To not want her to go?

[yoshismother]

My 5 year old has been invited on a school trip in the last week of term to a zoo over an hour away. Am I being unreasonable not to want her to go this far to a crowded place (in schools week?

I'd rather she stayed behind and maybe did some transition stuff for year 1.

Yes, yabu.

Poor kid, let her go. There'll be plenty of helpers.

I am not really seeing the problem I am sure she will have a great time!

YABVU , it’s hardly that far if it’s an hour away , does she want to go .

I would let my child go. Any chance you could go as a parent helper?

Why don't you want her to go? What are your fears?

What are you worried about in particular?

Schools can't do anything without risk assessments etc. They will have staff and helpers there to ensure safety.

If she's in reception the trip will help support her learning, specifically the area of learning called Understanding the World. It will also help support other areas and help widen her experiences. YABVU.

YABU the trip will be centred around their topic for this term. The whole school will have a moving up day, where they visit their new class and teacher for the day, and after half term everything will be geared to getting the reception children ready to move up to the main part of the school.

YABU. It's a school trip to the zoo. She's 5 years old. Imagine the upset and disappointment about not going with her classmates to the zoo.

Transition stuff for Year 1 pfft.

Trips are as important for development as other parts of school life.

I do get that they're scary sometimes for parents (I was always in edge when I knew that my dcs were on trips in infants), but it's part of parenting.

You start with day trips, then let them go in residential trips in Juniors. By secondary, they're traveling abroad...

Would volunteering to help out work?

If she doesn’t go, it’ll be colouring in year 1 I imagine not transistion stuff.

She will feel very left out if she is the only one not going.
Transition work for year 1 hardly compares to a zoo trip at 5 years old.
As she gets older she'll do more school trips, club activities, camps, residentials etc. It's time for you to start to get used to that idea and acknowledge she's no longer a baby.

OMG that's hard work for the school but they'll have done it (or similar) before be very well organised and risk assessed to the hilt. You can't let her be the only one the class not to go.

The military operation that is an infant school trip is something to behold (smile)

Oh for crying out loud! Don't let your issues get in the way of her having fun with her school friends!!

I once missed a school trip to a farm in reception as I was ill, the next day I returned to school was absolutely awful because everyone was talking about how much fun they had. I imagine if your daughter doesn't do, she will probably be upset when everyone else talks about how fun it was.

What transition to year 1 do you imagine needs doing?! Let her go to the zoo.

Let her go to the zoo with her friends!

Good grief, my 3 year old is going to the beach an hour away with nursery next week! It's the last week of term and she's 5, it's not like she's studying for exams. Don't let your own insecurities about it spoil a lovely fun trip.

Yes yabu and selfish

YABVU my reception daughter is going on a very similar trip. She will be fine and making her miss it because of your anxieties is unfair. Doesn't mean you wont worry on the day but imagine the fun she'll have. That worry will be with you all through her childhood it's part of parenting.

What are your reasons for not wanting her to go?

YABVU and ridiculous!

Let her go with her friends, you’re mean if you don’t!

I'm sorry but YABVU and a bit ridiculous.

In that age group it's something like 5 children to 1 adult, and that adult will be constantly with them, counting them, holding their hands as much as possible etc so there will be very little chance of a child getting lost. In the very unlikely event that a child does go missing, the zoo will have very strict and robust procedures in place to make sure they're found as quickly as possible. The whole trip will have been very carefully planned and risk assessed to within an inch of its life. The teachers and assistants in charge will be very experienced and will be prepared for every eventuality.
It would be a massive shame for your child to miss out on her 1st school trip (I'm guessing, given her age). It will be something she remembers forever and will form the basis for the learning back in class, which, if she doesn't go, she will really struggle to take part in. Please don't stop her from going.