To not want her to go?

[yoshismother]

My 5 year old has been invited on a school trip in the last week of term to a zoo over an hour away. Am I being unreasonable not to want her to go this far to a crowded place (in schools week?

I'd rather she stayed behind and maybe did some transition stuff for year 1.

Ive done the parent helper thing on trips before and Im waaaaaay more concerned with the two other kids in the trio than my own. Imagine losing someone elses kid on a trip?!

Volunteers at DDs school have to be DBS checked, and we don’t take our own DCs in our groups either.

Anxiety or not, please don’t ruin your daughters day with your fears

m.youtube.com/watch?v=Putw3by4-e8

She'll be absolutely fine, if it makes you feel better make sure she knows she needs to follow the designated adult at all times.

The second post by the OP compounded the bizarreness of her first. What does she want - a trained nanny for every child ? I have been a parent helper for school trips, thankless task that it is - you are constantly counting, constantly keeping your eyes out for every child that assigned to your care- I find her assertion that the parent helpers are only looking out for their own children offensive and ungrateful to put it mildly.

I can't believe you want her to do "Year 1 transition stuff"

What a waste of a day, poor child

Surely she'd get more benefit starting her UCAS forms or pulling together her CV? Just a thought

OP, please don't let the nastiness on this thread get to you.

I'm a teacher and I completely understand your fears. It's really hard to imagine someone else taking as much care of your child as you do. I can assure you though, it's more than our job is worth to not look after every child properly. I took 18 Year 1s on an overnighter once and my TA and I ended up awake all night sleeping in the corridor so we could make sure none of the children got lost in the night!

It might be a difficult day for you, but she will have a ball. You can buy clip on trackers for bags that you don't speak to a child through, but you can check on an app where they are. That might give you piece of mind and lots of parents use them now.

I have PTSD and suffer very badly from worrying about DS. His teacher is aware though (and thinks it's nuts as I'm a teacher myself so know how much care is taken ) but she's happy to reassure me if needs be. Can you make her teacher aware that you're anxious? They might assign a TA to update the school Twitter account or Class Dojo or whatever they use, so you can check in and make sure everything is OK.

I think it sounds perfectly safe and it would be very unfair to make her miss out. Imagine how it would feel for her watching all her friends go on an exciting trip without her! If the school has picked people, it means they want to use their reliable, tried and tested volunteers who they know they can count on.

All parent helpers here must be DBS checked. I actually find your attitude pretty insulting. Being anxious is one thing, turning up your nose at the people who are helping your children isn't on.

I feel very sorry for your daughter

YABU I'm a parent helper. I've been DBS checked.

I can assure you that not one of the helper adults I've been on trips on has lost sight of one of their charges for even a second. We spend our entire time checking and double checking that you have your 4/5/6 children (depending on age) and that they are safe. It isn't fun. We aren't there to teach but to facilitate the safety of the children in a new learning experience.

DC2 has been in my group the last two times and is probably the child I'm most lax with because they know my rules and how important it is to behave when I have other children to care for.

Please don't deprive your child of a fun learning day because of your issues.

Objecting to a trip on ethical/moral/religious grounds is fine.

Objecting because of a misplaced judgment of the abilities of helpers or in the belief that your child will actually do more than colouring in on a day they at left behind in school is OTT.

Oh thank goodness for
@ICantCopeAnymore

Bravo!! Hurrah!! 🕺🏼

Listen to ICant Yoshi - she’s talking sense!

I've just read that back and realised I put piece of mind, not peace! Sorry

Are you being sarcastic, Luisa?

There was an anxious parent before our last school trip. She spoke to the teacher and explained her worries (mainly her dc being lost) and it was agreed that the main class teacher would be the responsible adult for her dc.

Please speak to your dc teacher before saying she cant go. I am sure they can put your mind at ease a bit.