To be upset with my best friend

[Bollockstoyou]

So I have know this girl for 30 years, we've been through so much together relationships, divorce, marriage bereavement. Loads of good times over the years, there has been a few times were I've paid for things like when I got married I got married abroad and my mum had just died so I wanted her there she couldn't afford it so I saved and paid for her and it was worth every penny just to have her there. A few years ago I had a house warming party I paid for her and her husband to stay in a local hotel so they could come as she said couldn't afford it. She came and started to show off her tattoo she just got earlier that week, I was a miffed to be honest but let it go, there's been a few small things like that that has happened.

Anyway fast forward a few years her and her husband moved to France, unfortunately she moved the same day as my dad died which isn't her fault but I always associate losing them both on the same day. She wasn't really there for me through all that as she was too busy with her own stuff, new life in France etc. I felt let down but got over it. I'm getting married in August this year, she did say to me she would still be there as it's only a short flight away. I sent the invite but she said they will be working all over summer, can't afford it and hates flying etc, I was disappointed but I still kept the friendship going, she then couldn't make the hen weekend as couldn't afford it, fair enough I wasn't going to offer to pay again. Anyway yesterday she posted on Facebook that she's flying over to the uk in September to go to a dance event thing, she's got her ticket, booked hotel and meeting various people. . I'm so upset, I don't want to say anything really as don't want a fight but I think this friendship is done. Would you be upset?

Can I just say and it's only my opinion but why do 2nd weddings not count?! My 1st wedding was small and abroad no family, my hen night was rubbish and my marriage was rubbish, so this time does count, it's not big but it's not understated and a good opportunity to get friends and family together!

As far as my friend is concerned no it's not a demand it's an invite she declined, I didn't fall out with her about it, but it's about priorities and a dance event took priority, yep her choice but I felt upset about it particularly as I went abroad for her 1st wedding and was bridesmaid for her 2nd. Anyway I've listened to the majority and I'm stepping back and moving on. I don't want a huge row, I will explain if she asks me but for now she's out!!!! Thanks everyone

Oh and yeh I do want to watch my friend or whoever it is make their vows for a second time, particularly when I've watched them go through a painful divorce have a few crap relationships and then finally find happiness again and watch them bloom, I don't care if it's 1st time or whatever, maybe I'm too soppy but I simply care about my friends and family. Anyway thanks for listening lol

You've been a good friend to her Boll, and she's taken advantage and disrespected you online. You are right to step away. If she wants you as a friend she can make all the running and put herself out for a change.