To think DH might get fired?!

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NC for this.

Essentially DH fell asleep ah hour ago after being violently ill all night and morning; I've been sick as well so I think it's a bug. He was off one day last month but hasn't had time off before that for about three months. He asked if I'd call in for him so I did and the conversation went like this:

Him: 'Good morning X speaking how can I help?'
Me: 'Hi there, I'm calling to let you know that X'
Him: 'Sorry, who?'
Me:' Sorry, my line isn't too clear, I was calling to let you know X won't be able to come in this morning. He's been up all night being-'
Him: 'I don't want to hear it thanks, bye'

And then hung up. He didn't even let me explain why and sounded really mad. DH just had his days off for the week so I'm worried they'll think he's playing at it. Am I over thinking it or does this not look good?

Calling in sick a) on days either side of your off-days (or weekend) and b) adjacent to the bank holiday rings alarms on Bradford scores, doesn’t it?

I think he needs to ring in himself as soon as he can and talk it through with them; he can go back to bed after that.

It really is a silly rule that you have to ring in yourself. Surely as long as they are informed then there is no problem.

Is it to put you off skiving ? Yes we are adults but surely if you are ill you are ill. I remember having the flu so bad oh had to ring in. My new place we just leave a message.
I don’t think he has had much time off.

I wish this country would get over their sickness rules. So many posts on here every so often with employers being ridiculous.
Yes if someone takes the mick but this doesn’t sound the case.

People get ill which is why we have a over run NHS!

Him: 'I don't want to hear it thanks, bye'

^Sounds like he is fed up of your husband and doesn’t believe you

Doesn't sound good, OP. Boss thinks your DH is hungover or playing golf.

Bradford scores

Bloody hell its like Victorian Britain.

You would think the world would move on with support not scaremongering.
Patterns would be obvious to see without a stupid score.

What is/are Bradford scores?
He probably is sick of it; DH doesn't drink but I don't think they know that (why would they?) but I know it doesn't look good

It is pretty silly to ask you to call in for him.

Wake him up and tell him to call in op.

Are you sure you called the right number?

Did you definitely hear the name if it was a bad line?

The boss didn't know who your dh was and then wouldn't listen. That's pretty much what I'd say to a wrong number at 6am.

Third absence in three months surely would have sparked some absence policy regardless of who ohoned in? Thats a huge amount of time off.

No he did know who I meant 1000%; for context we live very rurally and it's a local job. He asked if he falls asleep would I do it and I said yes at about 4:30am.

*Him: 'I don't want to hear it thanks, bye'

^Sounds like he has had a lot of time off and the boss is fed up of your H.
There's no way you should have called in unless your DH was in hospital. Getting someone to call in for you is frowned upon.

The person you spoke to is incredibly rude!
Whatever their issues they should be polite to you on the phone.

If you're genuinely sick then you can't help it, but yes three times in four months doesn't look brilliant...however don't employees get a certain amount of sick days allocated, like holidays? If so I don't think they can legally sack him until he's taken the piss and gone over the allocated days.

Apart from phoning in himself, you both need to work out why your husband is sick so often. It can be something as simple as not washing your hands before eating and preparing food, especially if you have children and animals who pass on bugs like no tomorrow.

Why is someone else calling in for you so frowned upon? If you’re taking the piss then you’re taking the piss, how does who made the call make any difference to the outcome?

A huge amount of time off?!? I had a bad migraine about 6 weeks ago then sprained my ankle so was off another day. If I’m off again in the next couple of months it’ll probably trigger an interview which will be a five minute formality because those procedures are in place to address serious issues or pisstaking, neither of which apply to me. Luckily my employer takes a sensible, no -hysterical approach and recognises that people don’t always get ill at conveniently spaced intervals.

It's not right or fair but in my experience unless someone is unconscious or en route to hospital then they should call in themselves.

My son has just had this violent sick bug and when he was not vomiting, he was sleeping an exhausted sleep.

Try phoning a little later in the day to reassure the manager that your husband will be in (tomorrow). Your husband could phone in.

Whoever answered the phone last time was very rude. However, if several people had phoned in sick and work was severely disrupted, i can understand why he might be feeling stressed.

Can I ask why you called in so early? Is it because he had to start early? I only ask as if someone from my team called me at 6am I'd be most unimpressed as they would have woken me up - perhaps that is why you got that reaction?

If it is a 9 o'clock start (and therefore phone in before 9) I would not expect my team members to call me before 7.30/8 as their need to call in sick does not necessarily trump being considerate (ESPECIALLY if it someone else phoning in on their behalf).

What time was he due to start work, its quite early to ring in, it also sounds like he had a lot of sick days before if you think not having a sick day for 3 months is a long time

How long has he worked there?

Why is someone else calling in for you so frowned upon? If you’re taking the piss then you’re taking the piss, how does who made the call make any difference to the outcome?

True, it doesn't change the outcome but my understanding is they want to hear the employees voice, I.e. It's easier to pissyake if you fob off the most difficult task of giving the bad news directly to your boss.

Honestly some people on here are just as bad as the employers at work for making you feel bad.
If he is sick, he is sick! Throwing up violently all night WOULD make it a nit difficult to pick up the phone ffs. Whatbis wrong with some people! The person on the phone was very rude!

Its unfortunate he's had 3 episodes so close together, but its not rare or impossible and it's certainly not his fault.

Today's employment is obssessed with telling people off for being unwell.

What's the rest of his sickness record like OP?

Get him to ring in when he has slept off the illness and is able to stop being sick.

Sorry typos!