Blood on husbands trousers

[Melissa74]

Hello .. thoughts please
My husband went out on a colleagues leaving do last night . He came home around 12 . This morning whilst doing laundry I noticed the jeans he wore out last night had quite a bit of blood in the seat area . I haven’t asked him about it

Wouldn’t have an issue if he was having an affair ( with a woman ) after all we have not slept together for 18 months so couldn’t / wouldn’t blame him

OP, you sound so despondent. So you're going to hang on for another 2 years? Presumably son is 16 and will go to uni at 18?

Yes he’s 16 , hopefully will stay on to do A levels then off to Uni . He doesn’t get on with his Dad

@jmgr glad u showed him a good time , he’s not had that from me in a while

Jmgr get a life you sad bastard

Jmgr

Disgusting

Oysterbabe Piles

piles would unlikely cause blood on the trousers.

sure he didnt sit on ketchup? had a kebab or burger?

I take it you would know if he had crohns or colitis? That can cause a significant amount of blood loss. However it's unlikely you would feel well enough to go out on the lash if you were having a flare and losing blood tbh.

@slatybartfast no definitely blood ... and it was on the inside mostly & leaked through to outside a bit

Def doesn’t have Chrons etc @candlelight123
He’s a workaholic , drinks a fair bit & has tons of energy

I presume he would have been wearing boxers/pants? Do you think these have been thrown away and he didn’t realise there was also blood on the jeans?

Do you reckon you can last another 2 years? And what if things change in the interim e.g your son not wanting to go to uni; he could want to get a job and save up or do an apprenticeship or anything else. I understand that these are critical times 16-18yr olds often have to make serious life-direction decisions but you say that he's long suspected that separation is on the cards.

Even if you don't necessarily plan to leave next week, do you have any sort of rough idea of how a separation might take shape? The steps you can take to prepare yourself?

@bernardswatch hadn’t thought of that ! Didn’t find / wash his boxers so he either didn’t wear any or ....

Hmm no underwear. 🧐 Are you going to talk to him OP?

@vladamirPoutine Have a very vague plan of action . Think I can hang on 2 years as I’m kinda used to the situation ( he worked away a lot during most of our marraige ) so am very used to my own company & attending school things on my own for eg .
Fortneately my son & I have a very good relationship & he knows what it’s like for me to be married to someone who is almost emotionless as he’s sadly had the same lack of interest / emotional connection with his Dad

@littledinasaurs Not unusual for him not to wear boxers out .. he tends to wear them to work but not home or socially .

@littledonsaur no don’t think I am ... gonna bury it with all the other crap we need to discuss but ignore .If he has piles etc I’m not his mother or Dr ,he’s a big boy & knows he would need to see someone . If it’s anything else I guess a we are not sleeping together so ,is none of my business ??

do you think it sex, either with a man or a woman?

Melissa, it sounds such a sad situation. Your ds is 16, he knows your relationship isn't good, he's already actively told you he would be happy to live with you and not his dad. I really think you should investigate leaving sooner than two years from now.

If bringing this trouser issue brings that date forward, then so be it.

Just wanted to add I feel so sad for you OP reading this. I hope you're able to take steps and move on with your life and have some happiness back.