AIBU to be pissed off with my boyfriend?

[PeedOffGirlfriend]

I was meant to be staying at my boyfriends this evening, but when I went to drop my son off at my sisters house we had an argument and she refused to look after him. Cue me having to ring my boyfriend to explain how upset I was, that I had packed an overnight bag, didn't want to drive home, was really looking forward to seeing him etc.

He just said that 'he was looking forward to seeing me, and he's annoyed he can't, but there's nothing he can do'. I am pissed off because I feel as though he should have offered for both my self and my son to come over to his (we have spoken about this in the past and he also lives a lot nearer to my sister than I do) or offered to come to me. He did neither, just kept saying 'there was nothing he could do.'

I know that if he couldn't come to me, and I knew he was upset, I would offer travel to him (obviously if I found childcare or could bring my son). It's the fact he didn't even offer an alternative arrangement that pissed me off. And I know people are going to say, 'why didn't you suggest it to him that he comes to you', but the fact is I feel as though I shouldn't have to.

AIBU?

Honestly yes, i think you are being unreasonable.
It was supposed to be a child free night, at his place, just the 2 of you.

For whatever reason, he doesn't want your child in his house. Its probably nothing to do with how he feels about your child, he just doesn't want one staying in his home. I don't like or want children in my house either, i wouldn't have offered for you to bring him in his position.

It's not his fault you argued with your sister, he may be annoyed at you that you've spoiled the night. He may well also be comfy and not want to drive/travel, if he's tired, or had plans like dinner, movie etc set up.

I'm sure hes not a mind reader, you feel you shouldn't have to ask to come to his house or for him to come to yours but just offer, what if he feels the same? It was on your end the plans fell through so you should be the one suggesting an alternative tbh.

First off your boyfriend doesn't sound terribly invested. If he's not interested in being a parent then you need to find out now. I was a lone parent and I would never have dated anyone who wasn't interested in us as a package deal.

Your sister sounds like a dick for not having your son. I'd never want to do that to my niece.

I think you need to slow your roll with this guy. Find out what he actually wants from your relationship.

You are being very childish. He's not a mind reader.

But your son didn't come first. His plans to stay over were upset and rather than reassure him it was fine and you would do x, y and z together instead your first throughly was to take him along to a strange house so you could put your needs for your man first.

Your BF seems to have much more common sense and said no to the idea.

Got to agree with the other posters, sounds like your poor son comes second to your need for male attention.

Stop playing mind games and just propose a solution to your boyfriend, and if ghee doesn't like that solution, respect his decision.