little pony on reception and Malibou Barbie as the office manager.

Toy, not you

Awwww Calf is back!!! And she would sack a person who rang in sick on behalf of an employee!! Quite right too.

Now personally I'd like to see Calf and UserV go head to head on this one, or maybe the thread that talks about vaping, dog walking and breast feeding all being disgusting when done in public!!

CalF you don't manage an office, dear. Go back outside and play before tea.

Someone else phoning in on behalf of an employee would result in instant dismissal at the office I manage.
Daring to breathe in the office call centre you manage would be an instant dismissal CalF

It must be a nightmare at Calf's place - if you breathe out at the wrong time its pretty much instant dismissal..

In my workplace I have to call the head teacher before a certain time, which by the way is an hour before my directed hours actually start, and then call again the same day before a speficic time in the late afternoon to let them know if I will be in the following day.The calls must be made by me and not texts or emails.

Also, three absences in a 12 month period will trigger disciplinary procedure.

Gosh, I wish some of my colleagues would understand how my mental faculties are drained by migraine!

If I get on with things in a quiet way I'm not too bad, but if anyone starts asking me to take part in conversation, that's it!

I told a guy (now mercifully junior to me) that I was 'just completing a list of urgent things before going home at lunch time', and he pranced up saying 'ooh, I have something urgent for you to do!' Pointed out that they were MY urgent things to do, and he could sort his own out, because my head was splitting.

Calf, I am seeing your you office staffed by playmobil people with a my little pony on reception and Malibou Barbie as the office manager. 😂😂

Calf's punishment list:
daring to breathe- instant dismissal.
Blinking without permission - severely reduced pay.
Having the audacity to take a poop on company time - jump to your death off the 10th floor.

The manager sounds like a dick.

I wouldn’t wake up OH if he was sick and been up all night, although I wouldn’t have called his work though, he could do it when he gets up.

Tell him to find another job, and I would complain about the manager too! No need to be rude to you but could have simply said sorry, Oh needs to call in.

I believe that some companys have lie detection software (of sorts) on their absence telephone lines

They do?

I worked for a company that ran these absence telephone lines for a lot of large companies and I haven't heard of it.

Semster the only references I can find to it are from 2007/8 unfortunately that seems relatively recent to me :) Maybe it never caught on or was banned? It was developed of the back of software used to weed out fraudulent benefit claimants.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1019685/Workers-face-lie-detector-test-phone-tell-boss-pulling-sickie.html

I'm curious about all the people who think it's outrageous you need to call in yourself, this is fairly normal policy for most employers. I wonder what kind of jobs they have had or companies they worked for where others can call in on their behalf. It's really not the norm.

And yes, in average terms he's unfortunately quite a sickly person really.

On the other side, he's got d&v. He can call in. Seriously we have all had it. It's a common courtesy at the least, and an expected requirement for most companies. He doesn't need to go in, but he needs to be a big boy and not get his wife to do it for him.

I'd have to be very ill indeed, as in hospitalised, before I got my husband to do it, like most people. A bout of d&v wouldn't stop me contacting my boss.

I'd also assume an employee who can't even call himself on a bank holiday weekend, but get his missus to do it for him saying he's got d&v is likely just a lazy bastard who doesn't want to work.

Unless you are in hospital, he needs to ring in himself. Surely that’s common sense?

Our absence procedure requires us to call our manager ourselves, and that we must speak to them in person (ie not leave a voicemail). It also specifies that if we can't speak to our manager, we to speak to "another manager".

Thus, I found myself in hospital, ramming coins into a payphone (my battery was flat) while the receptionist tried to find a manager somewhere in the building to take my call. I eventually reported my absence to the director of finance, who had no idea who I was or who my manager was, and was decidedly bemused by the whole thing.

Our absence procedure is triggered when anyone has more than 3 absences OR more than 10 days in a rolling 12 months. Possibly the only upside of having a long-term health condition that is a declared disability any absence arising from it is disregarded under the absence procedure.

No matter what I've got, I always ring in and say my absence is because of my spinal problems.

Regardless of whether the OP's husband should have phoned in himself, it was wrong and unprofessional of the manager to be rude to the OP. The situation isn't her fault. If the manager wanted him to call in personally, he should have politely asked the OP to get him to do so.

"it was wrong and unprofessional of the manager to be rude to the OP. "

Yes-he could just have told the Op that her husband needed to call himself.

How do people with kids cope? I’ve had seven separate nasty viruses since the autumn - violent vomiting bugs, chest infections, sinus infections - that we all seem to get every time I take the twins anywhere. They don’t even go to nursery. I had ten days where I had such violent vertigo I couldn’t stand up without falling back down thanks to the sinus infection. Oh, and my son scratched my retina so badly and the treatment / recovery period was horrendous. Three instances of illness in four months sounds lovely!

I remember my old boss giving DH shit the one time he called in for me - I was in an ambulance at the time, then up to my eyeballs on morphine and had emergency surgery less than two hours later. She was a dick though. That’s the only time he ever called in for me.

Needs to phone in himself. It looks really bad to have someone do it for you, unless you're completely incapacitated. He isn't.

I've rung in sick from A&E resus whilst breathing at 40/minute, and only able to speak one word at a time. On the plus side, it made it very obvious I wasn't swinging the lead!

Someone else phoning in on behalf of an employee would result in instant dismissal at the office I manage.

Which in turn would result in an instant and very profitable trip to the tribunal for every employee with employment security.

Who is this calf character?